Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
The Christian abuser—twisting God’s word to justify abuse
What about “Love your enemies?”
silvermoon
Gasp! ROTLMAO!!!!!!!!
Great visual of foil wrapped bunnies flying into the sky- PULL!!!
Yes, Ox! Yes!
Hugs Back!
Ox Drover
Kim, REPEAT WHAT? LOL
one/joy_step_at_a_time
BEGONE OH YEA ANTI-CHRISTS OF THE CHOCOLATE BEARING SYLILAGUS FLORIDANUS!!!!
OUT, I SAY! OUT!!
p.s. one step makes divine truffles. dark chocolate coffee cardamon truffles rolled in white chocolate and and drizzled with milk chocolate….shaped like eggs… or rabbit dung.
silvermoon
Cardamon truffles? Do tell more!
Ox Drover
One-step,
I see now! You are EVIL incarnate! and I am going to give you the “potted plant” treatment and not read your PS which is straight from your evil heart, just seeing the words would make me salivate! and probably run to wal marts and trap that candy laying rabbit and keep him in a cage at my house and poke him with sticks if he didn’t produce chocolate eggs and keep me supplied to the point I couldn’t even get through my door to head to wal mart again! See what a nefarious plot you have come up with! Making me suffer the hellish anguish of chocolate deprivation…oh, the sufferings I endure! (Sounds of weeping here and banking head on desk) ROTFLMAO 🙂
one/joy_step_at_a_time
oxy – glad i could be of service. 😉
one/joy_step_at_a_time
silvermoon – i used to cook professionally, and expereimenting with truffles was something I loved to do in my ‘down time’.
I knew someone a few years ago who said her favourite ‘spice’ was chocolate (she also called me ‘chocolate eyes’, which i still think is a stunning endearment). The above mentioned truffles were hand rolled for Easter for her.
When she ate them she said she was sure she was now pregnant with my baby. which was also endearing. too bad she was also nuttier than a fruit cake.
silvermoon
Wow.
So how would a neophite make cardamon truffles? That sounds divine!
Fruit cakes are generally bad news and should be avoided. Both kinds…..
If I had a nickel for each of the lies….. those dear sweet lies that aren’t so worth writing songs about after the turn…..
Somewhere on one of the articles here I saw the quote:
“I’m not upset that you lied to me, what upsets me is that I can’t believe you anymore”
Well, right on!
silvermoon
OX,
Forget he rabbit, hunt down the hen that lays those chocolate eggs with caramel inside.
I think the rabbit just drops jellybellies. Only 4 calories each…..You get to choose between a handful of em and an apple for 20 minutes on the treadmill……
Put that hen in a cage and I will hand you the stick to poke with!
LOL!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
silvermoon (WARNING TRUFFLE RECIPE – COVER YOUR EYES OXY!!!)
I bring espresso, crushed (green) cardamon and 35% cream to a light boil; turn off the cream flame, cover the pot and let steep until it tastes strongly of both – 1/2 hour +; strain and set aside.
melt 70 to 90% dark chocolate in a double boiler, then add it to the warm cream, slowly and whipping as you go. add unsalted butter, whipping as you go. this gives you the ‘ganache’
let the ganache cool in the fridge. takes from one hour up to get the consistancy right so that it will hold shape and yet is workable. it WILL melt in your hands.
hand roll this part is a bugger and the only way one gets good at is PRACTICE. if you make a big mess – re melt mixture on very low heat in the oven, re chill and try again.
then i roll them in melted white chocolate, allow to cool, and roll them in milk chocolate, making some patterns with fork tines, or roll in cocoa.
ratios: about 1 cup heavy cream (35%)
7 oz. dark chocolate
2 to 3 oz milk/ white chocolate
8 green cardamon pods
1/2 teaspoon espresso – adjust this up or down, depending on how much you like coffee
2 tablespoons grated butter @ room temp.