Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
The Christian abuser—twisting God’s word to justify abuse
What about “Love your enemies?”
silvermoon
Oh WOW!
THANK YOU !
Happy EASTER!!!
WOW!
Now that looks like FUN!!!!!!
ErinBrock
WHAT…..is this the BETTY CROCKER thread over here????
DANG…..I can feel my butt getting bigger!
silvermoon
EB,
I’ve been waiting to see you on all day-
Can we talk about going to the FEDS a bit?
I read your post and I;ve been thinking I ought to but its scary and I’m not sure that I have something they’d look and I’m not sure I don’t.
I think somebody already is looking at stuff that I don’t know about, but I might have fuel for the fire.
Before I walk that way, I wanted to talk with you about it
ErinBrock
Okay….shoot
one/joy_step_at_a_time
nope, not the betty crocker thread, but woman who run with the hares….
one/joy_step_at_a_time
….or rather, women who waddle with the hares….
silvermoon
For that recipe, I;d crawl after them if needed !
OK EB,
I think there is an investigation on going and I wonder who I should talk to. And what is the best way to do it.
I may know more about who this is than they do and I don’t know where to go, if I can go without revealing who I am and where I got the info and whether its pushing snowball uphill?
ErinBrock
I will just tell you my experience…..
They don’t like anonymous info….unless you call like secret witness type center….Local.
If you call with ‘certain’ info and won’t give your name or how you achieved this info….they view you as just wanting to be vindictive and sending them astray and they NEED hard evidence….(and won’t dig for it btw…)
They also WILL NEVER share any details with you…even minor with you….like telling you a story and you can ‘fill in the blanks’….they won’t even confirm that they are ‘looking ‘ into this dude.
If you do approach them, just do it calmly and not having watched “CSI’ the night before….YOUR not going to ‘solve’ thier case….their ego’s won’t let you.
You’ll have to do it as an upstanding, concerned citizen with possible information on a crime.
I’m not sure who you go to…..I don’t have enough info.
I would aproach the agency who you think is investigating him.
Probably what will happen, is…..they will ‘take down’ your info and say thank you if we need more info we will’call’ you….
IE….don’t call us, we’ll call you…..
ErinBrock
ALSO…..be aware….they ‘system’ doesn’t work like we think it does…..
silvermoon
Thanks. Wish I could say more here but can not.
Your suggestions do help even if they echo what I suspected to be true.
It has helped me decide what to do.