Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
The Christian abuser—twisting God’s word to justify abuse
What about “Love your enemies?”
hurtnomore010
one_step_at_a_time:
Well my dad’s x girlfriend told me to type the definition of a sociopath in google because she had an instinct that my dad was a sociopath. At first I thought it was her just saying things until I actually looked it up and ended up on this website. I read the signs and everything checked out. As it turns out my dad’s best friend had warned her about my dad. So she decided to help me out by advising me to check out the signs of a sociopath and stay far away from my dad.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
not sure where to put this and don’t feel like pulling up another thread about PTSD – so it goes here.
major coup.
l was diposing of my business assets in 2008 from closing my business in 2007 and so my taxes were do in June 2009. i tried to do them in january after i got whacked with mold at job #1. then tried again in may, when i got whacked with mold and enamel paint at job #2. again in june, but the spath was dying. again in sep when the spath fake died. again in december when I was reeling from the resurrection of the spath.
Well, I completed them, with a huge effort, just the other day. i was having so much trouble concentrating. but i did them and they have been mailed off.
yes, i may be fined. i don’t owe anything, but they were very late. but they are finally done.
and today, today i did the 2009 taxes and they are done.
can’t say how relieved i am and how proud i am – and buoyed by being able to complete this.
another run for one step!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
wow hurtnomore – good for her, and for your dad’s friend. i wonder why he is still his friend?
hurtnomore010
one_step_at_a_time: me too… He still tags along yet warns people. Sounds slithery to me. He’s of the same character. I don’t know. They say “birds of the feather flock together”. I think thats the saying.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
‘slithery’ is such a great descriptor. i will be using it in the future. 😉
well, then he is doing a public service. and i suspect trying to leverage that info for his own use in some way. these folks are all about what they can get.
hurtnomore010
yeah that’s exactly what my dad’s x girlfriend said. He’s probably using my dad to get women and borrow money.
kim frederick
YAY, Onestep. YOU DID IT. WHEW. PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK AND BREATHE. 🙂 🙂 🙂
one/joy_step_at_a_time
kim – it was so friggin hard…i have always done my own taxes, so that it was sooo hard scared the bejesus out of me.
but it’s done. 🙂
thanks!
sabrina
onestep- u r awesome! Doing taxes suck- almost as much as s-path dying once, dying twice,,, oops, back in the game..;(
one/joy_step_at_a_time
sabrina – LOL! if she would only DIE AND STAY DEAD!