Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
The Christian abuser—twisting God’s word to justify abuse
What about “Love your enemies?”
one/joy_step_at_a_time
funny – that he could actually see himself…..
sabrina
lol- do they even cast a reflection?????
hurtnomore010
Sabrina- Thank God you warned me! Lord. My dad tells them my business like there’s no tomorrow. Gosh I’m definitely taking all the advice I can get. But the said part is that he’s doing all thid harm the “Good of the Lord”! Can you imagine all of the non-believers being decieved by “godly” sociopaths? Lord have mercy on them. My dad pretends in church like he’s a saint and he’s a devout Christian. Come Sunday every ” secular” thing cease to exist. while Friday night club drawing in women. Saturday night drinking with Joe Smoe down the street. Sunday time to wear my Jesus suit. Ohhh he’s a false Christian because he opened his eyes while praying. Can u believe that accusation?
one/joy_step_at_a_time
hurtno – what your father is doing is a for of spiritual abuse. do not trust a word that comes from his mouth – especially about religion. never ever trust anything he says about religion, or love, or christianity.
they will use whatever they can – they search out and find THE very best ways to manipulate people.
and he and his friends – if you have to say anything at all – LIE.
you can do a lot to protect yourself. and you must do all you can – he doesn’t get to mess you up. YOU get to live free of him.
i can’t tell you how angry I am about his behaviour. you just remember it’s all his problem and has NOTHING to do with you.
sabrina
one-funny you should mention that, I couldnt really enjoy that vampire movie, is it moonlight??? reminded me too much of spath. WHY didnt that chick just get a flippin NORMAL dude?? WAS HE REALLY WORTH IT? GOOD GOD WOMAN, WE’RE TALKIN pain and suffering to the MAX…
one/joy_step_at_a_time
sabrina – naw! but they seemed to have evolved enough to go out in the sun
one/joy_step_at_a_time
ask kim about this – we talked about it the other day. template for dysfunctional teen relationships.
hurtnomore010
one_step_at_a_time: I hear you I’m absorbing your advice. When it comes to lying I’m horrible at it but I’m thinking of saying things like ” I don’t want to talk about it” or keeping it brief. But thanks for letting me know that uses scripture to justify what he’s doing. The sad part is that his mother and his new girlfriend believe him in everything. They both think something is wrong with me and that I’m just being a teengarer. His new girlfriend claims that he doesn’t know what he did wrong or what’s going on. I don’t talk to my dad and avoid interaction with him.
sabrina
hurt-this is why so many non believers are put off by the church and those of us who are true believers- see how satan works?? nice.. Infiltrate the flock with the evilest amongst us. WHO wants to sign up to be on THAT team???
THey Gotta understand- Being in a church DONT make you a Christian ,just like sittin in a chicken coop dosent make you a CHICKEN. ( kudos Oxy- hope I didnt butcher your saying)
sabrina
one-you funny!!! love ya girl..