Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
My post was meant for Erin….YOu go girl…I’m gonna
conomo-thanks very much. My goal is to change the perceptions where I live. The people are anti-police here, but a lot of things have happened to hurt that trust. Some of my friends from my old class have hit the street and their goals are the same as mine.
Erin….The police have to do their job too….I am so thankful for the support I”ve received from my local agency…they admit the law isnt perfect……they say I’m a “high riskk” victim….You above anyone will understand that and provide the context for future diallogue
conomo-absolutely! I definitely think that my experiences with these s’paths will help me with what I’m trying to do. I would like to work in the domestic violence unit. It’s dangerous, but I could serve a purpose there. I was able to accomplish something at my last job that I was proud of, because I am a trauma nurse going to be a cop.
I had a patient in the trauma ICU who was stabbed in the chest by her husband. We had police officer stationed outside our ICU but this lady was still afraid that he could get to her. There were officers at all the entrances to the hospital except where the door opened to the smoking area. I got an officer stationed there because I found out that people without badges were coming in and out of that door from the street.
WOW0W Erin.. I feel like a friken weinr wh4en i here . read aboout the things that so many people — I coould run on..I’m better in person…..bottom line? You telll me
I just re read my post.. And it made no sense. But I think you are the gal to make the unknown KNOWN!!!!!!!!!!
conomo-that’s ok
We posted over each other,,,,,Im on dial up here,,,fingeere heavy…kl
conomo-my computer is very slow!
I’ m way behind ….did you get the ride wanted???