Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
The sociopath I dated had Bible quotes in his signature on the forum I belong to. He also said in his profile that his favorite book is the Bible. Yet when I questioned him very openly and caringly about his beliefs, he always changed the subject. I was born Jewish and was raised with pretty much no spirituality. I started on my own personal spiritual path when I was in my 20’s The point of this is that I am not nor have ever been Christian, though I respect the wisdom of Christian teachings very much. I usually don’t automatically give someone my respect because they are alleged Christians. The last time I met “Christian” people, they had a bible on their coffee table and sang Christian songs on their guitar (I even joined them!). I was teaching them some massage techniques to use with each other in exchange for some nutritional products. I thought they were the nicest people I ever met. The next day, I got an email from the husband on a different email address asking me for sex. (Apparently, they are from some obscure sect of Christians who don’t follow the 10 Commandments.)
I know there are good people out there who are Christians–some are good friends of mine. But I don’t automatically assume all self proclaimed Christians are good. On the contrary, I’m a little suspect. I doubt Jesus went around advertising he was a Christian to try and impress people.
star – i think YOUR spath had bible quotes sewn into his underwear.
Oh boo.WE WILL SURVIVE………THAT IS WHY WE COME TO THIS SITE…tO SURVIVE
ha ha ha ha, one step! You’re on a roll.
After he stood me up (the discard) and I broke up with him, and after my friends exposed his cheating on the site, he changed his signature to read “Let he who has never sinned cast the first stone.” Poor little sociopath–he wanted everyone to feel sorry for him because he cheated on his wife and lied to me about it. He was even on “suicide watch” after the army found out about his fraud and adultery (thanks to me). The army people were afraid I wouldn’t give my statement for fear that he might kill himself. I used this as a golden opportunity to educate them about sociopaths and the pity play. I think they listened.
When it comes to the bible…..I like Luke….he’s the doctor
stargazer-good for you. I wish I could have humiliated mine in a really big way-because he wigs about his social status all the time. That’s why he discarded me in the first place. What a douchebag!
star – get like this late at night 😉
be great if it wasn’t always a pity play.
mine got caught this week – trying to dupe some folks online- and was outed.
i’ve been celebrating for hours now. i was really angry at first, but that has given way to a manic, ‘oh yah!’
onestep:that’s awesome. Why can’t mine be humiliated? Doctors suck btw-especially surgeons. I am convinced that mine when into surgery so he could cut into human flesh-legally!
erin72 – it’s entirely possible that he did.
you may life long enough for something nasty to happen to him. be patient.
erin72,
I see a police car, lights on, pulling a doctor, oops a surgeon, over for speeding….A woman police officer gets out of the police car and……