Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
The Christian abuser—twisting God’s word to justify abuse
What about “Love your enemies?”
Stargazer
Erin, unfortunately, I don’t believe it hurt or humiliated him the least. I don’t think he feels that deeply. It just foiled his plan and it got him out of my life. That’s all I cared about. My guess is he just shrugged and moved on to his next victim, perhaps on a different site.
One step, LOL, agreed! If only they are serious when they threaten suicide. My spath could never commit suicide. He’d miss out on too much sex. I don’t know if there are too many opportunities for sex in Hell.
erin1972
onestep-I will be patient. My best friend said the same thing. She said it will be best when he gets his reputation all back. I’m sure his bosses and buddies have already forgotten about what he did.
Stargazer
Oh wow, one step,
I missed the part about how your ex got justice. YAY!! That must feel great! A small victory in the fight against evil. I am toasting you with a virtual drink right now!
If you wait long enough, sociopaths always fall on their face. Because while they are crafty, most of them are pretty stupid.
erin1972
stargazer-I like whole sex in hell thing!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
witty – LOL!
erin72 – ya nevah know what’s coming done the road.
star – one little drop of irritation in her spathy quest to dismantle people. ALL RIGHT!!!!
erin1972
I can’t wait to lauigh my ass off when mine falls on his face!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
star – hmmmm how could sex be hellish for a spath – i am SURE there is a way.
oh wait, i know, there’s no mirror!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
erin72
it’s a bit weird – i feel like there should be a BIG party going on somewhere, and there isn’t
well, kinda, but it’s in my head.
erin1972
onestep-the party in your head is good enough-the rest of us can enjoy it too!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
thanks erin72.
hens is concerned. i know he really wants what is best – for me to move on, but i need my moments of this – this dis-empowers her in my head and just a tiny bit in her playground, ‘the web’. and THAT is a good thing.