Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
The Christian abuser—twisting God’s word to justify abuse
What about “Love your enemies?”
Stargazer
Well, at least in prison, sociopaths will get all the…er…action they crave. ha ha
erin1972
I wonder about the ex in that respect!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
star – the class sounds great!
Stargazer
Wit,
I once dreamed of being a millionaire. That didn’t work out so well. So I’ve set my sights a little lower, but still higher than what I have ever thought I’d have or deserve. I think I will be making some big changes in the next 6 months. It would be so much fun to teach you how to dance. I’ll bet you’d be rockin out in no time.
One step, why can’t I meet guys that are passionate about snakes? (from other thread). Oh yeah, I met a few and they turned out to be sociopaths…..
one/joy_step_at_a_time
star – lol!
thanks for the movie titles. the prophet sounds really familiar…can you give me a little plot/ year?
conomo
Noo ???? Bbooze???It”s been my savving graace…I would have been dead by now..not proud of that…but I can say it
Stargazer
Guys,
We spend so much time figuring out ways to hurt and humiliate the sociopath–how to give them a taste of their own medicine. It can be very freeing to realize that they cannot get a taste of their own medicine because they don’t have any depth of feeling. For me, once I realized that (and it happened pretty quickly in my education process), it freed my energy to heal and move on. I knew the only thing I could do was cut him out of my life and move on. It so happens that in order to cut him out, I had to turn him in. I actually threatened him with this and he called my bluff. In turning him in, justice just happened to get served. It all worked out. But if I’d never turned him in, I would have still cut him out of my life, cut out all of our mutual friends, and just moved on anyway. I would not be hearing about who he’s playing and defrauding. Out of sight, out of mind.
Stargazer
conomo,
For me, it’s chocolate. Secret: I actually don’t like the taste of alcohol and I rarely drink it. I’m such a lightweight that if I have a half glass of wine, I am plastered.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
star – right on!
witsend
Star,
I honestly wouldn’t want to be rich. I think it would be way to complicated to have alot of money. And I think money robbs you of appreciating things.
I would like to just have enough money to pay my bills and not stress about it from month to month. Lack of money creates alot of stress.