Editor’s note: Lovefraud honors all religious and spiritual beliefs. However, we’ve heard of many sociopaths who twist the teachings of the Bible in order to keep victims from escaping exploitation.
A reader sent the following letter in order to encourage those who are in this situation—knowing they are being abused, but being told that Scripture says they should put up with it. The reader has no affiliation with the organizations posting the material; she just thought the links were helpful.
For those individuals who are of the Christian faith (and / or of any faith) and who have, also unfortunately found themselves ”¨exposed to either sociopaths / the supporters-of-sociopaths ”¨(within their very own family or spiritual setting or, as is very ”¨often the case, both) the following links may be of some ”¨help in discovering and receiving Biblical “support” in ”¨being able to acknowledge the God-given FACT that ”¨”tolerating a sociopath’s abuse” is very simply ”¦
1) NOT part of a Christians’ “bearing one’s cross”;
2) NOT something that a Christian MUST simply ”¨”just forgive and forget” in order to have God ”¨also “forgive and forget” their own wrongs;
3) NOT merely a part of a Christians’ spiritual ”¨OBLIGATION to “turn their other cheek” (70 x 7)
4) NOT a part of “loving or ‘blessing’ one’s enemies”;
5) NOT something that in anyway “glorifies” or “honors” God, ”¨nor is it in anyway a type of “obedience” to the commandments ”¨left by God to all of mankind, nor does it follow along the ”¨lines of the “will” that God has planned for one’s life.
God has a GOOD will and plan for everyone’s life and God both can and will help people to escape, overcome, heal and even, somehow, also ”¨be able to learn from the abusive experiences that you have survived.
GOD HAS THE POWER AND THE WILL to, somehow or another, use ”¨these past experiences to “transform” a person (despite all the abuse) ”¨into becoming the very best person that they can become (to themselves”¨ and to others) and can actually somehow miraculously also use these ”¨experiences to work out all together for the GOOD within their own ”¨life (Romans 8:28; Jeremiah29:11; 3 John 1:2) and in the lives of others.
Should I offer forgiveness without repentance?
Should forgiveness be unconditional?
No forgiveness for the unrepentant
Selective Amnesia: “I have no idea what I did wrong!”
Forgiveness—does it matter if the abuser is a born-again Christian?
Wit,
Last time I heard, it’s totally fine to be sad here. In fact, that’s one of the things this place is for. Besides we can always count on one-step to provide the comic relief. 🙂 And BTW, thanks to you, too, one step, for throwing us a party!!!
I wanted to add that I don’t come to LF because I’m addicted to this site. As you know, I just drop in from time to time. I come here because I feel a genuine bond to the people here.
The reptile site is more of an addiction.
Star,
Always follow your heart. Working at a job that is driven by a passion, is something that I have actually done. I still do. But I just can’t make enough to survive. Especially in this economy. I haven’t had any health insurance for 13 years. I guess now I am thinking I need to find another passion or something that I am good at besides what I am doing now.
I just don’t know where to begin.
conomo,
Trust me…I understand. About grieving for your children.
But if you never give up the alcohol, things will never get better.
I am not accusing you of drinking now or judging that you drink at all. This is your business. And none of my business.
But alcohol never solves anything. And if you are unhappy to begin with it just brings you down more
“thanks for the movie titles. the prophet sounds really familiar”can you give me a little plot/ year?”
Sorry, one step, missed this post. The movie is from this year, and it is the story of a young guy who ends up in prison for 6 years and how it shapes his life. He learns to lean on an older Mafia gangster and forms this bizarre bond with him. It’s really an excellent film–there is one scene that’s tough to watch.
Goodnight ya’ll-I’m falling asleep at the computer and i’m typing backwards!
I’ll second that erin…Its 1;30 and I’m sleepy to.
Night all.
witty – i guess we start with asking where do i begin?
i’d be happy to make a living doing someting i didn’t like for awhile 😉
the contact that come up, that would involve a horror show of an ex employee, fell through. i am blessed! gawd, it made me so down to contemplate it. it was ALL about money. nothing else – nothing could counter how much i didn’t want to work with that woman. i got out of it with class and left a door open to work with the director in a different capacity if one came open.
goodnight erin!
goodnight to you too witty…..we three are in the same time zone.
i need to zzzz too.
good night star and conomo.
Good night, Erin! I am also fading and this will be my last post.
Wit, I’m envious of you that you love your job. Truly.
Conomo, I totally understand the need to medicate, though I look forward to hearing more from you when you’re sober, honey. You know, the wonderful people here may be able to help you. So I will send you a hug for now.
Good night, everyone,