According to new research, people who score highly on the Narcissistic Personality Inventory questionnaire had more friends on Facebook, tagged themselves more often and updated their newsfeeds more regularly.
Read Facebook’s ‘dark side’: study finds link to socially aggressive narcissism, on Guardian.co.uk.
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This article makes lot of sense. Spaths have no real friends in real life so they can reinvent themselves on social networking sites and be anyone they want to be.
Secondly spaths are big “attention whores” so it stands to reason they would constantly rearrange and update their facebook pages regularly.
I’m not saying this because I don’t have issues, God knows I have plenty of those. But I’ve never been on FB, nor have I ever gotten on the website to look up someone. Sad truth is, I would have 2 friends. Actually, no I wouldn’t because my two friends aren’t on FB either. Ah, nevermind.
Several years ago, before FB became popular, spath/daughter was on Myspace. They had the whole section for your profile. She listed she owned her own business, name of business included, and that she had an income of $50,000 to $60,000 per year. Ofcourse, this was a typical bit of spathy grandiose exhibitionism.
SOMEONE, who shall remain nameless, LOL – printed this information out and sent to the appropriate agencies at the Federal, State and City tax levels.
Sometime later there was a blog, right there on Myspace about how unfair, the City tax people were, how they would take your first born if they had a chance and how they were harassing poor little spath.
Oh, sweet revenge
Milo!
Lol I hope to follow your excellent example
Oh Milo……..LOVE IT!!!!!
Last night I was digging…….What I found was so FUNNY!
YEP, spath has found his soul mate……hahahahahahah…..the newbie is a long time cheater and gold digger. She CRUSHED her former husband, who btw I’m not sure the divorce is even final.
She’s not the innocent dupe……and that to me is so so funny.
It’ll be entertaining to sit back and watch this unravel on the net.
I see the game she’s playing with spath. She cloggs his FB with the I love yous and soul mate crap…..and doesn’t mention him on her page. She’s keeping the engagement low key……no change of status. She’s taking him off the market, but she’s not commiting publically.
If she’s getting alimony from her ex, spath may find she’s not is such a hurry to marry and lose it.
She’s high maintenence……..and she might just be okay with how spath earns his living…..as long as the rewards are hers.
She’s a buddist cheater……funny how that works.
She’s recently lost 80+ lbs…..and is really cute…..very spath appealing……but he will do the same as he did to me, and she can’t control it……he will feed /cook for her until she’s fat and he can complain about it, control her with food. That will justify his cheating and on and on……
Oh, there is so much to learn on FB.
***sorry…….this was just a great way to end the night!
DUPE THE DUPE GAME…….in full FB VISION!
EB ~ couldn’t happen to a nicer guy – NOT
Silently connecting to FB is better than watching reality TV – just as dysfunctional, but you know the “players”
Gray rock to spath-daughter – “one of these days I need to sit myself down and find out what that myface thingy is all about, I just don’t get these new fangled gadgets that you kids use.”………………………………….. “what is a tweety?”
I actually need to thank FB and Match.com If it weren’t for receiving the spaths bills and seeing his posts on FB I may still be married to this guy!
It was extremely devasting at the time but if I hadn’t seen his FB page with my own eyes and the photos and posts of his then girlfriend I may have kept buying his lies!! He used his REAL name on both FB and Match.com!! The BALLS he had were shocking! And even though he tried to lie his way out of each I guess he really thought I was an imbecile!!
It’s all kinda funny now. I know his game far too well! Since that time he has moved INTO the home of another woman while she apparently awaits her divorce to be final. (He still texts once in awhile and makes sure to sign it with Xs and Os ~ but I’m grey rocking him when I feel the need to respond.
She may be a better woman than the last but I don’t feel any need to alert her of his ways ~ I’m just glad he is being occupied!!!
Regarding Facebook, my observation is that more Narcissistic people have more Facebook “friends.” But so do more outgoing people. In addition, there is a strong correlation to age. While older people may view large numbers of Facebook friends with skepticism, for younger people this is the norm. They will not only more freely “friend” people but will also view these connections as more real.
I was a late-comer to Facebook as I found it invasive. Today, I find it even more so, but continue to use it. However, I am not quick to Facebook just anyone and most of my Facebook contacts are either family or real friends. I was in Europe last month and now regret not Facebook friending three people I had met on the trip, as doing so is still not automatic for me.
Facebook can be particularly difficult regarding those you have dated. For example, regarding one person I dated over two years ago, on his FB, the only pictures are from the time I knew him.
And the x-spath’s FB profile picture was taken the day we met…
This topic goes back to lesson #1 I learned……..use the ‘friend’ word wisely.
Spath groomed me to go along with My friend this my friend that……verbage.
When I cut EVERYONE out of my life, I had NO FRIENDS.
My choice.
Then I slowely let a few trusted/tried and true friends back in.
We tend to throw around the friend word so easily……you meet someone in a coffee shop and they are when conversing about them you refer to them as my friend XX.
REALLY…..FRIEND????
I’ve learned the meaning of aquantance and use it frequently.
I have lot’s of aquantences…….but, I have very few friends…….and I like it that way!
FB feeds this friends concept just by virtue of having FB friends. friends…..right?
Most don’t get the difference and we are shocked when our ‘friends’ betray us……
WELL DUH…..were they REALLY our friends to begin with……or just the dude from the coffee shop!
Someone you went to grade school with is NOT your friend……if you haven’t spoken in 35 years.
But somehow on FB……there is this unspoken-automatic loyalty, automatic trust given…..we have ‘history’ we share. We remember the old liquor store on the corner kinda things…..Taking bus 7 to the beach…..people BOND on that kinda stuff! It’s weird!
This is how the ex spath operates on FB. ALL people who will give him automatic loyalty…..and be his cheerleader on FB. It encourages and gives the newbies a false sensse of “he’s okay’ kinda guy (after all….if he was a bad guy, all these folks wouldn’t be his friends too!)……..and soon they become cheerleaders also.
The dynamics of FB and other social medias are set up for spaths…….Narcissists enjoy it most too!
They all promote the hearding sheep deal.