When sociopaths have problems in their lives, it’s never their own fault. Donna Andersen explains why this is one of the most important Red Flags of Lovefraud.
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skylar
Hens,
no, you misunderstood.
The guy who stood too close, got excited and called his ex-wife crazy, is not the spath. He has only shown a few red flags.
There is another acquaintance that has me more concerned.
MoonDancer
Oh, well I am still confused but that’s ok…sorry for buttin in…
Stargazer
Sky, where are you meeting all these spaths? I will make it a point not to hang out in those places. I have not met a spath in years – that I know of.
MoonDancer
Star I was wonderin the same thing, if they stand so close she can tell he is excited it must be a crowded room !
shane
Lol… Hens. Too funny! I adore your sense of humor!
Thanks OXY, for the additional words of wisdom and the validation. I actually am finding these recent spathish experiences useful, and great practice. In addition, they are keeping me in “check”. I sometimes wonder if there weren’t as many spaths coming about, would I forget what I have learned, or possibly begin to neglect using my new found skills when need be? I love this place. Thank you to all! XO, Shane
shane
Star, is it possible that you have perhaps crossed paths with/met spaths who of which you may not have been aware, were in fact spaths? If not, You are most fortunate. You as well, Hens. Maybe it is the city that I live in/work in. THEY HAVE BEEN COMING OUT THE WOODWORK, HERE !! All good, however. I have my spath radar on, at all times…instinctively, that is. I am no longer hyper vigilant, and I have recently been witness to the way they just kick in, when need be. It is fabulous, really! Making progress and loving it! XO
MoonDancer
shane, thanks for the thumbs up on my humor, I have no drama at the moment so I just try to spread some smile’s.
I am very good at spotting spaths, that’s why I am hermit in the woods..
shane
HAHAHA I love it! Jeeze, I can relate. I was a hermit in my home for far too long (9 months). Just recently getting back out, and into the swing of life as I once knew it, but with more awareness and self protection, of course. I no longer take sh** from anyone, and have no problem standing up. Boy has that been a surprise and a half, but so stoked for myself and my new-found approach. Anyway, you are welcome for the thumbs up. If I may say, and I do hope this doesn’t sound too funky, When I was very bad off and just reading, here, I would sometimes come to find your posts. They were funny and I got to get laughs in a very emotionally safe place. So “Thank you for being a part of my healing process,of sorts”. You have made a difference”. I love how you “try/DO spread smiles!! XOXO
skylar
Ladies and gents,
maybe it’s just that everyone is slightly disfunctional and I’m seeing through them from studying the subject so much.
The guy who stood too close, was standing outside next to my truck. Really, I think he’s normal, just slightly disfunctional; divorced; maybe doesn’t tell the truth all the time… Yes, I investigate people on line, that’s how I know if things aren’t adding up. I always have my radar up. If I hire him, he’ll be on my property IN THE WOODS, with me, alone. gotta keep the radar up.
The other one….
I gotta keep quiet about that one for now… you never know.
creepy.
Obviously we all know that people have shame issues, and are envious. But I never realized how much that drives certain peoples’ behavior. Some people are so driven by shame and envy that they do bizarre things. That’s what I’m noticing. Did you guys ever know anyone who likes to sneak up and scare you? All the time? And thinks it’s funny?
my spath-brother is that way. it’s a red flag.
All spaths like to see your face and reaction when you are surprised because you got the opposite of what you were expecting.
Being surprised is part of being shamed.
If a spath knows you are expecting him to do something, he won’t do it. That’s a little trick to put up your sleeve.
MoonDancer
Sky you need to take off that spathinator suit and have some fun..life’s to short to be so serious..if you look hard enough you can find bad in everybody…people’s true character always show’s it face..lighten up..