When sociopaths have problems in their lives, it’s never their own fault. Donna Andersen explains why this is one of the most important Red Flags of Lovefraud.
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Shalom
Hens:
At Last!!!! So glad to hear your good news!! Hugs! Shalom
Back_from_the_edge
(((Shalom))) Pray you are well and doing alright.
I am finally making my way out of the nightmare.
FINALLY! After almost 12 years of this garbage; hm?
They are evil people who roam the world looking for souls to devour.
To add new ‘takers’ to their venomous and putrid band of ‘minions’.
Happy to see and read you Shalom.
Take good care of yourself.
Love ~ Dupey
spoon
Dupey
Hey sweetheart….
Glad to hear. Just did a dance for you.
Time to dream a good dream.
XXOO
SPOOOOOOOOOOOON
Shalom
(((((Dupey)))))):
Haven’t been here for a while and am feeingl so inspired by all the positive posts. Dupey, I will be well! Much love. You’ve come a long way baby!!! Shalom
shane
D’smom,
I must say that I am exactly where you are. The same mindset, I take the same actions, and I know now, not only HOW to forever protect myself, but that I have no issues with doing so, as I am now living and experiencing it. So glad for these recent spath encounters, that have shown me I will indeed succeed on my new life-path. Very happy for you, as well!
Happy day, all~
Shane
skylar
Darwinsmom,
that same street encounter happened to me when I was 15. crossing the street a guy walked straight into me and spilled the drink I was carrying all over my clothes. I saw his face right before it happened. His eyes were riveted on me and intense, like a predator. Now I realize he wanted to see the look of shock on my face. They don’t like our self-confidence.
In the past, 2 spaths that I know, have watched me approach total strangers and strike up conversations. Afterwards, they both said, “I wish I could do that, like you do. I wish I could just approach people and talk to them.”
Neither of these spaths are shy, I would consider them gregarious, but they can’t approach strangers. Now I get it. They know that there is a chance that the strangers will see through them, recognize them as predators and run away. That never happens to me, people always respond nicely, because I’m not a predator. Not being a predator is what gives me my self-confidence and makes me appear shiny and happy. Being innocent is what gives people self-confidence.
Ox Drover
Shalom, SOOOO GLAD to see you back on the board! Wishing you all the best and my prayers (((hugs))))
Shalom
Ox Drover:
Thank you so much. Prayers and hugs are the best medicine. Shalom
darwinsmom
Sky,
Weird huh, how they even seem to do the exact same act on the street. He ended up being shocked though, because I was on to him. I knew he intended to bump into me before he did, even if I would have sidestepped. He didn’t manage to surprise me, and paid for it with bruises (I have very sharp and pointy elbows). That’s why he tried the drama act immediately afterwards. Drama with the attempt to blame and shame me without effect.
Yes, it’s our self confidence, derived from our innocence (that we have no ill intentions and don’t expect ill intententions) that makes them want to trip us, literally if they could. And I have the absolute same stance as you. I have no trepidations to strike a conversation with anyone, on the bus, the tram, a party, a bar.
Back_from_the_edge
((shalom)) & ((spoon)):
I am so happy to hear you guys sounding so well.
It has FINALLY gotten A LOT quieter in my life and world these days.
I went complete NC (finally) in APRIL but the stalking continued until
a couple weeks ago when I changed my (business) number and let me
tell you what! —–> It sure has gotten QUIET in my life lately.
I am busy tending to MY LIFE and not IT’s anymore.
There will be NO further intrusions or I WILL become “IT’S”
3rd strike and LOVE “THAT” every bit as much as “IT” loved duping me.
I suppose that is why “IT” would like to murder me….
I have “IT” figured out and can lock it in a little box where I think
it BELONGS. Give ME the key and I will take it to the middle of the
ocean and drop it in the very bottom. Oooops! lol
Resolution. That’s what it takes. Standing up for yourself and saying “NO” to the abuse and disregard. There is NO ‘working ANYTHING out’ with a spath/ppath. Save your breath and your precious time and just throw it in the garbage where it belongs and move forward. They always end up where they BELONG: trapped in their own drama and misery. I don’t live that way and am not going to anymore. Period.
Stay strong you guys.
Yes: I hear MULTITUDES of HEALING on this blog lately…
It’s amazing. I never thought I would be at this ‘healing spot’…
Still a ways to go but getting there. It’s difficult leaving a piece
of yourself and your heart behind but it’s necessary for survival.
THAT is a ‘red flag’ you MUST pay attention to…
lest you end up murdered and loving every moment in the process.
Of course, THAT would be OUR FAULT too: just ask them…
How ‘chilling’ to realize that the same person you trusted with your very life and the person who you shared your home and your bed with, has actually wished you dead all this time, while smiling in your face….
While dishing out the psychological and emotional abuse to manipulate getting what “IT” wanted. With no remorse nor conscious and if you step in “IT’s” way, it will threaten your life. THAT is the ugly ppath “I” have had stalking me the past ALMOST 12 years now.
I feel like a little girl the week before Christmas, lately…
especially since I changed my phone number! MY SPOT is MY SPOT.
Only MY thoughts loiter in MY SPOT; not “IT’s”. I have learned how to separate MY TIME and MY LIFE from THIS experience. “IT” does NOT, by any means DICTATE ‘who’ I am; what I think and feel and believe. My thoughts are MY thoughts. Not “IT’s”.
I have been ‘gently’ healing and absorbed in the peace.
It consumes my entire being these days.
I am so grateful to have found a light at the end of this dark, horrible
and ugly tunnel my life has been locked into all these years…
I AM A SUVIVOR & NOT a VICTIM any longer.
– so happy to see you!
*Blessings and hugs*
Dupey