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How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists
myheart: oh yes, I was ‘bagged’ in a way, as well, as soon as I gave in to the ‘attention’ and ‘lovebombing’ I was pushed off a cliff. What “IT” didn’t realize is I was getting ready to jump all by myself! lol
“IT” never wanted me to talk about our relationship with anyone. He wanted to continue doing mean, rotten, ugly things to me; threatening me; trying to take my life from me and really did expect me to ‘cower’ and hide in the corner…well, what “IT” didn’t count on was the fact that “I” am stronger than “IT is. I refuse to sit back and let someone abuse me, all built upon a facade, anyways, and me keep quiet. Especially when it’s someone who wants to take my life from me, someone who has threatened not only me but several others as well, including law enforcement and the authorities and really isn’t in ‘control’, in any way whatsoever.
People always ask me: “What did you do to him?”
ME?! I did nothing to him to warrant this other than rebuking “IT” and telling it I knew all about everything.
Suddenly, “I” became the “bulls eye”. Know what I mean?
It’s alright: it’s out there digging a path for ITSELF, and one of these days, it is going to end up exactly where it belongs. And, to me, that means, four walls in a tiny little cell with bars on the windows and a key to lock and unlock it. If “I” have the opportunity, that is exactly what I am going to do too. And, “IT” knows it. “IT” wanted to ‘silence’ me, but that isn’t working out too well for “IT” either since I have LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS OF BACK UP. The kind “IT” doesn’t like.
For as ‘big and bad’ as “IT” talks, my oh my, what a ‘little girl’.
Always hiding up someone else s skirt. And I do mean that literally. Instead of being a man and standing on his own two feet, he feeds on the internet and love bombs accordingly. That is exactly how “I” met him. And all of his EIGHT other ‘relationships’. A predator, in every sense of the word.
Oh yes, I had said on occasion once before, to “IT”, that perhaps a ‘reunion’, live, on national television, on one of the talk shows, might prove to be VERY ‘revealing’….
I am not shy to do such a thing either.
Paste his face on milk cartons. How’s that one?
I am just waiting, now, for the authorities to contact me, regarding another matter of his, and they will, sooner or later, and trust me: (caps used for emphasis:) IT WILL BE AN IMMENSE PLEASURE TO FINALLY PUT THIS PREDATOR EXACTLY WHERE I THINK IT BELONGS. Not shy AT ALL.
Had another ‘stalking’ by phone, again, this morning.
Tsk, tsk, tsk: I have more important things to do and think about other than his drivel.
Yes, they are ABSOLUTELY delusional.
Absolutely. They tell lies and CONVINCE THEMSELVES so they are more convincing to others. That’s part of their personality disorder. They can MAKE THEMSELVES hate you in order to get what they want from their next ‘band of minions’.
NC myheart: that includes searching…
All it does it hurt you more and “IT” deserves no more.
I am not sorry I gathered all the info I did, but it only somehow leaves you more shocked and forlorn than before.
Trust me.
Some things are better left UN LOOKED AT.
DUPEY
Dupey, glad to see you posting. Noticed you hadn’t posted yesterday and the day before that. How are you doing?
(((darwinsmom)))
Thanks for missing me.
I am doing alright.
Considering.
Another phone stalking this morning.
STAR: I can’t change my number just yet.
It’s a ‘business number’ that has been in existence for YEARS.
I AM going to change it though, anyways, soon.
Just have to wait a little longer.
I am feeling very EMPOWERED, darwinsmom; how about you?
Still somewhat in a ‘funk’, though, and I think it’s my medical condition that keeps me so ‘down’.
Every day seems a struggle anymore. I know I should be ‘grateful’ that I am still alive but I am so tired. So don’t feel well.
It will all ‘be’ whatever it is meant to be, in the end.
This ‘being’ will NOT get one more second of my attention.
The NEXT attention it will get from me will be me testifying in a court of law or providing information to the authorities.
Dupey
Hey dupey, I don’t know if this has been mentioned for you, but I just had the idea that acupuncture is something your body might respond to. Aside for helping with all kinds of medical conditions, it’s really good for stress. When you suffer from prolonged stress, the adrenals are working overtime and there is an excess of cortisol (stress hormone) in your body. This has a way of throwing all the other organ functions out of balance. Acupuncture can restore organ function and therefore restore balance in your body. This has a huge impact on how you feel and how well your body can heal from medical conditions. It’s also very relaxing. I’ve seen some internet deals for acupuncture for as low as $19.
Thanks Darwinsmom for such a eloborated information, it truly makes sense. Intution is a missing chip in their brain with many others chips.
And Dupey, yes don’t tell anybody, or what did you say to whom, is a real mantra.
My stand is if you are so worried about it, why the hell you do wrong things. But I guess IT is prisioner of its own deeds.
It even was complaining, why all the freinds left him, when he did nothing wrong ot them. I had to tell him you did wrong to two fo their very dear friend, one is me one was before me. And scoiety does punish you if a person does wrong doing to others….. But again understaning this is a missing chip as well.
I do feel sorry for these creatures, they are snakes, they are slithering somewhere uaround us and we all need to develop a goose bump to sense them on our arms.
I hope you are felling better.
Thanks Stargazer for the suggestion on acupuncture.
I had thought of it before but well, just haven’t got around to it and really can’t afford it. I hear you about ‘prolonged stress’ and it’s effects on the body. Oh yes, definitely an adrenalin overload. I am taking lexapro now and that melantonin is really doing the trick for me. THAT and NC. My heart condition is stable for the moment and I credit NC for that.
Sorry about your problem with the ‘vet’…
EE-GADS: sounds somewhat like my ppath…
It isn’t the same one; is it? hahahaha
Wouldn’t surprise me one single bit.
I will check it out-the acupuncture.
Thanks again for the suggestion.
Hope you are well and doing alright.
I am reveling in this auspicious day and at how quiet it truly is.
Even if I was intruded upon, at least I know I was being thought of. Hm?
Thought of by a psychopath; imagine that.
Now that’s something to tell the Grandkids
when they get a little older….
GRAMMY LIVED THROUGH A PSYCHOPATH.
Dupey
myheart,
One night in Nicaragua I was out with him but he was off for some drug run I suppose… but he had been ‘kind’ enough to have a tab arranged at the bar for me, because he knew I wouldn’t draw money out of the ATM all alone at night anymore. LOL, I thought he was kind to make a deal with the owner of the bar to have a tab for me that I would pay afterwards myself. HOW KIND of him! And why did I need the tab? Because he was off with the pocket money I had left on me.
Anyway, I meet some other Nicas at some point and we are talking and of course one asks where he is, why he left me alone… and basically I was praising him, that though he of course had his stuff to do (and I did know it was drugs) he would make sure I was in company and could have my own fun. I said nothing ‘bad’ of him.
About two night later, the last night there before we’d leave both for Costa Rica border on the bus, he comes home from a bar all in distress… the other Nica guy I had been talking to (to whom I had praised him) had lectured him and warned him that I deserved to be treated well. And so he returned earlier than I expected to ask me what I had said about him to the guy. I was kinda stunned. I said “nothing bad at all. I praised you.” He then continued to tell me that I shouldn’t talk to anybody about him, that it was disloyal, blablablabla… and he was CRYING. I even hugged him with all the love I felt at that moment.
I thought he’d remain at home then, pack his stuff and go to sleep with me. But no, with that settled he got up and left and didn’t arrive back ‘home’ until an hour before we had to take a cab to the bus stop. And when he arrived he was under the influence of some heavy dose or drug: pissing and eating like an animal, spouting some Miami Vice story of drug warlords with big guns at some villa with expat Americans that didn’t make any sense.
All that kindness and love I had felt hours before was replaced with nothing but disgust for the beast I was seeing.
No, I wasn’t to say anything about him. Well, I didn’t need to say anything about him. People knew him and they worried about me.
Darwinsmom,
At the end after two visit of spath in my life, once for marriage and another one for reconcillation, I got out only one thing::::
He was very inscured, and his image was everything, he wanted a woman’s loyality 100% who can provide him company and will hide his abuse. More than that he lloves this woman and he should do anything to keep marriage intact.
Look I can understand this. If you still live locally and you need to keep finding new victims, your bad reputation will come in your way, right!!!
Like your spath, quickly resolve things in his favor and take off again was the game…
Oh well, aren’t we lucky we are out on our two legs and strong head on our shoulder, because spath’s first wife had to leave the worled to be rescued from him. I shoudl be glad I am still alive.
What a horror story, darwinsmom. I’ve made excuses for men, too. Cognitive dissonance is an interesting thing. I am so clear now what kind of man I want and how I want him to treat me. I believe I have found that special man. I think he likes me, too. And I now have another opportunity to take the risk I never took with the neighbor and reach out to this new guy that I like. I will probably have to be the one to ask him out first. Not really my favorite way to start a relationship, but it is what it is.
darwins,
oh my..