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LOVEFRAUD TO THE NEXT LEVEL: If you have read my book, please post a review

A sociopath ripped through my life, taking my money, cheating on me, shaking my soul to its core. It was a terrible, painful, humiliating experience. But it has also given me a new mission in life—spreading the word about these human predators, helping others to heal, or better yet, avoid them.

That’s why I launched And that’s why I wrote my book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan.

My husband, Terry Kelly, believes in this mission. Together, we formed a publishing company, called Anderly Publishing, to get the message out. Love Fraud is our first book, and based on what I hear from all of you, I have a list of about 20 more titles that need to be written.

We’ve learned, however, that making the public aware of a book is difficult. Why? Because now, with traditional publishing, on-demand publishing and e-books, about a million titles a year are published. Lots of authors are trying to get people’s attention.

Lovefraud can’t afford a huge advertising program, although we did pay for a nationally distributed press release today. You can see it here:

10 signs that you’re dating a sociopath, on PR

So, we’re hoping that you will help us with through a grassroots, word-of-mouth publicity effort. Please go ahead and share the above press release with friends via Facebook, Twitter, Linked In and other social networking sites.

One of the best things you can do to help raise awareness is post a review of Love Fraud on websites like Amazon.

Amazon is the 800-lb. gorilla of book marketing, and having a strong presence on Amazon ripples through the book-selling world. Amazon considers the number of reviews a book receives, and the ratings that readers provide, in deciding how heavily to promote a book. The more you like it, the more Amazon shows the book to prospective customers as something they may want to read.

Here is information for posting on Amazon, as well as other places where reviews can be posted online. Please post one review. Or, post several reviews. In fact, post the same review in several places.

And don’t think that your effort doesn’t matter. It does.

You need to have an Amazon account in order to post a review, which means that at some point you bought something there. However, you didn’t have to buy Love Fraud on Amazon.

  1. Log on to the Love Fraud page on Amazon.
  2. Click on the yellow “customer reviews” link, located next to the stars right under the title and “By Donna Andersen.”
  3. Under “Average Customer Reviews” you’ll see the yellow stars again. Below that is a button that says, “Create your own review.” Click the button.
  4. If you haven’t already done it, sign in.
  5. Write your review.

Barnes and Noble

  1. Log on to the Love Fraud page on Barnes and Noble.
  2. Click on the customer rating link, which is next to the stars, to the right of the book cover.
  3. On “Customer Reviews” page, click the button for “Write a review.” If you’re already a Barnes and Noble customer, sign in. If not, create an account. You don’t have to buy anything.
  4. Write your review.

Borders Books

  1. Log on to the Love Fraud page at Borders.
  2. No one has reviewed my book on Borders yet. Perhaps you can be the first! Click the “Write a review” link, next to the stars at the right of the book cover.
  3. If you are a Borders customer, sign in. If not, you may continue as a guest.
  4. Rate the book. You may check off the standard descriptions (such as “informative”), and/or add your own thoughts.

Goodreads is a social networking site for book lovers. Anyone can have a free account and post a review.

  1. Log on to Goodreads.
  2. If you’re not a member, sign up and create a password. You can skip the next two pages if you want. To skip Yahoo email, click “skip this page,” located at the bottom. To skip book compatibility test, click “continue to the next page” at the top right.
  3. On the next page, type Love Fraud into the search box.
  4. On the next page, you’ll see a small picture of the Love Fraud book cover. To the right, you’ll see a box that says, “Add to my books.” Click it.
  5. Click the stars, write your comments, and save the review. You’ll get an acknowledgement that your review has been saved.


Shelfari is another social networking site for readers. Anyone can have a free account and post a review. No one has reviewed my book on Shelfari yet—be the first!

  1. Long on to Shelfari.
  2. If you are a Shelfari member, sign in. If you are not a member, click the “Join” button and sign up. You can skip the “Look for friends” screen if you want.
  3. In the search bar at the top of the window, type Love Fraud and click Search.
  4. Click the link for my book.
  5. Under the Love Fraud image, you’ll see an “Add” or “Edit” button. Click it. This will add the book to your shelf and give you the opportunity to write a review.

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I’ve not read your book, however, this site as well as something that caught my attention on the “chemistry” thread from yesterday piqued more of my interest in reading it. Alternative therapy? Hmmm..I’d like to know what worked for you, and, admittedly while I’ve had bits and pieces of your story from reading here, I have a feeling the full impact is felt more reading the book. It shall be one of purchases tomorrow.

Thank you for this site and enormous care for others who are suffering such a situation.



I posted my reviews. Thank you so much, Donna! I’m pasting it below as well:
I found “Love Fraud” after I was doing online research about sociopaths. Ironically, my sociopath husband of a little over one year left in March of 2010, the same year that the Love Fraud book and website were launched. What really drew me to the book was the subtitle: “How my marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan.” I felt the same way ”“ that there was a higher purpose and reason that this all happened. Although my situation was not as extreme as Donna’s, I could relate to every step of her process with her ex: the fast engagement, the avoidance of answering questions, the self centeredness and grandiosity, and the Jekyll and Hyde characteristics which began on our honeymoon. I found myself dog earring almost every single page of the first half, especially the frustrating and futile conversations which were almost identical to my own conversations with my ex. It was a relief to see that I was not alone. I was also 35 when I married and never thought that someone could come into my life and do so much damage, and he did so without even a shred of guilt, shame, regret, conscious, or apology. As I have shared my story, it is amazing how prevalent this phenomenon is, but no one talks about it because they are ashamed and embarrassed. Donna blows the door wide open on this little known topic, and she is brave enough to put it out there. In addition to her book, Donna’s website, resources for readers, and commitment to education is admirable and impressive. If you or someone you know is in a relationship that feels like a Twilight Zone, go to If any of it looks familiar, get Donna’s book. Hers is an incredible and inspiring journey of a woman who embodies courage, faith, resilience, and spiritual transformation. Education is the key.

I am also a huge fan of integrative/alternative therapies. My experiences have been similar to what Donna describes in her book. Be cautious of imposters, of course, but there are great practioners out there who are committed to wellness, nutrition, and education and can help clients heal on multiple levels.


Hi Donna! On SSDI so can’t afford to buy your book, but I’ll bet it’s swell!

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I read your book Donna, and I must say — once I started reading it… I could not put it down!

The book is a very personal account of Donna’s relationship/marriage with a sociopath and reads like a novel, seemed like there was a cliffhanger at the end of every chapter and I had to keep reading to see what was going to happen next! I learned a lot about sociopath behaviors, could see the confusion and hurt Donna was going through, and I appreciate the spiritual journey (very personal) shared in the book.

I give the book 5 STARS!! A must read for anyone!
I posted a link to Donna’s book on Amazon to my FB page, and added her book to my “Goodreads” page!



I read your book, finding it interesting and informative. Thank you for taking the time to write it. Anyway, I posted my first book review (about your book), and will post more in the future. Your work is helpful, beneficial to all of us. Peace to you.

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I’m ordering my copy of it today through Amazon and will write a review when finished. This is costing me a FORTUNE with the books and I can’t “delay gratification” here as I feel the books will be so helpful so I’m “overnighting” them lol!

Thank GOD for student loans! I’m hoping that these books will be helpful and will recommend them for reading when we get to the personality disorder portion of my psychology class!



Donna – just finished it this week.


So many times, I found myself gasping with disbelief as you described exact conversations that I had with the Super-spath!

Granted, ex-spath was nowhere nearly as “busy” as Montgomery, so the sphere of his damage was smaller and the trail of his destruction was more confined – yet no less devasting in effect.

We ALL get smashed up by them and we ALL rant and rave and grieve and despair in the same way as you described yourself doing.

It was so deeply sad and poignant to read of your betrayal, yet at the same time so (strangely) gratifying to know that we encountered the same creature – and that we have lived to tell the tale.

I can’t tell you how much I laughed to read about Montgomery, in his old age, in a care facility, unable to walk or “perform”, being brought “Meals on Wheels” and going to Occupational Therapy classes, existing only on a pension. May the miserable worm die that way – and soon! It gave me hope to think of the Super-spath heading in that same direction; only a matter of time 🙂

Congratulations for a cathartic job, well done! xx

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