Man’s Best Friend

By Ox Drover

Someone sent me a forwarded e mail the other day that I had seen before, but this time, as I read the sweet story about how to tell the differences between heaven and hell, I started to think about my own life in relationship to this story. You may have heard it before, but here is the story.

A man was walking along with his dog one day down a pleasant road and he realized that both he and the dog were dead. The road was nice but he began to be tired, hot and thirsty. He came around a bend and saw the most beautiful golden gates, with a kindly looking person standing there. The gate was surrounded by flowers and he thought how beautiful it looked. He approached the kindly looking man and asked where he was. The man softly touched his arm, reassuring him, and then said, “Step into Heaven my friend, you are safely here.” The man started toward this wonderful golden gate, but just before he stepped through., the kindly stranger at the gate said, “Oh, your dog can’t go with you, he has no soul.”

The man looked at his dog, standing faithfully beside him in death as he had in life, and sadly turned away from the entrance to Heaven and started walking down the road again. Soon he came to a very plain looking, rustic gate with a rustic man sitting by the gate.

He approached the man by the gate and said “My dog and I are very thirsty and we would love a drink of water if you could provide us with some.” Of course the rustic man invited the man into his lane, gave him and the dog both a bowl of water and said, “welcome.”

When the man asked “Where am I?” The rustic old man said “Well, son you’re in Heaven” The man was confused and asked about the glittering golden gates he had passed because they wouldn’t let his dog in with him, and the rustic old saint said, “Oh, yea, that’s Hell, we use him to screen out the riff raff. We don’t want anyone here who would desert his dog or a friend for what appears to be the golden gates.”

I got to thinking of that man as an analogy of my life, and I realized that so many times I have deserted my best friend (myself) for what appeared a “golden gate” of the easy path. I have gotten off the Road to Healing long before I even approached taking care of myself. I have entered into the false Heaven because it looked so easy, so wonderful, and I have left my best friend — myself–standing alone out side while I entered into this wonderland of deceit and self deception—again and again.

This time, I am determined to bypass the “quick and easy” solutions and to stay on the road to Healing and to take my best friend with me, to care for her ”¦ she deserves my love and nurturing. No one who will not recognize that my best friend is valuable, that I cannot do less than respect her, deserves a place in my life. No one else can take responsibility and make me happy without her. She is ME.

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Dear Wini – Happy, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Mother Teresa was an incredible loving and giving soul!

If I could add anything to the “Do It Anyway” sign, while adding a smile to Mother Teresa’s face…it would be a footnote at the bottom…

“There is one exception to the Do IT ANYWAY rule … re: unreasonable, illogical, self centered people… then it should be DO NOT DO IT IF YOU ARE BEING EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY ABUSED…then you must love them from afar and love yourself and get away…any way!

But always always continue to give the world the best youve got anyway!! As long as youre giving yourself your best love too!

Learnthelesson: Sorry it took so long to respond … little Erika is over … I’m child sitting … can’t say baby sitting cause she corrects me and says she’s not a baby (LOL). We are making friendship bracelets from an arts and crafts kit (smile).

I’m glad you enjoyed the quotes. My heart leaps when I read, see, do, feel anything positive these days. Maybe that’s the one plus about our EXs … beautiful positive things are amplified as even more beautiful, more positive … more loving and each day is a blessing.


Wini – I was in and out most of the day and my computer is in my kitchen, everytime I walk in the back door, I check out LF! I might have to relocate my computer so I can actually cook real meals again ! 🙂

Little Erika sounds like she enjoys being with you as much as you enjoy being with her! Priceless and precious moments for sure! ENJOY!!!!

Learnthelesson, time for a blackberry (LOL).

Yes, Erika is a total joy .. she’s 5 and 1/2 this Spring.


Just fyi, that “story” is the plot to an old Twilight Zone episode. The reason they didn’t want to let “Old Rip” into what looked like Heaven was that the dog would have smelled the brimstone and warned the man.

Dear Eternal Student,

Thanks for giving us the source of this story. I loved Twilight Zone! thanks again!

Good night Oxy.

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