I am late getting my blog done this week partly because I have been helping a crime victim get justice. I hope at some point to be able to share the entire story with you but for today I want to share part of it and not yet name the offender. The offender is in prison for kidnapping and physically assaulting (torturing) a child.
The victim’s mother provided me an official copy of the sentencing transcript where the defendant plead guilty to those crimes. He was sentenced to 3-12 years in prison. It is unclear to all of us exactly how it is determined if the defendant serves 3 years or 12 years or something in between.
The sentence of 3-12 years was handed down after the defendant and his attorney made the case that OCD caused him to torture the child. There was apparently a psychiatrist and a psychologist who diagnosed OCD and prescribed medication for same.
OCD is a mental disorder that involves obsessions or thoughts that keep replaying in a person’s mind and compulsions or behaviors that the person has to repeatedly do to reduce anxiety. For more on OCD see the US NIMH website.
Because I did not remember from my training any association between OCD and violence, I did a search and found this statement in an article summary of two cases of OCD with violent obsessional thoughts, “Both cases were characterized by preoccupation with aggressive thoughts and images, a need for reassurance that they would not act on their impulses, and a history devoid of violent or aggressive behavior.”
Nevertheless the court transcript indicated the Judge and even the DA believed the assessment that the defendant had OCD and that this played a role in his violent behavior. Furthermore they believed this to be a mitigating factor that lessened the sentence. The words of the Judge according to the transcript were, “My gut reaction in a situation where a person does not have OCD and getting treatment and so forth would be to really hammer you hard for a long, long time.”
I spoke with both the victim (who is now of age) and victim’s mother, because they wanted to understand the psychological state of the defendant. I asked them for specific examples of the offender’s behavior and verbal statements relating to both the offender’s contact with reality and symptoms of OCD and psychopathy as measured by the PCL-R. The offender was known to the victims for years and never displayed any symptom of OCD. He is your basic grandiose, charming and manipulative, power motivated psychopath who lacks empathy and remorse. His lack of empathy and remorse were apparent during his sentencing statement.
Both sources were able to give me specific examples verifying that the offender is likely highly psychopathic. There was also some evidence that the offender hallucinates and is paranoid. That evidence was provided by the victims and also by the offender’s statements during the sentencing. A psychotic psychopath is the most dangerous felon there is, want proof, check out Charles Manson.
In reading the transcript which was 45 pages long, I was struck by the observation that everyone in the proceeding seemed to be searching for an answer to the why question. Why did this perpetrator do what he did? In answering the question “OCD” they could maintain their sense of safety. The Judge said to the offender,
“I do believe that at your core you are a good person, this is just a problem you have. In the 10-15 years I have been doing this I have seen relatively few evil people come through the courtroom. Three, I believe, that were so inherently evil that everybody in the courtroom couldn’t wait to get them in the prison system because they hurt everybody they were around. And I don’t believe you are a monster and I respect your religious beliefs and hope they help you heal.”
The offender had convinced the Judge that not only did he have OCD, he was a true believer and constantly asked WWJD! And I mean this literally.
If the mental health statistics are correct and that 80% of offenders have some degree of psychopathy and 25% have the full blown syndrome there are so many sociopaths out in the world that it is likely no life will be untouched by the disorder. However, this Judge feels safe in his little bubble where he has seen only 3 evil defendants in his lengthy career.
It should be mandatory that all Judges receive an officially sanctioned educational program on psychopathy/sociopathy. That would help immunize them against being fooled by sociopaths/psychopaths and their corrupt attorneys.
Jen2008:
We will have to agree to disagree ON EVERYTHING!. Seems Pianoman’s backstabbing and judgemental ways are contagious and you caught it.
Oxy:
boink bonk to you too!
Jen2008:
Do you even know what i was referring to ? I doubt it.
Well yu got rid o’ me for good!
A BIG HELLO to my community here~
It’s ErinB……a busy, busy ErinB currently…..
I wanted to check in and let you know I haven’t been killed off and I am doing GREAT!
My business is booming at the moment and I have been ‘reinstated’ back into my community after the damage that was done by the Ex S.
I have earned my colors.
I am dealing with the new S that temporarily appeared in my life and ‘hooked’ me…..a business associate.
I have learned so much about the Why’s, when’s and wheres, but not enough.
I find myself getting hooked on ‘WHAT IS SAID’……and hearing it through “MY” ears……what my brain and I would do in the situation…..BUT…..I know that in ANY SITUATION……WE CAN”T REACT….they keep on trying…..but we musn’t react…..internally or outwardly. We can step back and bore them…..then they move along…..if we keep them on the ‘road’ of constant travel…..maybe one day they will travel right off that cliff and disappear. At very least we do not need to be a part of it! PERIOD!
It’s our choices how we react to others, when we find ourselves getting hostile, and we all know this feeling of wanting to pounce and ‘show them’……we must curl up next to the rock and just let them pass. Especially if they do not ‘mean’ anything to us directly. If they are ‘close’ to us….then curl up next to that rock, let them pass, then strike when the timing is right and appropriate. If these toxic people are just moving through our lives……let them keep moving….don’t stall them with a pullout reststop by our actions/words.
NA NA NA …..GOODBYE…….that’s what comes to mind.
SO I am going to court AGAIN on Tuesday for this latest S…..oh, how he has tried to intimidate me……he’s good…..but I’m aware of it now…..been there, done that!
Yes, I still got hooked, because I have a good heart……But Fu$)) You……NOW! It’s legal eagle time.
I will pull on my ‘inner sociopath’ when needed and fight fire with fire.
I will share with you his latest excuse for not paying me the bundle that he owes…..
“OMG, when I arrived, I got a call from my brother and before I could even get out of the car…..he informed me I had to drive 3 states away, because my mother had passed away”
I called on the ‘inner Sociopath’ at that time and called bull shit on him…..
My reply was…
“OMG….I can’t believe that, I am so sorry to hear about your mother, I just can’t believe our connections….it’s like we are soulmates….BOTH OF MY PARENTS were killed on the same day in a plane crash”.
I SHOOK IT UP!!!!!! IT shut him down, his well rehearsed ‘story’ to deflect me with sympathy towards him……he had no idea what to say then…..and I turned the conversation back into the direction I WANTED IT TO GO! Which was, the money he owed me! I didn’t need to be defensive, I am trying to live on the offensive. I will not disect every accusation or statement made……THEY ARE JUST NOT WORTH THE REACTION!!!!
So……the moral of the story is……stay in control of ourselves, keep our awareness with us and present and keep on track of our own healing…..it’s a lifelong process!!!!
I miss you all….your warmth, generouse spirits, advice and humor!
XXOO
Hi, Erin!
I’m so glad you’re taking names and kicking butt! Does my heart good to hear you sounding so feisty!
I’m bogged down in my job search, and was sat here, reading, getting my spirit recharged so I can come back swinging tomorrow.
I’m off to bed, but just wanted to say “Hi,” and send you good wishes.
All the best,
Betty
TOWANDA ERIN!!!!
That was GREAT!!! I will give that S an A+ for coming up with a real pitiful tear-jerking story of why he is so upset! LOL That is almost as good as “the dog ate my homework” LOL ROTFLMAO “my parents were both killed in a plane crash” LOL ROTFLMAO That’s a good one. How on earth did you keep from LAUGHING at that one! “My parents were killed TODAY, so that is why I haven’t paid you the money I owe you for the past two years.” LOL
I finally got my money out of the “X-friend” (not a lot, but it was MINE and I wanted and needed it.) I ahd actually given up on ever getting it so was happily suprised.
She called the other day with a great “deal” for my sons, I could hardly keep myself from choking and laughing. she ahd decided that since we have deer on our place that it would be a great deal for US if my sons would use their deer licenses and tage (that limits the amount of deer you can take) and shoot and clean several deer for her and deliver them to her and she WOULD BUY THE AMMUNITION. Ok, let’s see, how that works…for each deer they hunt, haul, clean, butcher and wrap, she furnishes one bullet at approximately $1.25 each, or two if they are bad shots (they’re not) so they would get the thrill of hunting and shooting the deer, spending hours dragging it out of the woods, butchering it etc. and then she would replace the bullet. WOW, what a DEAL for them!!!!
Something tells me that they’re not going to jump on that deal very quickly. LOL
The even funnier part is that she has no idea even just how selfish her “deal” sounds (because it IS) or that there is anything even remotely “wrong” about her “offering” such an “opportunity” to someone. ROTFLMAO
Erin, did you find out where the double funeral from that “terrible accident” will be held, so you can send FLOWERS! ROTFLMAO. Glad things are going wel lfor you, you are an awesome WOMAN WARRIOR!!!! You GO GIRL!!!!
Oxy,
The deer story! Omigod, that’s funny. I know someone just like that…I must deal with her at work, but thankfully not on a personal level.
Very entertaining story.
I meant to jump on LF yesterday to thank you in particular, Oxy, for all the time you devote to newbies and everyone else here. So thanks.
Dear Tood, You are very welcome and thanks for the pat on the back, I do it out of gratitude and love for this site, it has saved my sanity I think (if anyone would “accuse” me of being SANE! LOL)
Yea, I am laughing over that “deal” all morning my self. She just does NOT “get it” how inappropriate it is for her to even OFFER such a “deal.” first off, people DO “hunt for others,” here but it is NEVER appropriate to ask for such a thing any more than it would be to ASK for a GIFT. I guess she might have known it wasn’t okay to ask for a “gift” so she offered the “deal” instead. LOL It is on the line of asking to “borrow” your tooth brush or douche bag! LOL (sorry for being so graphic but that’s just the level it is on) and to offer to “pay” for the AMMUNITION is just beyond it all!!!
This is the same woman who bought a beef from me on an eat now pay later plan and I almost didn’t get my money, took a year. Now it is NOT because this woman is “poor” if that had been the case I would have DONATED the beef, it is that she is a spend thrift and keeps herself and her poor long suffering husband deeply in the hole with her friviolous spending. I didn’t realize it at the time I sold her the side of beef, which, BTW was dead when she said “Oh, can we pay on the installment plan?” I had no where to keep the meat by then so I was sort of “tricked” into it. I can tell you one thing though, any future beef purchases will be cash on the barrel head.
I think that women out there SHOULD be leary with regard to accepting a mate into their lives. There is a way to give to another without putting yourself in a situation where you could wind up losing your home, your money, your kids or yourself! Under NO circumstances give your mate money. I don’t care if someone tells you he’ll pay it back. It will never happen. As far as I’m concerned, start considering yourself as being “old fashioned” (even though we live in a modern world) and tell your mate that until he proves that he can support himself, then you will consider something more serious. “I love you” does not constitute giving a man money…under any circumstance! Do not sign over the deed to your house to him! I remember reading a blog from a woman, when I first stumbled upon this site. She was having to fight for her and her kids home because, after she became “engaged’ to a man, he coerced her into putting his name on the deed, because it showed him that she really loved him! She was in the process of spending alot of money in court to have him taken off the deed after he dumped her and moved out.