Why are we facing a world financial crisis? Perhaps because psychopaths are running the show. In a post on the website Reality Sandwich, author Jonathan Zap writes:
Most psychopaths are not violent criminals; they may be more likely to pursue white-collar crime, where the payoff is so much higher and the odds of detection so much lower.
Psychopaths are perfectly designed for success in many fields, especially business, law and politics. They have higher IQs on average than the general population; they are charming, charismatic and manipulative; they can be decisive and take risks without anxiety, and they are ruthless, cunning and coldly rational. Psychopaths often personify many of the traits that the human resource departments of many corporations look for in job candidates:Â confidence, charisma, decisiveness, emotional detachment, coolness under fire and relentless drive.
In Part One of the article, the author gives a pretty good description of the psychopathic personality. In Part Two, he discusses examples of psychopathic behavior in business, referring to cases such as Enron and Bernie Madoff. He makes many valid points.
Read Foxes and Reptiles: Psychopathy and the financial meltdown, on RealitySandwich.com.
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Dear Breckgirl,
I hear you girlfriend! I think we all have that tendency to STICK with our vows, and with our commitments which is why we keep on hanging around after the abuse started.
“You can’t give up, he’s your sonnnnnnn” (excuse me while I puke)
I felt the same way about my egg donor, “but she’s your motherrrrrr” I am her only child so I felt OBLIGATED to take care of her to protect her from those that were trying to get her money, to hurt her…LOL
Yes, FOG, F-ear, O-bligation and G-uilt keeps us trying to find some way to fix them, to help them, to stick by our commitments, to get a crumb of affection from them.
I finally realized when my egg donor had gone behind my back and canceled my power of attorney and my ability to see her medical records that SINCE I NO LONGER HAD THE AUTHORITY TO TAKE CARE OF HER, I NO LONGER HAD THE OBLIGATION.
It was like a great weight was lifted off my back….my cousin has her POA and she has enough money to hire care givers, house keepers, etc. so I AM NOT OBLIGATED to take care of her. I couldn’t if I wanted to…she took away any authority or obligation I had to do for her, to take care of her. She forbids me from it. I no longer feel guilty that she has no one except hired caregivers.
It is odd too, back when I was taking care of her and my stepfather 24/7, she kept saying to me “Oh, I don’t know what we would do without Oxy, but WHO will be there to take care of Oxy when she gets old? There is NO one who will take care of Oxy, what will she do?”
She said it like she was complimenting me for taking care of her and my step-dad, but it was like one of those “but statements’ like “I love you, BUT….sometimes I want to slap you.” It is one of those things where ANYTHING before the “but” is a LIE, and anything after the “but” is the TRUTH.
I understand the falling into the arms of the “N/S/P” after your divorce. I sure as heck fell into the arms of one after my husband’s death because I was so NEEDY, I felt so old, fat, undesirable, like no one would ever want me and I was sooooo destitute of affection. Well, I realize now that he was looking for someone to be a “respectable wife” to keep his harem at bay! I was the perfect candidate because I was so needy. Fortunately, I woke up before I married him and kicked him to the curb.
breckgirl
There’s a lot of me too on this site. Your integrity and moral code is a Me Too reponse from me. I tried to fix my marriage until I realized NOTHING I did was gonna fix it b/c there was nothing to fix. Gotta start with something don’t we?
When I realized my husband NEVER planned to stay married, even though he claimed that once married, he was staying married, the TRUTH is: I was Married, HE was NOT. He was a single man our entired married life. And like you, withheld sex/affection/attention so mcuh that I thought him to have LOW sex drive; some years NO sex. I accepted that he was a NO sex man SO much that when I discovered he was cheating nearly the whole time, I was DEVASTATED. The day before I found out about his cheating, I would have bet my LIFE on him being faithful, cold and uncaring but NOT cheating. I was WRONG about him.
Yet even after finding out about cheating (thought at first it was just one woman) I stayed and tried to fix the marriage. I was NOT a QUITTER. I made those vows and thought “I am a person of character and that means I HONOR those vows even if he didn’t.” To me Getting a divorce was proof that I wasn’t the good person I thought myself to be.
There’s a LOT of fallacies that we tell ourselves that kept us trapped and vulnerable. I’ve learned the TRUTH about many of those false beliefs I used to carry. You too will read and add your ME TOO’s b/c maybe like me, you thought at times you might have made a big deal out of nothing. Here on LF, you will find out it was a bigger deal/more going on in that story than you even imagined, it’s not just what he did, it’s his motivation behind it that STUNS YOU.
Best to you,
Katy
Oxy
I carry a gun b/c a cop is too heavy. HAHAHAHAHAHAHahahahahahaha. I imagine an Ox Drover with a cop slung over her shoulder, like a right big sack of potatoes. 🙂 Gary Larson cartoon?
ps oxy. I’d take care of you but you’ll probably outlive me. my childhood friend and i have a pac that whoever ends up in the nursing home, the other has to pluck her chin hairs. 🙂
PLUCK HER CHIN HAIRS! ROTFLMAO SNARK SNORT CHOKE!!! That is tooooooo rich, Katy! I guess I’ll just have to shave mine or let them grow! LOL
HEY oxy, That’s proof of my loyalty to my friend. I hardly pluck my own. Don’t have to look at them so they don’t bother me….
Oh My This brings a good memory. My granny would give me a nickle for every chin hair I plucked with her tweezer’s. I loved it when she would scream in pain and giggle at the same time.. Life is good.
Oh – GROSS
Katydid. I don’t think I saw your whole story here, but the tidbits you have shared above are inspiring. How did you finally figure out he was a spath? Despite the cheating were there lies?
Oh Mylo – lol
Athena
There was a whole host of behaviors. LIES? Yep From Hello to GOODBYE. I kept thinking he was a sociopath but thought I had to be wrong b/c he did not murder. I was wrong about that too. I didn’t put the dots together until I got out from under his controlling mindfarks and recovered my ability to reason again. It took a couple of years. Then I found this site and have since discovered I was right about the sociopathy, that they don’t have to murder to be an spath. First realized he was capable of murder, he likes to instigate others to do his dirty work. But he will kill if he thinks himself entitled. ANd have realized he probably did, he detailed a murder when he killed his first cow, and killed the cow the same as he described killing. For the same reason, she had to learn to not make him mad.
I think my husbnad hits EVERY button on the spath ID list. Hits it HARD.