The headline of an article that a Lovefraud reader recently sent to me is:
Why women really do love self-obsessed psychopaths
With a headline like that, of course, I had to read it. The article, from 2008, describes research on the “Dark Triad” and mating behavior. The Dark Triad refers to the personality disorders of narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism. I had some problems with the article, but before I ripped into it, I figured I’d read the original study. Here it is:
The Dark Triad: Facilitating a Short-Term Mating Strategy in Men
This study was published in the European Journal of Personality in 2009, and the lead author is Peter K. Jonason. To be honest, I find it hard to believe that the study was considered to be a contribution to the field of personality research. But before I rip into it, let’s review the Dark Triad.
Dr. Liane Leedom posted an article about the Dark Triad on Lovefraud back in 2007. Here it is:
Choosing a love partner? Beware of The Dark Triad
Dr. Leedom wrote:
The Dark Triad is Psychopathy, Narcissism and Machiavellianism. To varying degrees, all three personality types entail a dark, interpersonally destructive character with tendencies toward grandiosity, emotional callousness, manipulation and dominance. Psychopaths and Machiavellians have high self-esteem, and are charming and fun but psychopaths are also impulsive and cunning. Narcissists are grandiose and have high self-esteem, and may also be intellectually gifted. Research has shown that these three personality types are all a bit different and yet also highly overlap.
So what do these three personality types have in common? They are preoccupied with dominance and power, and deficient in love and empathy. To anyone who is looking for a love relationship, Dr. Leedom offers the following advice: “Avoid, at all costs, connecting with a member of the Dark Triad.”
Dark Triad and mating strategy study
I realize that scientific papers aren’t supposed to offer advice, but the degree to which Jonason tries to remain “objective” in his study is ridiculous. Here is how he describes the Dark Triad:
Machiavellianism, narcissism and psychopathy—collectively known as ”˜The Dark Triad’—are traits that are linked to negative personal and societal outcomes, and are traditionally considered maladaptive. However, the persistence of these traits over time and across various societies, as well as linkages to positive traits, suggests that the Dark Triad can be advantageous in some ways. For instance, subclinical psychopathy is associated with a lack of neuroticism and anxiety, which may facilitate the pursuit of one’s goals through adverse conditions. Similarly, narcissism is associated with self-aggrandisement, and Machiavellianism is associated with being socially manipulative, both of which may aid in reaping benefits for oneself at the expense of others, especially in initial periods of acquaintance. (Citations omitted.)
So Jonason ascribed to psychopaths the positive quality of persistence in overcoming obstacles—would he be referring to stalking? And self-aggrandisement—drawing attention to one’s own importance—helps in stepping on people? But what is the real value of Dark Triad personality traits, according to this author? Exploitative, short-term sex! Here’s what he wrote:
Although most studies have focused on the negative aspects of the Dark Triad, our evidence suggests that there might be some up-sides to these anti-social personality traits. We found that the scores on the Dark Triad traits were positively related to having more sex partners, an unrestricted sociosexuality and a greater preference for short-term mates.
Study subjects
So, how did Jonason conduct the study? He offered extra credit to 224 undergraduate psychology students to fill out self-report questionnaires. The group included 88 men and 136 women. They were aged 17 to 43—the median age was 21 and the average age was 23.5.
The students filled out three separate inventories to test for their level of psychopathy, narcissism and Machiavellianism. Then the students were asked about their views on sex, and about their sexual behavior.
So how do you think hormone-drenched, strapping young adults in today’s sex-crazed culture would respond to the following: “I can imagine myself being comfortable and enjoying casual sex with different partners.”
I assume the answer was: “YEAH!”
Then the students were asked, “With how many different partners have you had sexual intercourse within the past year?”
I assume, especially among the males, that the answer was an exaggeration.
If the popularity of Jersey Shore is any indication, my guess is that plenty of 20-somethings think lots of casual sex is just fine, and if they weren’t getting it, they’ll lie and claim that they were. Jonason even admits that this may have happened in his study.
Evolutionary argument
Nowhere in his report does Jonason indicate that he actually interviewed any psychopaths, narcissists or Machiavellians. He merely asked a narrow and unrepresentative sample of human beings to answer questions about themselves on standardized tests. Jonason subjected the responses to a myriad of statistical analyses. It appears that he dazzled the journal editors with his math, because I wonder about his conclusions.
First, he says people with Dark Triad traits have more sex. Even though he based the conclusion on testosterone-enriched young adults, I’m sure he’s right. Then, Jonason portrays this casual, exploitative, short-term sex as a successful mating strategy in the march of evolution. He writes:
Our study indicates a connection between the Dark Triad and more positive attitudes towards casual sex and more casual sex behaviors. To the extent that lifetime number of sexual partners is a modern-day marker of reproductive success, and given that the Dark Triad traits are heritable and exist in different cultures, we speculate that these traits may represent one end of a set of individual differences that reflects an evolutionarily stable solution to the adaptive problem of reproduction. (Citations omitted.)
So he’s saying that casual sex benefits the survival of the human race. I have to wonder about this argument. According to Wikipedia, “Natural selection is the process by which biologic traits become more or less common in a population due to consistent effects upon the survival or reproduction of their bearers.”
Psychopaths have been called intra-species predators. They exploit other human beings, and some have been responsible for killing others, ranging from a few to millions. If the members of the Dark Triad were so successful, I would think there would be more of them in the population. But this would be bad for the species, for human beings, as a whole. Would natural selection encourage an adaptation that has the potential of killing off other members of the species? I hope not.
Back to the news article
As is now obvious, I have a low opinion of this study, and my opinion of the news article is even lower.
First of all, consider the headline, Why women really do love self-obsessed psychopaths. Nowhere in the study does Jonason claim that women love psychopaths. Whoever wrote the headline converted the idea of casual, exploitative sex into love.
Then there’s the first paragraph of the article:
Bad boys, it seems, really do get all the girls. Women might claim they want caring, thoughtful types but scientists have discovered what they really want — self-obsessed, lying psychopaths.
The article completely omits the study’s description of duplicity in the sex pursued by personalities of the Dark Triad. As we well know, most of us who have been intimate with psychopaths, narcissists and Machiavellians were conned into it. We didn’t want, “self-obsessed, lying psychopaths.” We were deceived. But the author, Science Editor Steve Connor, went for the sensational rather than the accurate.
Finally, there’s the idea of using James Bond as an example of the Dark Triad, or at least the most recent James Bond from Casino Royale, starring Daniel Craig. This James Bond, you may recall, fell in love. He was ready to quit being a spy so he could be with his love—until she betrayed him. Even then, Bond attempted to save her life.
A real psychopath wouldn’t do that.
what a disgusting headline–“why women really do love self-obsessed psychopaths.” not ‘some’ women, no, appears it’s all women, and not sexually attracted to, no, it’s ‘love.’
for mr. jonason, how’s this: “why basing your specious theory on 224 college student’s answers is bogus and asinine.”
having lived with a man with many characteristics of the dark tryiad, i agree with dr leedom and everyone else who says stay far away. there’s a danger in mistaking pathology for ‘strength’ for example; seeing the seeming ability to keep it together as strength when it’s really lack of connection and emotion, etc.
lots to think about here, donna. thank you.
GREAT ARTICLE DONNA,
Though there MUST BE some evolutionary advantage to SOME psychopathic behavior in SOME INSTANCES or it wouldn’t have persisted through the eons, altruism on the whole seems to benefit more people more of the time….i.e. Japanese cooperative culture vs the looting going on in our post-tragedy chaos.
In some simple tribal groups I can see how being the big bad dog on the block, taking more women, more than your share of the food etc. would facilitate passing on your genes….and it does seem to me that people I consider psychopaths do tend to have high numbers of sexual partners AND many of them also have more than 2.1 children per person, some as many as 10 or 11, but that observation is NOT RESEARCH.
It sounds to me like a BADLY done SURVEY, and then the results of the poorly done survey were twisted into a SENSATIONAL article that had little if anything to do with real science.
Using BAD statistics you can “prove” that a man with one foot on a red hot stove and the other foot on an ice block is ON THE AVERAGE COMFORTABLE! LOL I am sure our scientific friend BloggerT would have plenty to say about this “study” and “pseudo-science” article. LOL
Great article Donna. I read the paper on The Dark Triad and short term mating strategies in men. Everything I ever studied about The Dark Triad completely describes my ex perfectly-so much that it’s freakish. That whole relationship ended 2 years ago today and there are still after affects from it.
This one is soooo obviously a ploy for research money.
I mean, all he is saying is that selfish men will screw any woman he can. WOW! He isn’t explaining psychopathy, or how it manifests in a psychopathic woman. He isn’t explaining, how agreeable the P is whenever he wants something. He isn’t explaining the 25 year relationshit with a P, which I would consider to be long term.
There is no information in this article at all. NONE. Therefore, the only reasonable explanation is that the author is a professional parasite that knows how to get grant money by using fancy words. hmmm…. professional parasite… could it be…?
A SPATH.
Who else would write so much word salad that says nothing about spaths. It’s a tell.
🙂
‘So Jonason ascribed to psychopaths the positive quality of persistence in overcoming obstacles—would he be referring to stalking?’
i was taking a sip of tea when i read this. spit it right back out with laughter.
One Joy,
LOL!
They are persistant. It reminds me of another group of people who are persistant in their beliefs and you have to humor them: children.
They will persist in lying in the face of the truth. Real winning strategy.
sky – i have been watching the development of your theory on spaths. Have you been keeping your posts/ notes on your posts on your theory of them as children (and I might add, children with no redeeming qualities)
Why do some women/like me? Attract sociopaths…this seems to be the only type interested in me…my counselor says…my personality screams…come and get me…I am an easy target…How do I attract men with normal emotions/feelings…?
ALSO…GET THIS …after my husband of 12 yrs left me for another (one of 3 I did not see it))…I figured out what he was…His Brother (fireman) , Father (police), himself (police)…all left their wives for their girlfriends…within 6 months…they planned who would go 1st , 2nd, & 3rd. I am 37yoa and have just realized all of my ex-boyfriends were not only sociopaths but…also 4 out of 7 including X husb became …police or fireman…My x is a raking police officer in town …It is like being the x wife in the MOB…It will never end…the torment of it is the courthouse & police department takes his side on everything…even with proof…video..picts..audio..al in the name of professional brotherhood…sick!
Hey One Joy,
I have not kept track of my posts. or any notes. I just post when I feel inspired.
I just posted a few minutes ago to you and oxy and hens, but my post is “awaiting moderation!!!!!!!” WTF?
it was my best post EVER!
lol!
Oh well, whatever.
Well now THAT post is not awaiting moderation, so what went wrong? I’ll go ahead and post my other post here to see what happens:
One Joy, Hens and Oxy,
yes, our stories seem unbelievable, but not because they are so unlikely. It’s because they are so scary. What happened to us is proof that we really do not understand our fellow man.
We expect a “cause and effect”. We expect an explanation. The story of Job in the bible is really spot on. He kept asking God what he did wrong. His friends came and told him that he had likely sinned in his heart. There HAD to be SOME explanation, some RATIONAL EXPLANATION. He felt he had done everything right, but” evil had come upon him for no comprehensible reason. It goes even further than that. He hadn’t JUST done everything right. No, he was an EXEMPLARY human with a CLOSE relationship with his creator. NOTHING MADE SENSE.
In this way, we are like Job. We were stabbed in the back, not while sleeping or eating or wiping our asses. No, it occurred WHILE WE WERE BENDING OVER BACKWARDS BEING THE BEST HUMAN BEINGS WE COULD POSSIBLY BE. We were showing love and empathy to our fellow human being, going beyond the call of duty, giving MORE than we were responsible for. Loving MORE than any one can imagine loving. THAT’S when we were stabbed in the back.
We were kind and empathetic, we were getting high off our oxytocin and the feel good chemicals that you get when you do an act of kindness. We were feeling the feeling that you get when you save a kitten or help a blind person cross the street. It’s what makes us HUMAN.
It’s like being killed by your lover just as you reach an orgasm. It’s like being Ted Bundy’s victim, responding to his pity ploy and being hit on the head with a hammer because you were helping this charming young man with a “broken leg”.
The spaths target us because they hate that we love.
The “EXPERTS” don’t get that a spath is not selfish, a spath doesn’t want to “win”, he doesn’t want money. When you finally get that WTF? moment watching a spath cut off his nose to spite his own face, then you finally get it. He wants to watch the horror on your face. THAT’S ALL HE WANTS.
He cannot see the extent of your horror if he drags you down first. No, (as my spath explained to me) he must first place you high. He must first make you ecstatically happy. The “feel good” chemicals must be in place for the crash to have maximum impact.
The experts don’t get that spaths don’t care about money, or winning. They would PAY TO LOSE, if it meant watching you lose just as much. It’s all they want: Your pain. They don’t have the same values as you and I do. pain = happiness. It’s spathological.
Until the population GETS THIS, they will never believe us. NEVER. Even “knowing” this is not enough. It can only be truly known when it is experienced, when you are getting high off your altruistic, loving, tender and compassionate behavior and you feel a stab in the back. It’s the Judas kiss all over again. Words can’t do justice to the experience. No way.