What experience have you had dealing with sociopaths or other disordered personalities—personally, professionally, or both?
I am a counselor in Portland, Oregon with both personal and professional experience in healing from personality disordered and exploitative relationships. Having had my own experience with toxic relationships and healing, I am able to provide empathy, support and insight for survivors in ways that many therapists cannot. I have worked with domestic violence survivors and on community crisis teams to help survivors of trauma and abuse, and I train other professionals in understanding and supporting survivor experiences.
I currently offer a women’s open support group for healing from narcissistic abuse and a skills group for working on targeted areas of healing from narcissistic abuse. I also co-facilitate a men’s group for both narcissistic and borderline personality disordered relationships. The second counselor for the men’s group is a male who has personal and professional experience in this area as well. More groups will be coming in late 2015. I also offer one on one counseling for healing from these relationships.
How do you go about helping clients who have tangled with a sociopath?
I support you in your healing by: encouraging you to read and learn as much as you can about personality disorders, empathetic/highly sensitive people, and abuse. I connect you to a support community with others who have experienced similar relationships and are supportive to your healing; I offer skills groups, resources, and information to work on specific areas of healing from toxic relationships, and I teach you to turn inward, tune into your body, voice and intuition, and to grow to trust yourself in your journey going forward.
What, in your experience, is the biggest issue or problem that people who have been betrayed by a sociopath need to overcome?
Rebuilding trust in yourself and building a healthy network of others to support you is key to healing.
What’s one tip you can suggest for helping Lovefraud readers recover from the betrayal of a sociopath?
One of the biggest barriers to healing is the lack of understanding from others.
Stick with others who are supportive of your healing and trust your inner voice.