Lovefraud readers continue to contribute their insights about spotting sociopaths. Last week a reader contributed her list of red flags to watch for when dating.
Of course, sociopaths do not limit their victimizations to romantic relationships. They often create havoc in the workplace. So inspired by last week’s post, Adrian Melia of Humane Resources Ltd, a UK company that helps employers recognize and prevent workplace bullying, adapted the red flags to help you spot a sociopathic boss or coworker. Here’s what he wrote:
Workplace habits of a career sociopath
- Chooses and sucks up to allies (not “friends”) who are more powerful, or who he can use to further his aims, or who have something he can gain—especially money.
- Constantly criticises others, and often criticises allies behind their back.
- Says things that make no sense, gives people the feeling of walking on eggshells.
- Treats his new recruits very favourably at first, and then gets bored with them.
- Loves bullying, especially with someone more vulnerable or less powerful. Has and will use limitless resources for finishing someone professionally and mentally. Always has at least one he’s working on intensely.
- Makes his victims feel guilty, useless, furious and frightened.
- Occasionally says very charming things to people he is bullying—to keep them under his control.
- Victims become too ill to work, are dismissed for misconduct, and the cycle starts again.
- Thinks nothing of lying; his qualifications and experience are probably bogus.
- Is above and outside of any rules, but tries to be seen to follow them when it suits him.
- Sense of right and wrong dictated by what he can get away with.
- Starts a project as Superman, runs it like Hitler, and then fails to finish.
- Has infinite rationalisations to explain the results of his professional shortcomings— his failings are always someone else’s fault.
- Failures covered up by chaotic reorganisations and bullsh*t.
- Very adept at fooling others”: Jobsworth people think he’s great. Some call him charismatic. No one wants to believe he’s as bad and stupid as he is.
- The only people who really can recognise him are his victims.
Thank you, Adrian. The red flags will certainly help people who are dealing with sociopaths at work.