With all the uproar over Arnold Schwarzenegger and his “love child,” our friend Ann over at WomenExplode.com just wrote about her own experience of a cheating husband.
Read I can relate with Maria Shriver ”¦ at WomenExplode.com.
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How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists
Notyours Anymore:
Exactly! I should have NEVER had this relationship with this man at work and especially because he was five levels above me…stupid. I never date anyone from work. I know the dangers of it, but he really sucked me in. Imagine that?
Joanie-wow that must have been scary. I know you’re right about the forbidden fruit thing. He was so puffed up about getting me. He was also totally crazy turned on about having a girlfriend who was a cop. He actually encouraged me to go for the dream before I was financially ready for the paycut because he knew I was SO burned out and miserable as a nurse. He was all about being there for me and helping me out financially until I was done with my training. Then 3 weeks before the academy starts he discards me and bails. I had to resign because of the paycut. I hope he is with the wife and I am in the uniform when I finally run into them for the first time. Then, I can smile and he will see what he missed out on and she can finally put a face to the name. They are both as crazy as a jitterbug. I am going to be an awesome police officer-especially after all the spath training. I am getting ready to apply to school for the fall term to try and get in to finish my BS in Psychology. I want to work sex crimes and do hostage negotiation.
Notyours Anymore:
By the way, since you are new here and don’t know my story, I left that job because of him. Gave up a VERY good job with the same company for 12 years. But of course he and the other woman he was triangulating me with are still there. He is also married.
eb-that’s how I met mine-and btw, all three spaths, after the first one were all people I met at hospitals where I worked. The last ex was a surgeon. The girl before him was a speech therapist and the guy before her was a respiratory therapist. As far as I’l concerned-3 strikes and your out. I met three spaths at work-so I will NEVER date at work again. The only way I would do it as a cop is if my girlfriend worked in a different district, but definitely not out of the same station.
nolarn:
Thanks so much for the explanation! I appreciate you typing out your long story to me. Well, I am glad you finally came to the conclusion that you are gay and are sticking to it. I think for you that is what is healthy…to no longer question which gender you are really attracted to. It seems very clear now. Just one more monkey off your back so to speak!!!
Take care!
eb-yeah it’s a huge relief to me to be totally sure and comfortable. It’s no problem typing out my story because it gives me practice for when I retake the dispatch exam in three months.
nolarn:
Good! I never thought about that…all the typing here helping you to pass the test! LF is the bomb!! 🙂
yes lovefraud da bomb!
EB, Oh my God! Been there done that! I worked for a fortune 500 company as a secretary. I had an awesome future there and I had a horrible vice-pres spath get me fired from there. I was a cute little petite blond. He was hitting on me, after my spath ex-husband I can recognize a spath on site. So I knew the guy was playing a game with me and I refused to play. I kinda ignored him. I was married and didn’t want office gossip of any kind. To make a long story short the guy turned everyone else in the office against me and these were people I previously was on a friendly basis with. Remember we talked about the herd mentality how spath’s can turn a group of people against a victim and bully them?
Well that’s what happened to me. Then he starting nixing my work and saying on didn’t turn this in or that in. He was also planting things. Turning in unfinished reports and saying I did them, etc. I could go on and on. I went to personnel to
complain but no one believed me. Eventually he got me fired.
After a couple months he over stepped his bounds and tried the same game on another lady. This time they were wise to him and he got fired. One of my desires is to someday write a book on psycho’s in the workplace. If I ever get the time! LOL!
Joanie-OMG I was right where you were at work. I had a spath, actually several of them pull the herd thing on me at my last nursing job and got me fired. I had a spotless reputation and great references. It was high pay and I was planning on staying there until I went back to the police academy. I made the mistake of telling that to one person that I thought I could trust. She told EVERYONE and a lot of times nurses can be super spathy and cruel to someone who wants out of their profession. I had a lady tell an outright lie that I sedated a patient outside my scope of practice-they agency found out that we worked in the same place and called her to get her opinion on me. Then they told me that they decided not to hire me after all. I could have been working everyday since March-even it weren’t for her. Spathbitch.