With all the uproar over Arnold Schwarzenegger and his “love child,” our friend Ann over at WomenExplode.com just wrote about her own experience of a cheating husband.
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How to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths - narcissists
Darwinsmom, anyone can tell a story about something that happened to them. But I most enjoy reading stories about the meaning people find in what happened – like your story. I wrote a short story about the 2 years I was a part-time stripper. Needless to say, when you’ve gone into guys’ private homes and taken off your clothes for two years, there are plenty of stories to tell. Some are hilarious; some are downright scary. But it was very important for me to talk about the why’s and lessons learned. Why did I do it? How did I think/feel about myself while I was doing it? What did I learn from it? And how did it change me? The stories fade; the men all blend together after a while. But the lessons are lifelong.
Thanks for sharing this piece of your history. I can’t imagine what it’s like to go through something like that (although I may get a better idea after I move to Costa Rica).
Nolarn:
If it’s any consolation, it is a holiday weekend and I am alone. This is typical. I can’t jump in the car and drive 400 miles to my family all the time and all the friends I do have are married with children or have serious boyfriends so they are all doing their own thing. So I went for a walk/jog (it’s very hot here today…finally!!) and then I went to WalMart and then came home…big woop!!! But as I have said in many other posts, I am an introvert and I don’t necessarily need people. I don’t draw my energy from people, but I guess my thing is I feel the whole world is running around me and I don’t have a “life.” I’m not married (was married once a long time ago), never had any children, etc. so my life is pretty empty actually.
eb92044 – May I suggest something? Ok? Here goes.
People like ‘us’ need to feel needed. Yeah? How about some volunteer work?
The pub I go to …..well I volunteer once a week for a couple of hours to serve behind the bar. It gives me a feel good factor and I get to chat. If I want to do it, I can, but if one week I don’t wanna go then I just let them know, no pressure. But it makes ME feel good and needed. Just a suggestion.
How about prison visiting?????! Only joking. There’s always hospitals, homes for the elderly, day centres, hospice, Samaritans etc
candy – you bad!
candy said:’How about prison visiting????’
candy:
We do need to feel needed, don’t we?? 🙂
I do volunteer sometimes through church, but I really don’t do as much as I could especially with the time I have on my hands now. So thank you for this…I needed the kick in the pants to get out there and do more!
Yeah, I could pick up a nice, handsome spath at the prison! NOT!!
eb, that sounds weird “drawing energy from people”… healthy extraverts don’t draw their energy from other people, as in they don’t take it from them… it is the interaction itself that creates energy within the extravert. It’s my own energy, created by myself… I just need social interaction to free it. It’s like physical exercise… after doing physical exercise, you may feel tired, but at hte same time very energized.
🙂
thanks ya’ll for all the great things you said to me. Onestep-I love hearing words from you. I have been sleeping and that’s why I haven’t responded. I just got up and got a perfect example of how my hormones are messed up-I’m having wet dreams, and apparently women can have them-I read before but I don’t remember them. I wake up and it’s pretty obvious what happened. Feel free to laugh any time you want.
For ever said that I can get a job anywhere as an RN-that is what the media is telling you. In this economy the nursing shortage is eliminated and people need to stop telling people that nurses can get jobs. New graduate nurses are coming out of school and working minimum wage jobs because that’s all they can get. Experienced RN’s like me have it hard if we were out of it for anytime because we start to cost too much to hire. When the economy tanked, nurses where were either working part time, as needed, or taking a break, all went back to full time jobs. A lot of them due to financial fear and a lot of them due to spouses who had lost jobs and left the family with no healthcare. It’s un heard of for someone like me to be out of a job since February. This month I just got on with these temp agencies with very minimum hours yet due to hospitals not holding orientations enough. I don’t have health insurance and I need to see my doc. No one can believe that I can’t find work with my credentials, experience, and references. I have applied for over 100 jobs and had one phone interview and one in person interview. I didn’t get one of the jobs cuz it was part of the same company that fired me and the other one I am still waiting on the disorganized and incompetent nurse manager to get my application off the bottom of her stack and decide to interview. These hospitals are so mananagement heavy. It’s too many chiefs and not enough Indians and they need the Indians more. It’s worse when the chief is obviously not able to handle to job and her ICU is a trainwreck because the nurses are overworked, underpaid, and understaffed and keep leaving. Her turnover is so high. I hear all about it from acquaintances who work there. I would be such a hugh asset to her unit. In ten years I have never had a patient complain once about the care that I provide. Occasionally a coworker may dislike my personality or the way that I do things but patients love me. I am so good with them-even though I despise nursing will all that is in me and can’t wait to get the hell out. I am 38 and I CANNOT do this until I retire or I will go postal.
OK rant over!
Does anyone here enjoy housework? It’s a great distraction. I love it, it gives me a real feel-good factor, it’s kind of….. therapeutic.
Or am I completely bonkers?
darwinsmom:
Sorry, didn’t mean it to sound that way, but that’s the way I have always heard it referred to in the US. It is funny though…sounds like I am siphoning energy out of people like a gas tank…haha!