With all the uproar over Arnold Schwarzenegger and his “love child,” our friend Ann over at WomenExplode.com just wrote about her own experience of a cheating husband.
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candy:
I HATE housework. You can come clean my house! 🙂
WHich one of you got the salvation army to pay your rent and utilities and how did you go about that. I have never needed help until now and I don’t know how to get it. I only probably need it for a month until the work gets more consistent. My rent is about to be late and I can’t pay my car note or utilities or phone/internet. I am hoping that sprint will let me pay half my bill and not disconnect me. If they disconnect me then I can’t call 911 or for any help and I also can’t really look for jobs the way I need too-or no more LF and I need LF right now really bad.
nolarn:
Thanks for clearing that up for me about the RN deal. I guess a lot has tanked since the economy is bad and that includes nursing. I thought it was recession proof, but I guess not!
THat’s one of the things really frustrating to me and other unemployed nurses. The media keeps telling people that nursing is recesiion proof and it is NOT. I am trying to go back to the police academy next year. Even law enforcement used to be recession proof as well. We have learned just this year, that as things get worse and worse with the economy, they slow down or stop hiring officers and states like NJ and some others are actually laying off police officers. Who does that? NOLA hasn’t hired EMS in a long time. We are only having one police class this year, which I can’t be in due to my weight/physical shape now. That’s totally frustrating too.. They fired so many cops this year for malfeasance/wrongdoing that they have decided to hire this one small class and my weight is the only thing holding me back from being in it-when I can’t find work. Now would be a perfect time financially for me to go but I can’t afford healthy food enough to lose weight. I have Polycystic Ovarian syndrom and possible premature menopause, which makes weight loss a bigger struggle. I have to eat perfectly clean and do hard exercise to lose the tiniest bit and now I am choosing between food and gas money so I can work the few hours that I get. I have to drive an hour each way for work until the local hospital system does orientation on the 10th of June. I am really terrified right now.
candy, I love housework when I do it the FLY-ing way… 15 mins here, 15 mins there. No perfection, just donig the little bit of work and see what a difference it already makes.
eb, don’t worry. Didn’t take offense… just wanted to clarify it… I know it’s a misconception or misrepresentation. 🙂 An introverts energy system is very different than that of an extravert. I had a 5.5 year long term relationship with an introvert, and he was totally mystified by my energy use. He always assumed that what I did would drain me from energy, while for me it was more like blowing off steam of excess energy. I was young then early 20s, didn’t understand myself fully either. Anyway he started to “advize” me on how to behave around people (he’d kick my foot if he felt I was too chatty) as well as at home, and he didn’t like to go to parties much at all. What he reasoned made sense, so I tried his way… at some point my energy had become so flat, that I appeared as a depressed person. And I felt empty inside, no feeling whatsoever, and I didn’t even know why. I wasn’t depressed: my therapist weaned me off the anti-depressants my normal doctor had prescribed ASAP and told me I was having an ID-crisis. He didn’t like it at all I was getting therapy, and eventually broke it off the day after I graduated from university. Then I learned the difference between extraverts and intraverts. It’s normal imo that an introvert doesn’t really get extravert energy usage and repleneshing, when it’s the opposite of their oxn lifelong experience…. and vice versa.
nolarn:
I feel for you as far as trouble losing weight. I am small, but I have started menopausal symptoms (I am going on 48) and what you said about weight loss in menopause is right on the money. I have to work MUCH harder now to even lose 5 pounds. I am bloated all the time because i am missing periods, etc. I feel like crap sometimes. But it’s a motivator to me because I know if I don’t exercise it will only get worse.
I am not always the best at giving advice. I wish I could do something to help you…
darwinsmom:
Yeah, extroverts and introverts are definitely two different breeds of people that is for sure. And I don’t think we usually understand each other as far as where the energies come from. That’s almost odd that your long term boyfriend tried to “make” you like him! That would have never worked in the long run. I hope you were not too upset about that breakup?
I always considered myself not an introvert or extovert but somewhere in between. I guess I don’t understand extreme introversion-which would apply to what lives next door. I am way more extroverted. I don’t understand how one person can stay inside all weekend when the weather is gorgeous and not come out at all. Apparently some people do that very well. I am so bored and isolated that it’s killing me. I have to be careful about going places due to the gas issue with the car and I have to conserve so that I can drive to and from work tomorrow.
nolarn:
Yeah, I know what you mean. I am an introvert, but NOT like that. I love to be outside when it is nice…go for a drive; love being in the car. I walk/jog outside all the time. I have only become a little more isolated since I gave up my full time job last year. I do have a part time job now that I just got a few weeks ago, but it’s only 1-2 days per week, but that is all I want right now. I will be traveling a lot this summer so don’t want to tie myself down too much. I can pick up more hours when it gets cold again.
eb-right now I am bored, depressed, anxious and frustrated. I am cleaning the house. Usually I always go out and spend time outdoors cuz I love the heat and humidity but today I am feeling so down that I don’t want to do it.