Many people who write us have children who have their own attorneys because in difficult cases the court assigns and pays for them. We have heard many stories now and sadly it seems unusual that parents say these attorneys have helped protect their children.
It’s nice to know that the legal profession is also concerned that children receive ethical and competent representation. There is actually an American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) that developed in 1995 Standards for Attorneys and Guardians ad Litem in Custody or Visitation Proceedings. These standards have recently been revised and there is considerable debate about just what the role of children’s attorneys should be.
In 2003, the American Bar Association developed its own standards, and in 2006, the Uniform Law Commission (ULC) (formerly the National Conference of Commissioners on Uniform State Laws) released a draft of its Model Act regarding children’s attorneys.
The heart of the debate is whether it is ethical for an attorney to formulate his/her own opinion about what would be best then argue for that opinion before the court.
In an important article, The AAML’s revised standards for representing children in custody and visitation proceedings: the reporter’s perspective, Martin Guggenheim, (Fiorello LaGuardia Professor of Clinical Law, New York University School of Law), argues that children’s attorneys should not be allowed to advocate for their own personal opinions. He states:
It is one thing to want to hear from a neutral investigator who has spoken with the child in an extended way. It is another entirely to empower this investigator to try to ensure that the case comes out the way the investigator wants. The one adds to the case the findings of the investigator but leaves the case in the hands of the court and the adult parties to debate how much the investigator’s views and opinions ought to matter. The other contaminates the proceeding by adding a forceful and skilled advocate who is now advocating for the outcome s/he has selected. This is not only dangerous; it is unnecessary.
Professor Guggeinheim argues that the court needs neutral trained experts that can assess families, report to the court and be subject to cross examination. A layers job is to advocate for what his client wants, Guggeinheim concludes “I hope others in the field of custody and visitation disputes who are interested in improving practice will build off of the (AAML’s) Standards by supporting efforts to limit sharply the use of the term “children’s attorney.” If we could agree to call someone a child’s lawyer only when we expect him or her to advocate for the objectives sought by the child, we can then work on the rest of the issues plaguing the field.”
The problem with lawyers formulating their own opinions and arguing for them, is that they are subject to being deceived by the sociopath and may not even know that psychopathic personality traits are something they should watch out for. I agree with Professor Guggeinheim in that allowing these lawyers to only represent the child’s wishes prevents them from having undue influence over the outcome.
Recently someone told me about a Guardian ad Litem (GAL) who tried to convince a child to see the psychopath parent saying “children are better off when they have relationships with their parents.” Thankfully the child now a tween is wise enough to understand that this dictum does not always apply.
In hearing these stories in the last 2 weeks I came to a realization. There has really been a great deal of research done regarding what factors help shape development in a positive way. It is only natural that clinicians, academics and others would want the family courts to utilize this information to help children. The problem is that clinicians are trained to understand and interpret the data that comes from these kinds of studies. They are also trained in how to apply that data to individual cases.
For example an oncologist reads about treatments for cancer. He knows that these treatments do not work 100% of the time. He also knows that there are certain characteristics of tumors that increase the likelihood they will respond. He then looks for these characteristics in individual patients and can predict how likely it is the patient will have the outcome suggested by clinical research. Clinicians have a natural understanding of percentages and variability in people.
The legal profession has an opposite mandate. Lawyers and judges ignore individual differences and try to treat everyone the same, equal justice under the law. Therefore, I conclude that it is impossible for a lawyer or judge without specialized training to understand how to apply clinical studies to a legal setting. We have to do a better job in the process of going from study to practice in the courtroom.
Please comment on your GAL experience in the comment section.
Addendum: Thanks to everyone who has written in response to this issue. I am working on getting back to you all! Everyone has very important insights to share.
oxdrover – Thank you, and thank you for understanding that I cannot go back right now for custody….everyone keeps telling me to go and get custody, as she is being verbally and emotionally abused (with minor physical stuff), but I can’t seem to get anyone else to understand that this is not a cut and dry thing, and that the courts don’t always work the way they should. And having 60% custody right now is better than taking the chance on losing most custody to a sociopath who would NOT have her best interests at heart.
My sister, who works for the government, keeps telling me no judge in their right mind would give custody to someone who does the things he does, but she isn’t understanding that not all judges are in their right minds, and a talented sociopath and his lawyer can say almost anything in court and be somewhat believable.
Dear Still in shock,
If you have not read the book in the LF store about Legal Abuse Syndrome, you should! It addresses this abuse and it is as bad or worse than the abuse you get from the X. I kinow your sister has good intentions but she does NOT apparently understand that there is NO JUSTICE IN COURTS, oh, sometimes there is, but most times not in family court. Judges can be influenced, bribed, or just be stupid or opinionated and can even be psychopaths themselves or hate women. So it is not LAW it is OPINION OF ONE MAN/WOMAN. Stick to your guns. You have made the best possible decision that you know is not going to be worse for now. Keep her in therapy and do the best you can. Hopefully she will see the light eventually.
Also, go to Dr. Leedom’s “raising the at risk child” blog (there’s a connection here on LF. She has some amazing information and support. God bless you and I do think for what my opinion is worth that you are making a reasonable choice given an unreasonable situation. Hang in there. (((Hugs))))
Dear Stillinshock,
I understand completely your reasoning behind not wanting to go back into court for sole custody. I think that you are doing just the right thing. People who have not been through “the system” believe it works the way IT SHOULD WORK. It very seldom does, we who have been there understand that all too clearly.
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard the “no judge in their right mind” from family and friends. They mean well, they just don’t understand that most judges apparently are not in their right minds.
Keep up the therapy with your daughter and giving her all the love and support you can.
Best to you.
Dr. Leedam, you are spot on. My children have an attorney assigned to them. This same attorney really beleived the story my ex husband and his wife spun, she attacked me.
I told her that there had been physical abuse in our marriage and in his current marriage. The kids have been there a few times when the police have been to their home. She told me that it is OK if their dad hits their stepmom as long as he is not hurting the girls. WHAT!?!?!?! It is in the best interest of the girls for them to be in a home where there is violence?
She was also suppossed to be there to inforce the court order, yet I called her, she was not available. I left a messages
and she never called back. My ex husband does not have to abide by a court order because she would not do anything about it. My attorney threw her under a bus with this info. and still, nothing happened. In fact, she has never called to see how the girls are doing, how the the court order was being followed or anything. She dropped out of sight.
Did I mention that this was the 2nd court appointed attorney? The first was really good at protecting the girls, she did her research, she spoke to teachers, therapists, the girls and had to deal with my ex. She recommended that I have full custody and I was granted that, temporaily. Until, she changed her mind. Come to find out, she had “personal” business with my ex’s new attorney. She was released from the case due to conflict of interest.
The court system is a joke in this county. This county has a reputation as the worst county. Other attorneys make comments that it is like going to another planet when coming out to this court, Riverside Family Court.
There is a web site, and I wish I could remember what the name of it is (maybe someone else here will remember) I have CRS, but it is for reporting courts like that and judges in a forum of how you were dealt with there. You might want to see if you could find it and put your judge’s name and the court up there for the world to see. Good luck and God bless you, sounds like you have a hard row to hoe! (((Hugs)))
This just in – letter from P-daughter’s attorney to our attorney – my client wants to see her son before custody might be further pursued as opposed to a visitation schedule at this time —–
SHE WANTS TO SEE HIM BEFORE SHE DECIDES IF SHE WILL PURSUE CUSTODY ???????
Does she want to check his teeth and see if he is lame ???????
This from a mother (and I use the term loosely) who has spent the child’s life neglecting and rejecting him.
Knowing our GAL, she will think nothing of this remark.
MiLo, darlink! You must quit expecting either the GAL or your P-daughter to think with common sense. They are neither from this planet!
Maybe she does want to check his teeth or see if he is big enough yet to wait on her hand and foot like a little house slave.
Grrrrrrr! (that’s the sound of me grinding my teeth!)
Oxy –
BANG – BANG – BANG – That is me banging my head up against the wall.
Love MiLO
Milo:
Passing the ice pack your way!
XXOO
Dear MiLo, All I can do is to shake my head and “stress laugh” over it. I know it isn’t funny, not a “funny laugh” but a laugh to keep from jumping off a tall building or hitting myself in the head with a hammer. It is just one of those things that are so hard to comprehend even though we KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON.
For the GAL to be that dense, stupid….fill in the term….is just beyond comprehension.