Last Tuesday night, I woke up at about 2 AM unable to sleep. I turned on CNN and there was Rodney Alcala, a man who lived down the street from the house I grew up in, in Monterey Park, California. I was not surprised to see a story about him since I knew of his arrests and convictions for murder.
When Anderson Cooper said the police just released hundreds of photographs found in a Seattle storage locker belonging to Alcala, I sat up to take a closer look. Sure enough, at least 4 pictures of me at age 17 were among those found by police and released out of worry that they depict victims.
My initial reaction was one of embarrassment, and I eagerly awaited the hours to pass so I could telephone the police and ask them to please take those pictures down. I also worried that my mother would see them and feel frightened. I finally got through to the police late that afternoon. As I told the detective about my interactions with Alcala, I realized that this was one of those “teachable moments.” So when he asked me if his department could pass along my name to the press, I agreed.
I have given detailed information to a number of inquiring journalists. I am very disappointed with them so far. Isn’t it rather ironic that one of the people Rodney Alcala photographed and “spared” is now devoted to raising awareness of and preventing the disorder he has? Instead of sensationalizing a sociopath, shouldn’t the press (out of respect for the victims) be educating the public about sociopaths and sociopathy?
Members of the press, please use this moment to teach people about the sociopaths who live in the neighborhoods of America!
In subsequent weeks, I will share more details of my encounters and conversations with Alcala. He did leave a lasting impression on me for several reasons aside from his arrest and convictions for murder.
First and foremost, it was Alcala who told me about the organization Mensa. He was very proud of his own “genius” and wore jewelry with the Mensa logo. Initially, I thought I remembered a neck medallion on a silver chain but having looked at pictures of Mensa items, I can’t say for sure if there wasn’t also a ring. Knowing what I know now, I believe it is entirely possible that Alcala was never a member of Mensa and that his claims were an example of pathologic lying.
But, assuming that Alcala is a genius, how rare is he? How common are genius sociopaths? The numbers are actually staggering. There are 219 million adults living in America. Anywhere from 1-4 percent are sociopaths. That gives us an estimate of 2-8 million adult sociopaths in America. That also means that 1-4 of every one hundred people you meet or who live near you is a sociopath.
Since psychologists love to administer IQ tests, there has been quite a bit of research examining intelligence in sociopaths. In all, the results show that sociopaths do not score any differently on these tests than anyone else. If you look at a group of sociopaths, there are dull, average and very intelligent scoring people in the same frequency as the general population. Researchers have argued about this data because many clinicians believe the average sociopath is “of superior intelligence.” But I can explain why one might get that impression.
If it is true that a group of sociopaths scores the same as a group of non-sociopaths on an IQ test, then roughly 2-4 percent of sociopaths are geniuses, depending on how you define genius. That means there are between 40,000-320,000 genius sociopaths living in America. In other words, perhaps 1 of every 1,000 adults you meet is a genius sociopath!
Now also consider by the definition of average looks, there are between 20,000 and 160,000, average to good looking, genius sociopaths in America. That is not very rare. About 300,000 people die every year from heart attacks and we think that is a big number. Why aren’t we more concerned about the problem of sociopathy?
Everyone keeps asking me, “which of the pictures is you?” I am #s 123, 186, 194 and 197.
Dear Dr. Leedom,
Beautiful picture, and if pictures tell a story…I see a sweet doey faced girl with a hint of sadness and vulnerability in her eyes…It’s the look and stamp that Sociopaths look for in their vicitms.
What was going on in your life at that time? what compelled you to go with him to his house? was there anything he did that made you feel that “fight or flight” sensation?
Thank God you were not one of his vicitims!…how freightening to realize that you were so close….and got away.
Thank you for all your contributions to LF
Wow, they really ARE “the boy next door”. What are the chances? I’m curious to hear what he was like when you knew him. You are so lucky to be alive! The one I dated was certainly very down-to-earth, sweet, and like the boy next door. Amazing. On a scarier note, I am in the process of trying to join Mensa, ironically, as one more avenue to meet men and start dating. I’d really hate to think the the sociopathic population is overrepresented there. That would just make my heart sink.
Star,
I think N/S/P’s are some of the most intelligent people I’ve met….starting with my N father who is a well regarded and successfull business man and intellect, followed by the ex-S BF who is ” The boy next door” I loved. It was for me his intelligence and success that turned me on, allong of course with his oozing charm and sexuality.
So look out girl when you join Mensa.
Aeylah,
I certainly will, but I’m not sure I did as well on the test as I need to anyway. Perhaps it is a blessing in disguise. I don’t think my ex-spath was particularly brilliant as he was crafty. In fact, he was stupid enough to cause his own demise in the end. (You probably don’t know the whole story, but some day I will tell it in its entirety here.) He definitely had the charm and oozing sexuality, but the first time I met him, he was overbearing and inappropriate, trying to get too physically close to me. I got the “ick” and joked around with my friends that he was stalking me. His craftiness was in the way he was able to assess my reactions and pull back, as though he were a totally different person. I’ve never seen any guy do that before.
Another guy I briefly “talked to” on my reptile site was another such predator. He was extremely charming and managed to get under my skin after a few phone conversations. But he was extremely stupid. I was amazed that I could fall for someone who could barely even spell his own name. Again, he busted himself as a player with his own stupidity.
They are crafty, but they usually end up bringing themselves down in the end. Sometimes you have to wait a little longer to see it, but it usually happens.
Star,
“They are crafty, but they usually end up bringing themselves down in the end. Sometimes you have to wait a little longer to see it, but it usually happens”….this story of Rodney Alcala certainly proves your point.
I’m sure your story is a good one….they usually are… they ALL have some of the SAME PATHOS!
The ex-S in my life was crafty too…came off as being earthy, sensitive and full of “self awareness” about who he is yet he would dismiss himself saying “you know how I am and I can’t change that, you just have to love me the way I am”…… still cant believe what a sucker I’ve been and worse how much I still miss him (the “good” illusions) at the same time.
Still waiting for him to bring himself down!
I remember when I was about 15, my parents and I went to visit my sister in Albuquerque. My sister and her husband took us to a large corporate picnic [in a huge wooded state park] where there was much food/activity/people. I played baseball and enjoyed myself greatly. Afterwards, I sat down to drink and eat. I began to feel oddly and glanced up to see a male about 35, staring intently at me, from a distance. He kept trying to lock eyes with me and did for a minute. He motioned with his head for me to leave the group and come close to him, where he was offside from the area. He was handsome, mature and I was just beginning to grow up, so I was flattered, at first. Then, it freaked me and I told my brother in law, who saw him and said he was not part of their group. The man then moved quickly away and was lost in the crowd, while my brother in law tried to get to him. At any rate, he got away, and I’ve sometimes thought about this over the years and it always gives me a shudder!
TB, that is sooo scarey. These predators are everywhere. No one is safe. I wish science would hurry up and find out what causes it and how to prevent it.
Stargazer…when I first heard of you applying to Mensa I thought it a good idea for meeting men, and maybe it still is. But I am sure there are some there because of narcissistic and entitlement traits, even if not full blown sociopaths! But you know what to look out for!
Kim: it is scary and I will bet most of us have had some sort of experience along these lines, if we think about it. Maybe not this open, but similar.
Aww you were beautiful Diane, such a lovely photo!
Interesting article as I always use the IQ thing as a reality check with people.
I was identified as a gifted child quite young, I was reading at 3 and my childhood IQ age 9 was 133.
My current adult IQ is 146 (I’m 31) This apparently puts me in roughly the top 2-2.5% of the population.
I use my IQ as a way of showing people just how common sociopaths are because of the way that most think they only belong in horror films.
I basically tell them that since roughly 2% of people have my IQ while sociopaths & psychopaths, according to current thought, make up as many as 4% of the population, people basically have at least double the chance of meeting a sociopath as they do of someone with my IQ score…!
“Go figure”, I say, “I’m standing right in front of you…” !!!
I love how I can use my IQ for that and I often wonder if that is why I was given it! xxx