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Shining a light on emotional rape

Editor’s note: Joyce M. Short is the author of a soon to be released book, “Carnal Abusive Deceit When a Predator’s Lies Become Rape.” The book chronicles her life with a predator, the subsequent aftermath and her road to recovery. It also provides advice for victims and their supporters, and discusses the issues surrounding criminalization of rape-by-fraud. Joyce lives in New York City, where she’s a real estate broker, professional tennis instructor and a strong advocate for her community.

A Predator’s “Mark” Often Struggles to Overcome Rape-by-Fraud or Emotional Rape

By Joyce M. Short

I was hoodwinked by a charlatan. It was not until I found the appropriate terms to express what I’d experienced that I actually began to feel relief. He lied about everything ”¦ his age, his education, his marital status, military service and more. The man who seduced me, who I came to adore, was nothing but a charade.

Once I learned of his treachery, it took years to mend. It was complicated by the fact that we had a child together. As I struggled through his physical and financial abandonment, depression and the sense of defilement that resulted from his wrongdoing, I finally determined to write a book about it. Doing so enabled me to put the facts and his behavior into context. Beforehand, they were jarring memories loosely floating through my consciousness and disturbing my peace. While purposeless rumination and a sense of deprivation were eating me alive, he skipped along on his way to an affluent, secure life. My determination to write the book renewed my sense of power, which had been stripped away by his debasing actions.

Writing my story

Writing is a process, and writing about one’s painful past is fraught with starts, stops and detours. Facing the most painful memories can erode one’s spirit as we relive the actions that caused us so much grief. As I continued writing, I attempted to convey how “raped” I felt at his hands. I coined what I thought was my own invention for describing his impact, “emotionally raped.” I decided to take a look on the Internet and see if it was a term that was in common usage.

Before I completed typing all the letters, the words, “emotional rape” sprang up, denoting that the term actually existed in techno space. Before me lay several options to chose from. I was overwhelmed. Tears streamed down my cheeks and I had to take a few minutes to collect myself before I could continue. Just the validation alone that what I felt was an actual, identifiable occurrence that someone, somewhere in the universe knew about was mind blowing.

Rape-by-fraud

I’ve continued researching and writing since then. Today I understand that when someone pretends to be a person they are not in order to induce you to have sex with them, they are committing the crime of rape-by-fraud. When they deceive you about their character in order to cause you to feel a loving bond with them, they are committing emotional rape. They are defrauding you of your highest emotion, which is love.

Unfortunately, the crime of rape-by-fraud is only punishable in a number of states: California, Massachusetts and Tennessee. Emotional rape is not punishable anywhere.

If you felt raped at the hands of a predator who lied to you, but were not physically overcome, now you know why. Rape by duping someone is as much a means to circumvent your opposition as doping would be. Doping a victim to engage in sex is widely known as “date rape” and punishable by law. The act of sex does not have to hurt you physically in order to hurt you emotionally. The trauma and confusion to victims increases with the length of time that sex with the imposter continues.

Just as doctors can’t prescribe cures until the illness is known, victims of rape-by-fraud and emotional rape have a difficult time recovering from something they don’t recognize or understand. Once a person knows what they are dealing with, they can take the necessary steps to heal themselves.

 


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the sisterhood

Thank you, Joyce, for this important article. I am absolutely going to buy your book. Emotional rape was the WORST abuse I suffered at the hands of my N/Spath. I was used as a sexual object and didn’t even realize it. It all started way back in high school where this awkward, sweet boy had a crush on me. I was already seeing someone else, but this sweet boy had something about him that I found endearing. My ego was boosted by his attention and because I came from a family that deprived me of much needed love, my self-esteem was in tatters. I basically jumped at the chance of being adored by someone. We were intimate, but I went back to my then boyfriend at the time. I though it was all over. He even wound up going out with someone else.

Apparently it wasn’t over for him. His crush remained and he told everyone of his friends about our intimate experience and that he was so in-love with me. I felt bad because my feelings weren’t mutual, but I still cared for him and have to admit that it was thrilling for me to be adored so much. I would have some of his friends come up to me and tell me how much he loved me. There was one incident back then, however, that was a red flag. We were at a party together several months after our intimate encounter and while with other people now. A boy I didn’t know came up to me and starting hitting on me hard. When I asked him why he was coming on so strong he replied, “We’ll that guy over there said you had sex with him.” Hmmm…

In the subsequent years the sweet boy would call me and we would get together now an then. Sometimes it was innocent and casual and other times more intimate. We were both with significant others and we never left our respective significant others to fully be with one another. Then after 4 years he called me out of the blue. I had since broken up with my boyfriend, and then another boyfriend, and I was free. He invited me up to his college and I went. That night was sweet and he had told me that he had spent several years thinking about me every single day. I was the love of his life and that he even thought of so many ways to get me back. I asked him if he was still with his girlfriend and he said they weren’t serious because of college.

Over the next few weeks we saw each other again and on one magical night he professed his first, “I Love You.” This was the very first time he said it and I really believed him. After that I found myself falling in love with him. The catch was that he was going overseas for a few months.

While he was away, he would send me the most fantastic love letters. I was hooked. Here’s another catch, HE WAS STILL WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND. He finally admitted that his relationship with her was serious and that he wasn’t sure what he was going to do. I was crushed.

When he returned from his trip, he let me know that he and his girlfriend did, in fact, break up. I was overjoyed and leaped into his arms, but he stopped me and put up his hand and said, “But I’m not ready for a serious relationship.”…WHAT!!! What does that mean. After all the love letters and sweeping declarations, he no longer wanted me and only me. Huh?

We did date for that summer, but the whole time I felt his distance. Whenever we were around his friends, I felt as though I was out of the loop about something. It was always strange because I was, for the most part, the only female hanging out with the group. As the weeks rolled by, I was devalued more and more and kept at a distance more and more. I was aware if it and not at all comfortable with it, but I couldn’t understand it. We were still very intimate every evening. He even suggested we experiment with bottles and such. I trusted him, so I went along with everything. I really still thought I was the love of his life.

We broke up and then got back together, but it was never, ever the same as it was in the beginning. He would argue with me and yell at me all the time. He wasn’t the same sweet, awkward boy I remembered.

One particular incident was a real turning point for me emotionally, though. We were up at one of his friend’s colleges and all the guys got into a huge hot tub. I got in too. My love, all of a sudden, started to pay a lot of adoring attention to me. I was actually grateful and excited that he was showing affection. Then, all of a sudden, he slipped my panties to the side and entered me. In shock, I yelled out and his friends jut stared at me. I told my boyfriend to stop but he said not to worry, that no one could see. After the deed, my boyfriend wanted nothing to do with me. He avoided me or made excuses whenever I tried to get affectionate.

I wound up cheating on my boyfriend, kind of, with one of his friends (I did not have intercourse with this boy). I thought this particular friend was a support to me and understood what I was going through. It turns out, he was just using me, too. I immediately tried to break up with my boyfriend after what I had done because I felt so bad and horrible. My boyfriend said he didn’t want to break up and that we will just forget about the incident. A couple of weeks later, he proceeded to humiliate me at a bar where he and his “friend” sang a despairing karaoke song to me. I had no idea it was about me until everyone at our table looked at me with shaming eyes.

After about another few months and more of the same behavior from him, I finally had the courage to break up with him once and for all. He then proceeded to tell me how all his friends hated me and that I was a bitch and not a nice person. I was blown away. I never did anything horrible to his friends and I always tried to love my boyfriend. He just screamed down at me as I was crying sitting on the curb outside his house.

Flash forward another year, I was at a bar where two of his friends were! I was uncomfortable, but they assured me that my ex wasn’t there. They were very nice to me and I was so relieved that they didn’t hate me like my ex said. They invited me up to their hotel room where a whole group of people were partying. I showed up and was the only girl…I went outside and sat on the balcony. The two friends joined me and I proceeded to cry and tell them how devastated I was at the whole break-up. They appeared to be very sympathetic and really listened. It was very late, so we went back inside the room to go to bed. When we got in there, everyone else was sleeping. We laid on the floor and the one boy took off all his clothes. I turned to the other boy and proceeded to giggle because I just thought the boy was being silly. The second boy then kissed me and the nude boy came over and joined him. Before I knew it, their hands were all over me. It didn’t last too long and only heavy petting, but I felt so dirty and humiliated. While they were having fun with me, they told me that my ex told them all the sexual things I would do.

Since that time, my ex engaged in a severe smear campaign against me that has lasted for 17 years. I feel as if I have been emotionally raped quite a few times. All because of my ex/Spath.

I can’t believe I just typed all of this, but I think I needed to get it out since this article is about exactly what I have been going through,

Thank You.

P.S. My ex had sex with several women while he was overseas and while me and his his girlfriend were back home waiting for him. He had also cheated on his then girlfriend with other women stateside. He is now married to one of the women he cheated on his girlfriend with and then left me for.

Obviously, your ex has a wicked set of morals. His pecker and his emotions have no connection, probably because he has no emotions!

While he didn’t lie about his identity, which would be consistent with rape-by-fraud, he mislead you about his emotional intentions and elicited love under false pretenses. That’s emotional rape.

Sounds like the two fellas that overwhelmed you together committed rape because they surely did not secure your consent before embarking on their behavior. Unfortunately, because the law is unlikely to support your report of wrongdoing, it would be extremely difficult for you to seek justice through the courts.

The failure of the legal system to recognize or support the concept of “knowing consent” will not make you feel any less defiled or violated by their actions. You’ll need to recover your personal empowerment and set clear boundaries for your expectations from others.

You’ve learned that there are folks out there who think of sex as nothing more than entertainment, and they don’t wear signs that say, “I’d like to use you as a sex object.” Instead, they overcome your resistance by appealing to your emotions.

Don’t become jaded, simply become knowledgeable and aware. Make sure that the next person you give your heart to is capable of returning the favor by researching their character.

We live in a world where alliances are formed through techno space. We make new acquaintances daily. Be sure to thoroughly weed out the predators who are out there. What they did before, they will do again. Make sure they don’t do it to you!

I hope sharing your story helped you along the road to recovery. Sometimes putting it down in black and white enables us to stop the constant ruminating that impedes us from progressing. It’s almost as if we are so incensed by the injustice that we’re afraid we’ll lose a part of ourselves if we don’t constantly think about it. Writing it down enables us to separate from those thoughts, if only momentarily, knowing we can go back to them when we chose.

The benefit is to place activities that empower you and bring you joy into the space that ruminating took up.

Wishing you peace and joy.

Joyce

the sisterhood

Thank you for your reply, Joyce. I’m not sure about the rape option for the two guys who manipulated me. We had no sex oral or vaginal. It was just heavy petting and I did not stop them. Yes, I was in a vulnerable state emotionally and quite frankly I was just numb. I didn’t care anymore. Something died inside me at that moment. It left me devasted but I never, ever acknowledged it for about 10 years. I pushed it down, way down. When I finally did acknowledge the truth of what happened, I felt immense shame…I have since worked through that shame. I now understand I was violated.

I think what my ex did in the hot tub was more on target for date-rape. I wanted him to stop, but he continued because he was trying to score alpha dog cool points with his friends. That experience still haunts me.

I have moved on and am married now to a wonderful and loving human being. I don’t visit online dating sites or anything. I think my radar is good now with detecting users and manipulators.

It is just still difficult to accept that someone I thought I could trust, a boy that I had known for a few years and that others were vouching for, could turn out to be so horrible. And his wife now doesn’t see what I went through. She’s blind to it. Only knows what she’s been told by him and his buddies. He got away with it and his buddies can back up what a messed up whore I am by their version of events.

It just sucks!

It’s extremely difficult to get past the feeling of defilement and injustice. It can haunt you for a very long time. One does not need the validation of the courts to recognize whether or not they were raped. And the trauma of that betrayal can stick with you like glue.

You’re truly fortunate to have someone in your life that you can trust and feel joy with but you might benefit by getting professional help to give you some emotional distance from the past.

All the best!
Joyce

lovingthem

When and where will this book be available? Yes, emotional rape and rape by fraud are the inevitable injustices of relationship fraud. I don’t know if I’ll ever heal.

I promise…… you will heal with time and enlightenment. Healing may not be the return to your former self that you’d like it to be. It could be taking comfort that you got past a dreadful experience and that you are capable of feeling joy in your life once again.

We can never reclaim our innocence. We can only make peace with ourselves, grieve our loss, and move on knowing that we are wiser from the experience we had.

My email address is [email protected]. I will send out notifications to all the book requests I receive.

Wishing you a speedy recovery and an emotionally fulfilling journey!

lifting the veil

I too would really like to read your book joyce… This is a very raw and emotional subject and I’m not sure whether there are any other books about it?
Very interesting post… Found myself understanding it though I wish I didn’t .
I find myself in tears, sobbing something’s when I think of the person I gave everything to and a wave comes over me of deep sadness and dispair and disgust ..and am overwhelmed with sadness feeling personally violated… Used, mistreated, and even though I have all the I formation About logically understanding personslity disorders/sociopaths/narrassists……I still can’t emotionally understand how to get past the hurt…. Cause I have never experiences anything as deeply painful as recovering from this.,I actually don’t think I ever will get over it .
Don’t even like saying the word emotional rape but I know how it feels and it’s devasting.

Sisterhood I’m sorry to hear all you have been through… I pray you will heal and find peace.

the sisterhood

Thank you. I’m getting there…your post reminds me a lot of myself. I too sob sometimes when I think of how I gave my ex Spath everything and he just disregarded me like I was trash.

Emotionally understanding and accepting what has happened to us takes far more time and tenderness than what it takes to intellectually know. Being gentle with ourselves is key. You did nothing wrong. You were violated and it is devasting. You have a right to your feelings.

I wish I could say there is a magic button, pill, etc. that will make it all right again, but there isn’t. You will be stronger and wiser though. Maybe not what you wanted but it is certainly what your soul needs.

I still hurt, but it does get less and less the more I educate myself and the more I focus on the present. You will get there, too. Don’t given up…it is worth the struggle. The journey doesn’t have an end, but it does have some spectacular milestones.

Many blessings to you.

Joyce,
I’m glad to hear you’ve written a book about “our secret humiliation and hurt”.We don’t get the support and understanding that someone who has been physically raped gets.Of course rape by any means should never be taken lightly;and it disturbs me that it is glorified in video games.Women are not mere “receptacles” and love should never be manipulated or won in a fraudulent way!

the sisterhood,
I’m glad you were able to write about your experiences.You have suffered greatly~~~now is the time to start healing!

the sisterhood

Thank you! I think the hardest hurdle for me to get past was that I was in complete denial of what had happened to me for so many years. It has only been about 4 years since I was honest with myself and got educated on personality disorders. I blamed myself for not being good enough for him. I believed the lies.

To this day, a lot in my community back home think I was the crazy one in the relationship. I was needy, but not crazy. I don’t feel shame anymore…it was not my fault. Yes, I am responsible for my bad choices, but I never did anything with intent to hurt or have a blatant disregard for anyone’s feelings. I was extremely naive…that simple.

I still find it so difficult to believe how arrogant he was/is. I still can’t believe he has the image of the blissful family guy. He still hangs out with the same friends. He got away with it and is none too worse for it. That is where healing from the emotional abuse/rape takes it’s toll on me. I never got justice and never will. His wife and friends will remain clueless to the truth and continue to blame me for it all.

I am not in denial, however. I know exactly who/what he is. His father was an even worse version, so it doesn’t surprise me that he turned out to do this to me.

Oxy reminds me all the time that he hasn’t changed , but I continue to struggle with being the only one he did this to. I’m alone in this. I haven’t gotten any phone calls from ex-girlfriends comparing notes. His wife appears to be happily content.

Being a victim of emotional rape is a very lonely position to be in. I suffer from CPTSD from the experience and the flashbacks are still horrible. They have gotten better, but will always be there.

He didn’t win, though. I have moved on and have a really supportive husband who knows all of this and offers wonderful and insightful advice. I am authentically loved now and it is amazing. So when I am in the throws of a PTSD episode, I pray, meditate, and give thanks for my present situation. I am truly blessed!

Hi Blossom-

I’m glad you brought up the subject of video games-

We often hear arguments about the games children are allowed to play. Some say they’re “harmless” and help develop a child’s dexterity, reflexes and eye/hand coordination. To them I’d say, there must be a better way!

I’ve often heard the argument that not all children grow up dismissive to pain from what they play on their tv sets and other screens, but I think that could be explained by simple genetics. Some children are born with a predisposition to psychopathic tendencies and they are influenced to a greater degree by the hideous depictions they see and the gruesome actions they’re required to produce in order to succeed at a video game.

I had no idea that my son’s lack of empathy at a young age could be a harbinger of things to come. Had I read Dr. Leedom’s books at the time, I would have had more awareness- and I definitely would not have given him video games to play with.

anothervictim

!!!!! When I read this, my mouth dropped open. That’s it! That explains why I felt like I was raped even though I consented! Rape-by-Fraud is what happened to me! and thank God I live in a state where it is punishable by law! Joyce Short, thank you so much for writing this and making me aware of this. I’m so glad to have a name to put on it.

I’m so glad it helped. I can relate to your sense of relief, just as I felt the relief when I first learned the words.

I’f you’d write to me at [email protected], I’d like to help you pursue a case if you are in a rape-by-fraud state. They are Massachusetts, Tennessee and California. It is a very difficult case to pursue but it will help change society’s perception and that’s worth the fight!

Hope to hear from you!
Joyce

still reeling

I hope folks are doing as well as can be expected.
Thank you Joyce, for this story and the book as well. Your experience, though much more involved and extensive than mine, like all the rest here on LF, still exudes the same story of vulnerability and the unbelieveable notion that one could take such intense advantage, cause such enormous personal destruction and pain to another in such a personal way because of that vulnerability. My very short and ridiculous experience leveled me. I can’t even start to imagine the strength and bravery of those of you who shared a life with these worms. You are to be commended for your intestinal fortitude. I think LF is a huge help for so many people, I know it has been for me.
In my healing process, I’ve learned that I’m much more distrustful of people in general than I was before. I’m skeptical of everyone unless I know them very well. Job hunting has intensified this skepticism as there are some very huge narcs out there, who may well be sociopathic, who will lie in your face, spam, scam and otherwise use or abuse you in this employer-centric world.

I had an interview with a jerk a few weeks ago who was so inflated, so cocky and literally filled with bravado, tell me his whole life story, including how his wife snagged a job because she did this or that. I asked him, “Are you telling me I should have done that?” He was so caught up in his own story, he looked at me like, “What are you doing here?” He wore a headset to the interview and took 2 calls. Disgusting. This was for a job as a service coordinator….defintely administrative so I was quite thrown when he said, all of a sudden, “You aren’t aggressive enough!” I was astounded and asked, “Aggressive enough for what?” His answer made no sense unless he thought he was interviewing me to be a sales rep. Then he quickly said, “You’re afraid to fail!” It was almost a comedy and I would have laughed and kicked him where the sun don’t shine at that point because he was literally nuts and wasting my time. I only wish I had said something applicable and just left. But no. I only wish I had said something to path when I realized he was up to no good (immediately the day I met him!!!) but no. If I were the type to say something, path would never have bothered me to start with. This absurd interviewer upset me so much because of path and the knowledge that I have been “emotionally raped” by him.

Thank you for that Joyce, thank you. What I have realized over the past several months is that path was just a distraction, a mirage for me. I am a worrier and he gave me a place to go in my head to get away from worries. I spun a huge love story around his presence in my life but he acted like a fool throwing crumbs that completely hooked me….emotionally. There was no sex, no touching. Just this feeling of intense connection, these convos and insightful comments he made, calling me “My girl,” asking me to go away w/him. That was the turning pt for me. When this high level mgr asked me to go away w/him, to put his marriage, job, child, money on the line to go away w/me, I decided he *had*, just *had* to have feelings for me. I was flying. I never thought I would have someone, esp someone like him, ever notice me again, let alone put everything on the line for me????
That trip never would have happened even if I had answered in the affirmative which I did not. I was so shocked, I just walked away. He never brought it up again. Hell, why would anyone ask you to go away w/them, the destination being approx 6 hrs by car, stay w/them 24/7 when you had barely spent 30 min w/them at any one time? I was actually thinking, “What will we talk about? How do I know we’ll get along living in the same place for what 5 days?” I couldn’t fathom what in the world he was thinking. Why? Because he wasn’t even considering such a thing. He was and is sick and was just trying to get a feeling for whether or not I’d take a 3 min closet break w/him, if you get my drift or maybe even stoop to asking me for a little afternoon delight if his younger, hotter babes weren’t available.
Not worth going on about it.
He emotionally raped me, got me hooked into his web and then spit me out. It would be my delight, my dream come true to know he is locked up somewhere, but I’m pretty sure, tho he was fired from that job, he is out there making the big bux somewhere else.
In the meantime, I still use him as a distraction. I don’t know why. Believe me, I need it. The guilt I feel from my willingness to email and think about this guy from AM to PM instead of attending to my family, is so huge, so intense, so bad. This emotional rape lasts a long time and each time I meet a loser like that interviewer, it just makes me aware of how many sick gross pigs are out there, waiting to take advantage of anyone they can. In this terrible employment and economic situation, the very ill are doing a lot of raping. Those of us who have been there will recognize it right away.
Here’s to continued healing.

Sounds like you picked up on early efforts to “love bomb” you. I’m so glad you resisted. Folks like this throw you a bone initially and see if you’ll bite. If you’d responded positively to the invitation to go off with him, you’re correct that you’d likely become the “closet” interlude, and it’s also likely, that the plans for that special “escape” would never come to pass.

Predators generally have significant drive. It’s not uncommon for a psychopath or sociopath to have a high level of testosterone. They often are “achievers”, even if only in their mind’s eyes. So as you look at the ranks of management in a firm, it’s little wonder that you’ll find a few folks there with disordered moral reasoning.

We don’t have to fault ourselves for being jaded simply because we are enlightened. The best protection against falling into a predator’s lair is knowledge and the awareness that signs of inherent empathy are an indicator of appropriate moral reasoning.

Stay safe!
Joyce

still reeling

Joyce, thank you. What a beautiful, sensible, sensitive response. Resonates very strongly with me. I appreciate your taking the time to post this comment, as it’s truly enlightening.

I have not read these words before and they are highly revealing and explanatory to me:

“When they deceive you about their character in order to cause you to feel a loving bond with them, they are committing emotional rape. They are defrauding you of your highest emotion, which is love.”

This is just *exactly* what happened, exactly what happened to me. To see it in writing almost hurts, it’s so clear.

“Just as doctors can’t prescribe cures until the illness is known, victims of rape-by-fraud and emotional rape have a difficult time recovering from something they don’t recognize or understand.”

Once again, right on the mark. When I was a young woman, I suffered a panic attack that lasted for months, couldn’t eat, sleep, can’t believe I actually made it to class (was in college) and part time job. I was already thin and lost maybe 15 lbs. Why did this go on so long? At the time, no one knew anything about panic and GAD. My doctors wouldn’t give me anything to take the edge off (it was the 70’s and such prescribing was taboo) so I toughed it out. How I made it w/out committing suicide is beyond me. Years later, anxiety disorders became the boutique mental issue du jour so I got some help. Too late for me, but not for others who caught it before it became too much a part of their psyche.

I so wish I could have figured this sociopath out before he poisoned me. I googled too late. I have no closure as I have no idea about him, his life, other things that I know, because I know myself, would make me just despise him. I wish I had that knowledge.

I’m one of those epiphany, aha moment types who can angst for years, only to hear or see something and all of a sudden things make sense! So I do want to add that one thing that helped me very much was something I read one night a few months ago. I’m paraphrasing here, “Imagine that you are a chronological adult but emotionally you are 3 years old. This is a sociopath.” That really struck a chord in me and makes perfect sense. Yes, they are disordered, but when I think back on the path’s behavior, it was very much like a spoiled, self-involved baby living in their own little world where fibbing, instant grat, entitled behavior, always being right is just part of the challenge of the age.

I am so sorry you went through your ordeal and am glad you are stronger for it. I look forward to reading your book.

still reeling

Sorry, my mind is working overtime today. Just wanted to add that another reason I believe paths do stop developing emotionally as toddlers is that, even in the face of losing it all, they still believe nothing will happen to them, perhaps don’t even consider it when they behave in such a ghastly fashion. In my case, I was asked to go to visit another state w/him, to come and visit him at his home (this invite was for real, but had I gone, who knows what would have occurred), and he flirted and said things that were highly provactive, suggesting in many ways that we were alike, connected. As well, he was a total dismissive jerk on other days and times, following a warm encounter with a disappearing act or a statement so cold and callous, it flew in the face of all else, “You should move across country, you’d love it there!” Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat? Wasn’t it just the day before that he told me that I could do no wrong in his eyes and asked me 3 times if I understood that? Because I had no inkling of an idea what was happening, and I was hooked, I made excuse after excuse and I believed them all, at least to some degree. The cog diss was so bad, so strong and overwhelming, I didn’t really know what to believe anymore. Such are the cobwebs, mirrors, and smoke bombs of chaos these deranged individuals are somehow able to make happen.

DancingWarrior

I read Joyce’s story and everybody’s posts, and just having the language to name the shocking and traumatizing experience makes me feel not so alone and so disoriented.

I would like to share my experience as I try to heal from a dangerous situation I just escaped.

I am lonely and vulnerable due to three losses closely together: divorce a year 1/2 ago; mom’s passing away almost a year ago, only child leaving for college last summer. Emptiness and vulnerability.

My car, mom’s old car, was breaking down, and I accidentally fell into the claws of a mechanic who appeared EXTRA kind. He offered to pick up my car from my workplace; gave me his personal car to drive while fixing mine; showed extra smiles and cajoling and charm every time I brought my car; moved in aggressively when my car croaked and wouldn’t start, and told me to look for a new vehicle.

He asked me out to dinner, I accepted as a joke, as he seemed so not my type of a date. He was so humble, so adoring, so attentive, seemingly so smitten. I was so lonely and this attention from a man was balm to my lonely heart. He read this Achilles’ heel, and moved in full force.

Police knocked on my door one day while my undrivable car was in his shop’s parking lot, that someone was shooting at a construction site from my car and I was liable; the guy “R” acted like he knew NOTHING about it. His former employee fit the police description, yet R denied any knowledge or involvement. I signed over the title to a charity as I wanted to immediately be free from the encumberance of liability again. R had removed my car from his lot, and I had NO control over it. He manipulated and pressured me to let him sell it for me to a tech school, which I consented as I was at his mercy, and was not assertive/aggressive to tell him off and muddied by the fact we began to date.

He lied all along that he spoke to a techer at school, that kids came to pick up the car, the amount teacher offered, that he’d ask him for more, that he’d have me sign a bill of sale which would take care of the title that was already void as it was signed over to a charity…had me sign a BLANK bill of sale and I trusted his word that the school would fill it out and he’d give me a receipt. He paid me cash, minimal amount.

I broke up with him two weeks ago. I tried to twice before, but he sensed it and manipulated me with pity ploys not to each time. THis time I was wiser, gave him NO CLUE what I was about to do, acted as if nothing was wrong and offered we have coffee after work.

At the diner, I told him nicely we didn’t have enough in common and I didn’t want to see him anymore. He was truly shocked, said “WOw I didn’t expect this at all.” And walked away surprisingly calmly.

I was happy and relieved.
Until.
A week later, he texts to please call him.
I did not.
THe next day same test please call him.

Stupidly, I was NICE. Called him. I SO WISH I HAD NOT.

He tells me to please help him by getting a duplicate title at the DMV as “the school” needs to sell the car to raise funds for their program but can’t with the title I signed over to someone else”

I investigated, found school never heard of him or my car. Spoke with him Monday asking who he talked to at school before I learned the truth. He then would not return my calls, seeing he was caught in a lie.

I went to police. They told me hid did nothing criminal as I signed a bill of sale. He KNOWS this as he does this ALL the time.

I texted him in rage to return my car immediately.

He texted a patronizing message that “He’s moved on and so should I”. I broke up with him! and to “Enjoy life it’s a gift”

To know that he had to have the LAST WORD by revealing the truth that he took me for a ride with the car, insisting to call him so he could TELL ME that he had defrauded me, really hurt not for the money and the car, but for KNOWING that he was not the kind caring man he presented himself as, and he wanted to hurt me by revealing that and getting the upper hand in this “game.”

THis is so shocking.

I just told my therapist who confirmed to me that I was traumatized by a reality that I just didn’t know existed, that I had a brush with EVIL that exists in the world, and am now in shock.

Truly this is what everyone has posted and thank you all for confirming this very scary, very disturbing thing.

I thought I became wise after a horrific divorce form a sociopath, but look, I took the bait from the very next one.

A friend tells me, be HAPPY that he took your car and not YOU. Look at the poor women who were kidnapped, you don’t know this man from anywhere and what he could have done.

The last words, “Enjoy life, it’s a gift” are so scary to me, it’s like tipping his hand of what he truly is capable of, a veiled threat, that he could change that.

I had a sinking gut feeling when I talked to him on the phone once. I did not call him back for two days because I was busy then called him when I arrived for the week’s visit to my daughter’s college. He said in this SCARY SCARY control freak voice, “You have an understanding boyfriend and I don’t get any credit for that” implying that I was getting away with a LOT and he was overextending himself for excusing my misbehavior of not calling him at his beck and call. I felt this horrific sinking feeling and it cemented my resolve to break up upon my return from the trip. WHICH THANK THE LORD I DID.

I only regret that I succumbed to the pity ploy and had sex with him one last time before breaking up. Now I feel so DEFILED, so DIRTY, truly RAPED and mind raped.

Thank you all for listening. It will take time to recover, but thankfully I was with this creep for just over three months.

DW

Indeed, you are fortunate that you discovered the evil in this man fairly early on. It’s amazing how “sucked in” we can become and how quickly we get there! The manipulation of a predator knows no bounds!

Wishing you a speedy recovery!

Joyce

DancingWarrior

HI Joyce,
Thanks for the comments. I have read a lot about sociopathy — was married to one 19 yrs and went through a gruelling divorce for 3. I am so angry at myself for still being victimized. I thought I learned, but not even close!
DW

One of the issues in detaching from predatory behavior is that there is no closure. There will never be a reasoned consideration from this man. People who are disordered don’t really know they are, they simply see life through a different prism…. one that is not affected by empathy. Since they can’t emotionally put themselves in the shoes of the person they are harming, they have no remorse and no conscience.

They rarely seek help…. they don’t think they need it, after all, they’re not suffering their harm, their victims are.

You are very correct that they have an immature sense of moral reasoning. You may feel some closure by reading the books of Drs. Robert Hare and Lianne Leedom. It’s a great deal easier to put “it” behind you when you know what “it” is!

Also, the more you know, the better equipped you’ll be to spot a predator in the future.

All the best!
Joyce

still reeling

Joyce, you said: “One of the issues in detaching from predatory behavior is that there is no closure. There will never be a reasoned consideration from this man.”
I just spoke to a friend about that very thing. Wow. Exactly. To just know his story would probably make me very disgusted and I could much more easily put this behind me, but there is nc w/him nor would I believe him anyway, and I don’t know anyone who I could ask.
Everything you said is so meaningful and rich and makes such good sense. Thank you.

still reeling

Dancing Warrior, agree wholeheartedlhy w/Joyce’s comment and also wish you speedy healing. As she said, their manipulation knows no bounds. I cannot make sense out of the evil and immense drive to hurt others while pretending to care about them so much. IMO, they are the living definition of madness. I realize these are deficient, sick individuals w/organic and/or environmental disease, but many know right from wrong even if they don’t “feel” it. They choose to do what they do and get their jollies from it. It’s chilling to know those like your ex, the path in my life, Joyce’s and all the rest exist and in large quantity.
I’m so glad that you listened to your gut and got away from the path. Don’t look back and try not to feel guilty or defiled for having sex w/him that one last time. There are many reasons why a healthy person would do that. For *your* own good, you have to keep your distance now.
Peace and comfort to you!

DancingWarrior

Still,
I have so much anger. I will file a small claims suit just to expose him. The deeper anger and hurt is in his violation of my body. That one I have a really hard time with. I don’t care about the car…but to have allowed a sleezy nasty worm to touch me and, worse — possibly infect me with something makes me worried sick.
DW

Delta1

Hi there Dancing Warrior.

I just wanted to say thanks for posting your story, but sorry you had to go through this again.

I have a similar cautionary tale. I hope you find some comfort in knowing that being caught out again is pretty common and so you should not feel bad about it.

I got caught out again, but I don’t feel guilty. Here’s why:

Spath 2 was a starving artist type. Friend of a friend. Not from the UK and new to London where I live. I have travelled abroad a lot and know that it means a lot if you can have a safe space for a week or two until you get set up. I said “sure- stay for a couple of weeks”.

Like you I was actually enjoying the company. He was charming, good artist, nice looking, funny, interesting etc. I had a tough year before, experienced some losses ”“ so this company and attention felt really good at first.

He instantly targeted me ”“ he was all over me ”“ the Lovebombing phase. Because of LF noticed it straight away and was on the look-out for other Red Flags.

Soon Red Flags started popping up all over the place:

-He repaid small loans for food, cigarettes. Quickly followed by requests for bigger loans.

-He had a hard luck story for everything. Nothing had ever been his fault. Apparently he was the unluckiest guy in the world. Everyone has tried to rip him off or let him down, including his own family.

-He told me in all seriousness that he was on a par with Dali, Van Gogh or Picasso as an artist (Narcissistic much lol).

-I quietly checked out his story that he’d visited a well-known art agent. He had asked me for a loan on the basis that this agent had offered to buy work and he would be able to pay me back. It was bullsh*t. He’d gone to the agency sure, but they’re refused to meet with him.

Throughout this period he couldn’t have been nicer or more charming to me. We’d had a brief sexual ’fling’ (why not) and he tried to ensnare me by being so over sexual. Apparently he could not get enough of me. It began to feel oppressive and claustrophic.

Although he was nice to me ”“ I had witnessed him seriously verbally abuse his mother until she was shaking and completely distraught. I heard his threats to hurt a certain neighbour that he’d fallen out with. I noticed he had a nasty, spiteful temper at times.

So then ”“ this is where it gets interesting. I knew what I was dealing with and I tried to end it ’nicely’. BIG MISTAKE.

I gave him £100 ”“ booked him a hostel for a week and gave him the old “it’s not you it’s me speech”.

This is when he really got rolling on the abuse.

-I was a bitch, whore, didn’t understand his genius and unique talent.

-He told me he was ill, he would be homeless ”“ it would all be my fault.

-He told me he would kill himself or kill someone else if I didn’t give him a place to stay ”“ he couldn’t stand being homeless.

-All practical suggestions like erm ”“ look for a job, look for a room, approach the government for a temp place to stay (he was from EU and so had benefit rights) were met with screaming abuse.

-He made such a scene- screaming and shouting outside the property so that I would let him in. The neighbours were all complaining. He would get in and then the abuse would continue for me to let him stay or pay for things for him. I gave in at first whilst I figured out my options. I was embarrassed that ’I had caused this problem for my neighbours’. I was embarrassed that I’d been caught out by another one.

-I had confessed certain things that I was ashamed of in my past. He blackmailed me that he would tell family/friends/work these things. This made me hesitate to go to the police at first. I knew calling the police would either work ”“ or it would seriously escalate the abuse.

-Then I starting reporting the abuse to the police. They warned him off. It didn’t work ”“ he still kept coming round screaming and shouting. If I let him in he would calm down for 24 hours and then it would start again.

-There was strangulation of me, deliberate sleep deprivation – I was determined to get him out but I was starting to suffer trauma and depression.I felt I had created the problem by letting him in ”“ I wanted to sort it out through me being the one to get rid of him. My work began to suffer ”“ I began to lose it. I began to fantasise about killing him myself and wondered if I was the sociopath of the two of us.

Anyway – eventually with threat of police prosecution he has stayed away for 8 months now.

And no ”“ I’m not a sociopath – I’m a pretty relaxed fun loving person.

Dancing Warrior”“ we shouldn’t feel bad. All the way through I was on the look out, I saw the signs, I even acted on them. Maybe not soon enough but I did act. My intuition told me that acting on the signs might just make things worse. Actually it DID increase the severity of the abuse. This sociopath was even more dangerous because he was unmasked. That’s not to say it wasn’t right to get rid of the sociopath or that LF gave me bad advice – It was just much, much harder to dget rid of him than I had anticipated.

This is what I learned: Even if you know what you’re dealing with early on- the sociopathic predator is seriously prepared to go to places that we don’t want to have to go. They therefore force us into extreme behaviour to protect ourself when we get the point of ’challenging them’.

Next time I will try to get out at the Lovebombing phase ”“ maybe I’ll manage it next time. Maybe I won’t manage it on my own.

I clearly should have called the police much sooner and not try to play the effin’ heroine going it alone like a bad-ass. I really think my being too strong and too self-reliant made me a total target in a bizarre way. I had seen off one sociopath and I wasn’t going to let this little weasel get away with his abuse. BIG MISTAKE ”“ I got too hooked into the drama.

In the end the police response was excellent ”“ but it took a while to really get put into place. In the interim the abuse became really dangerous, even life-threatening because I tried to manage the risk myself . It was the first time I’ve asked an outside agency to help me solve a problem in my life and it took me a while to answer the clue phone of how dangerous this could become.

Going NC and just calling police everytime he attempted contact would have been the best way to go. But I don’t feel bad about it – I think I was brave and tough ”“ but that I’m lucky I didn’t get hurt.

Dancing Warrior and all – I bet you were really more brave and strong than you realise, even if you did make a few mistakes along the way.

Blessings LFers 😉

DancingWarrior

Oh. My. God. Delta1. I can just see it all unfold as you told me your story, and thank you very much. It is a comfort for sure. At each red flag, at each turn, I knew I had to RUN. FAST! And like a deer in the headlights I just stood there mesmerized.

I poked around the interned to see what else he lied to me about. I am positive he is married and lied that he lives with his uncle. I found an article of an ARREST for 3rd DEGREE LARCENY for taking a woman’s van without her permission, in 2011. Just what he did with me!

You know what I do now? I am paranoid that he’ll break in while I’m sleeping. My house is not very burglarproof as I have windows on ground floor, and a side door with a window. But I do useless things, like lock the entry door from the garage, or the door leading to the basement, or my bedroom door. Once he inquired if I liked sexual role play. Uhhumm I asked, whaddayamean? He goes, what if he pretended to be a burglar breaking in! So, the idea of domination or coercion or a woman’s fear, is exciting to him.

I went to the police again this week. The report had gotten miraculously erased when my car was driven off his shop lot and involved in a police incident. I insisted that they put the report back in. I gave a written statement about how he swindled me for my car. I am now going to file a small claims law suit against him and also a complaint with the dept. of motor vehicle. But I’ll do them in the same letter as he has to get formally served the law suit so he can’t pretend he didn’t get it and not show to court. Thus I won’t alert him beforehand.

He’s told me how much he loves fast cars. He is a pro car thief. When I bought the new car, he said “your key has a chip so if someone breaks in they can’t start the car without the car recognizing that chip.” Duh! What was I thinking. When I locked myself out of the house, he was going to help me so firemen wouldn’t come because “they’d only break a window.” I asked him what he’d do? He said he’d jimmy the lock! DuhH!! What was I thinking? He also loves crazy fast cars. I asked him but where would you drive something like that. He says on this big highway. But there are always cops there. He says, “The cop can’t catch up to me I’m too fast” — I forget which fast car this was — Corvette? –“I get off the next exit and just hide somewhere till they pass.” D-UH! Again, what was I thinking?

Yes he knows right and wrong, but he blatantly shamelessly feels entitled to do as he wants and flaunts the law.

Thank you Delta.
DW

DancingWarrior

Hi Delta1,
If you are reading, I wanted to tell you that I just learned that he has a criminal record, has a court date on 5/28, and is on a 2-yr probation currently for “trover 2nd degree” which is taking a car w/o permission. I just don’t know HOW to use what he did against him as the process of dealing with police is very confusing and they were so not helpful when I went to report what happened. Thankfully I made a statement this week, and can go back with more info on his arrest from a different town police and let them know he is doing the same thing again with me. I will try to contact the state probation office and ask their guidance too. Imagine that I jokingly asked him after my car was involved in a police incident while in his possession, “Have you ever been arrested? have you ever been in jail” I was totally kidding, and he poker faced genuinely told me, “NO” like he was horrified at the idea. The irony??!! He was convicted for 1 year jail but sentence is postponed and he’s on PROBATION. In a week or so he’s in court re. driving illegally on suspension, texting, and driving too fast.
I let a CONVICT in my home.
DW

Delta1

Hey DW – i hope you are okay. I see from the new information that you are are dealing with ‘a very bad man’. For ur own peace, is there any way you can move to somewhere you feel safer? If not maybe put extra security in your bedroom i.e bolts on the door so you can sleep safe?

He’s was probably telling you the burglar stuff deliberately to intimidate you …….that’s a classic spath move. A**clowns – the lot of them!

DancingWarrior

Hi Delta,
This person has broken the law many times, has many arrests and convictions. I can’t believe this — how innocent he seemed, put on the act that he likes to help people, “give money to the poor.” He’s been sentenced to 10 yrs prison, but not sure how the sentence was postponed or something so instead he just was on probation. Years ago — identity theft, larceny, mostly stealing cars all over the place, and that last one was 2nd degree trover, which is a misdemeanor for taking a car w/o permission. AND he was arrested the DAY after he talked to me on the phone for fast driving, talking on phone, and illegal operating motor vehicle on suspension. I guess HIS license is suspended?
I told the police that he is on probation for the same thing he did to me, can’t they prosecute or arrest him, they said no. The cop I talked to looks like he is twelve and this man could eat him for breakfast. He was going to “talk” to him today… I feel so helpless as the cops can’t do A THING to him and he knows it and is laughing!

Have you ever had these nut jobs tell you things about other people that are in fact true about THEM? He used to tell me that someone stole HIS identity years ago, when I find out he was sentenced for this. He said he hoped his former employee would go to jail for taking my car off his lot — when in fact as I sat across from him, HE was on probation from going to jail!!
I am still reeling from the shock of all this actually being true, Delta1.

What do I do now — dumb question — if I could be so stupid to bring this champion into my home, how do I protect myself from myself?! I say, and know, and think you have to get to know someone well, and their family, friends etc. before you trust them. Okay. BUT. Look what just happened to me.

My Achilles’ heel was my loneliness. I guess I have to fix that, on my own, find a support group, make friends, enjoy my own solitude for a while and that was not be so so so needy and desperate at the first man’s attentions and affections. I was SUCH a sucker!

Thanks for your note… I don’t feel unsafe plus my kid is back home and the house is not empty so it feels better.

DW

Delta1

Hey DW

Im glad you are feeling safer. Also i could see in your post that you’ve got all the answers in you- but maybe you are being a bit hard on yourself still.

Oh yeah – I so recognise the tactic of ‘rebranding’ his own behaviours and crimes as the work of another. They are all: projection, projection, projection!

I have to say I forgot to mention that ‘my’ Spath 2 turned out to have a criminal record also. (1 count theft, 1 count assault, also subject to a harrassment order by a previous girlfriend). The criminal record may be helpful later if he harrasses you in any way – i.e he’s clearly not a ‘good citizen’ -so who would believe the words of such an obvious social deviant.

I think its not a sin to feel lonely DW and being lonely is the ‘human condition’ sometimes. But you are right that this is probably the key to why you ‘opened the door’ this time. I think that when you’ve come more to terms with this issue you will be able to better forget the Spath. In a an wierd way the Spath is irrelvant footnote to your fabulous life DW. He’s a criminal and an a**clown and he wanted all your time, money and attention. You saw him off though – TOWANDA lol

Dancing Warrior,
Don’t feel badly;keep reminding yourself of what you had just been through-the divorce,your mom’s death,and your son leaving the home.That’s ALOT!That would leave anyone vulnerable;it would positively leave their emotions in ‘spin-cycle’ for awhile!

I lost my mom Dec’10.Spath said he was too sick to drive the 750 miles to the funeral.(I don’t drive) And he needed me to stay with him.He didn’t want me to travel with my sister who lives a few hrs away because he knew she’d stay a few wks.So,I lost my mom very suddenly;didn’t even get to go to her funeral and be with my dad & siblings-spath knew how close all of us were/are!

Delta,
Spaths are good at yelling and “riling the neighbors”!I always had a fear in the pit of my stomach that one day,all that yelling was going to cause us to get evicted!We were very fortunate through the years!Thankfully our daughters are all grown now.We had lived in the apt complex 4 monthes when I decided I had to get out.He had been yelling so much that it was causing alot of complaints.This time we were living in a complex for seniors.So his yelling wasn’t taken so lightly!We were evicted because when I left,he yelled louder than ever,and got up out of bed,knocking on doors trying to find me.These 7 monthes have been peaceful!He can’t yell at me and I go to sleep when I want and get up when I want!

DancingWarrior

Blossom,
My condolences for the loss of your mom. This is very sad, and very recent.
Yes I was too too lonely and got hooked by his fake kindness that I craved so much.

I hope that you will find meaningful ways to remember your mom and connect with her in your heart and thought, though you couldn’t go to the funeral.
DW

Delta1

TOWANDA Blossom.

Here’s to a peaceful night’s sleep!

Delta1 🙂

Tea Light

I echo that! The sleep deprivation made me a nervous wreck I still appreciate a peaceful 8 hours now months later…and his farking calls at the crack of dawn which I answered like the brainwashed automaton I became under his lovebombing

Now that I’m able to “think”,I realize that the sleep deprivation was in order to “prime” me for the brainwashing.And each time I fought back by letting him know I knew SOMETHING was wrong,he UPPED the sleep deprivation!I’m glad I’m getting the rest I need now,but afraid the body is ‘paying the price’!

thejb

Blossom, I, too experienced significant sleep deprivation – wow, I thought I was the only one. Right before I left, I went to a doctor who immediately put me on Xanax and ambien and stated that I would need “at least a month of solid sleep to begin to recover”. Sorry that you experienced that as well. I would be allowed maybe an hour a night, and finally by the third day I would just pass out from sheer exhaustion.

known

“Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” – George Santayana

dorothy2

Joyce, when I look up “rape by fraud” I find something a little different. It speaks more of actually pretending to be another person, not misrepresenting you nature/ intentions. Can you steer me in the direction of something different in terms of misrepresentation of your intentions being illegal in these states?

Hi Dorothy-

You’ve touched on an important distinction-

Misrepresenting your “nature” or “intentions” is NOT rape-by-fraud. However, lying to someone about who you actually are, specifically- incorrect biographical information about yourself, is.

That doesn’t mean that someone who is lying to you about their intentions or nature, “I’m a nice person, not a louse,” or “I’m going to marry you tomorrow,” isn’t committing emotional rape.

Here’s the difference- in rape-by-fraud, the victim is having intercourse with an imposter- a person whose factual identity is different from what they pretend. In emotional rape, the person elicits one’s highest emotion, which is love, from their victim through pretense or a ruse.

Rape-by-fraud is punishable in some states but by-and-large, emotional rape is not. The fact that it’s not, however, does not make the victim feel any less violated.

Even in states that have rape-by-fraud laws, there are widely disparate sets of causation. In some states, the fraud must be in the “factum” and in others it could be in the “inducement.” More progressive laws consider a broader interpretation of fraud.

My next article will deal with the issue of causation in the various states so that victims can seek remedies where it’s appropriate.

All the best-
Joyce

margaux07

I had a built in nose for sociopaths and was not easily fooled . But i married one. despite i knew whatw as going on and never dropped my gaurd he got i any way. i escaped before he could damage me. i asked people for help as i saw i had a pattern. i was blessed to be able to know what was going on and who i was talking to but not escape bing drag into their sick lives. I met enough of them. for fact my father had me raped by drs and was a liar and duped people into beleiving i was diagnose with schizophrenia. like the emperoros new clothes. there was not sign of this illness less the hystieria he created in me . he had a MD. so he was able to make people beleive and battered a dr when the man told him nothing was wrong wtih me. i was raped emotionaly and others used this as a means to abuse rape me getting off laughing after i ran away into nyc streets adn was left perfect victim for years. it was rape of my perfect life. i refused to let them take away my innocent life and struggled . i lived a life ofa convicted criminal not a abused kid as the lie never went away. MY father admited to me he knew and family members also admited and then lived the lie and used me to abuse me isntead of telling truth. one sister is a harc core sociopath and now has herslef involved in cancer cauase of al things because she is the most Munchausen and my friends came to thanksgiving one time and siad they feared for my life that my family were obsessed with illness. this sister is both parts of father mother. i was independant and did not fall to them. i had god as my guide in life. i was a no drugs no alchol gifted artsit. my mother was jelous of me adn father had paranoid delusons of artist.
my life suffered emotional and psycholgical rape and i refused to let them fuck me up. i lived between a rock adn hard place holding off my fate and i got to drs to REPORT IT Just like rape and i was not reated. maybe what is connected is that an other sister said my brother when they were both young raped her. out of evil play and she was not taken to a dr. i feel some pattern here of the rape and how it fucked her up she said they she did not get attention to it. so i wonder if this was her revenge on others. she is also a malicious person who is unbalanced and lost.. emaried to an alcholic drug addict..
the use of rape and neglect to trauma can cause issues. i held it off for 15 years and escaped a prison of family rape and abuse to rise up again. so i feel maybe u can rise above this and leran. however i was then tossed n path of the same kind of sick persons u are describing adn abused traumatized , i aws not fooled i knew what they were buti was pushed into the path of them and glued for htree years.

Since i saw a pattern on first one and i had been given back a new life , and escape a fate worse than death, i asked somone , drs and got to drs wehn i saw i was going to fall into a trap. my brain body and mind suffered years of shock and abuse and i could not afford thsi kind of shock to my life it would take me down. i was prudent but my family wanted me to be sick and did not care what i did was genius.. or correct. the last person who got to me after one other and a few beore him almost drove me to mental illness in stress. i prayed . i escaped one in 2012 but right after the next person was put in my path. i wa dragged thorugh the heavy abuse of this person he also posed as a sweet innocent till he began to batter and robe and abuse me being he was black male. he did not hit me but exhaust me and i began to go down and crack. i got to drs adn no one cared begged people. charlatans also who posed as people who cared. i felt that wa worst,, i did what was right to protect my life health in time got to dr in state of strain and shock . i had a brilliant life story and talent. i was rising and i was nto a quitter or other. i needed very little care but i got none. it led for me to lose it all. i am now homelss sick and lost as resses ult of poor medical care. and the abuses of certain people. i was not a fool, and i did it all right. but despite it the effects of someones rape on me and he did rape me to, force me to have sex when did not want to and then turn over and say he was tired . that it was all about him and doing what he wanted when to me and not me.. i was to smart for thsi but at this time i began to suffer stroke and seizure and lose my will and abilty to act. i was in severe danger. before i made a mistake to this person i began to 911 some people to get help and attention or concern. my family and they did not care. i ended up fall into the trap. and it lost me my life miracle. i knew i had a weak spot and flaw and did what i knew was right so society also tricks and fools people to. now i have nothing..

mo mac

One in 25. That is the statistical prevalence of these conmen. Empty, life sucking, life destroying, predatory, remorseless, heartless, abusive, exploitative opportunists….Disguised briefly as knights in shining armour.
Staggering deceit, time after time… lies without skipping a heartbeat. Shocking, incredible lies to one and all.
Learn, teach, expose, share.
emotional rape…bang on! Let’s get this on the agenda for legislative change.

thejb,
Many of us here have shared the experience of sleep deprivation.It is a well-used tool of sociopaths.”When something works,don’t knock it”,right?! I once heard an illustration in which depression was likened to a tool.This is how it goes.”The Devil was having a garage sale and getting rid of some of his tools.He was trying to decide what price to sell them for.As he was looking them over,he picked one up and held it up,touching it fondly.It was the tool Depression,which he used far more often than the other tools,since it worked so well.He decided he wouldn’t sell it after all.He still needed it.”
Sleep deprivation is another one of his precious tools!

Joyce,
Thank you for explaining the distinction between rape-by-fraud and emotional rape! I always felt that my violation was emotional rape and you validated that for me!

margaux07,
Your story shocked and saddened me.You’re a strong person;don’t give up!Keep coming here and reading and posting.You’ll find strength and healing and companionship.Welcome! 🙂

mo mac

How many discarded ‘targets’ of spaths have ended up on anti deps? There’s a survey to be done!
Perfectly accomplished, intelligent, successful, emotionally stable women, who previously ended relationships with honesty and kindness, end up on meds, in counselling.
They’re ALL the same.
EVIL in disguise.

Tea Light

I got a stalker rather than a discarder though he discarded wives 1 and 2 so my turn would have come if I hadn’t run for the hills once his mask fell off. Anyway…I am on anti depressants, which cause extreme lethargy and a floating disconnected feeling so I am on a low dose and tapering off although one doctor wanted to double my dose. With AD s it’s so hit and miss. There is no clinical evidence at all that supports the original claims if the drug companies that serotonin reuptake inhibitors help depression. They take the edge off for some people , but that may be akin to a placebo effect. My intense anxiety in the aftermath of the abuse I experienced has become better 6 months later but I put this down to 2 months no contact of any kind, the support of the police with the stalking when I ended the relationship LF and my counseling as well as eating well and being good to myself.

one/joy_step_at_a_time

the search function on lovefraud has changed. Can anyone tell me how to pull up a thread by searching with key words? When I enter them into the google search field, they pop up on the side bar – but i can’t acutlly get to the thread i posted on last night and this morning. Thanks.

Hello one/joy – thank you for bringing this problem to my attention. I’ll look into finding a different search function. In the meantime, your comments are on:

http://www.lovefraud.com/2010/04/14/a-witness-to-healing/

http://www.lovefraud.com/2008/05/05/10-tactics-for-child-custody-battles-with-sociopaths/

Lillian

Emotional rape is as good a description as any. But no one understands what we’ve been through no matter what we call it. I am the shell of the person I was. It’s like I’m catatonic. The only thing that keeps me alive is I don’t want my children to have a parental suicide hanging over their heads all their lives. I have to be out of my living space tomorrow and I haven’t even started packing. I can’t. I just lie in bed all day and sleep. I am devastated. It’s like murder by fraud. My entire life is so destroyed I have no way of getting back on my feet. I really don’t know how to live this way. Everything I’ve done has just made it all worse. This is a horrible thing these people do and no one gets it in any manner from what I can tell. No matter what you call it. How you explain the psychopath. It’s like its a joke and I’m just a loser trying to blame someone for my failure. I am so close to giving up I really don’t know what else to do.

Tea Light

Lilian, my heart goes out to you. I have been in bed sleeping and reading much of today, I work part time thank God as I would not be able to do more. It’s natural to experience intense grief – you are traumatised- but that will run it’s course Lillian. Believe that. It’s not going to last. Your move may help energize you, who is helping you? If you are too ill to pack you need assistance! Are your children able to assist? One hour at a time Lillian, one hour at a time. God bless. Keep posting so we know how you are please

one/joy_step_at_a_time

Thanks very much, Donna!

Tea Light

UK readers may remember the recent revelations that a police officer working undercover as an animal rights activist in the guise of being an activist himself had sexual relationships with female activists and fathered a child with one. When they discovered. as in fact a police officer gathering evidence against them and their fellow activists they spoke out as feeling they had been effectively tricked into sex . I believe they are pursuing a group action against the police.

Lillian,
I have been ‘where you’re at’.You describe it better than I ever did.I always just said I was overwhelmed or “like a zombie”!

Tea Light has the right idea.This move is a new start for you.I remember how I fought the idea of having to move.Because of my husband’s yelling,we were evicted,and even though I wasn’t even there,the property manager stood firmly by her decision!I was fortunate enough to have help moving.Now,I’m very happy that I did move;I LOVE my new apt,my new life!

Are you a member of a church?Perhaps you could get some help there.What about neighbors?Friends or family?What helped you to get things done in the days before spath?Music always helped me.

fightforwhatsright

Lillian,

You can do this. Eat something. Drink a glass of water. Pack the boxes now. Eat and drink water as needed. You are stronger than you think. The spath did that to you. Mind control. If you have money, call a local cheap moving company and have them come and get it and get to your transitional place to live. Then, get your library card and read every self help book that catches your heart and read until you find the new you and regain as much of your health as you can. If you don’t have physical help available, then use all of US to make you just do it. Do it and post back to US what you did and how it felt and how you feel once you have gotten to where you are going as you try to recover. Suicide lets the spath win. Don’t let the spath win. When you have packed and you are someplace new, let us know that you have done it. KNOW we are there with you and know the stamina and tenacity it is taking you to do it.

This mind control and emotional rape is like an addiction. We get addicted to the unbelievable person they show us. It is worse than the worst drug addiction in my opinion. There is a book I read about how to end an addiction to a person and it helped me. Almost every self help book I read helps me in some way. My addiction to the love and kindness and phony personality the spath showed me repeatedly is what kept me hooked. It is still hard to be “just business” with him, but gets easier and easier as I realize he is not real. I am addicted to a part he played to get what he wanted…control over someone he wishes he could be. Me addicted to him. If you saw us side by side, you would never even picture us as a couple. If you had a conversation with each of us, you would never imagine he had the brain or personality to even talk to me much less control my own love for myself. I still read my Al-Anon books to remember my addiction to an addictive spath. I highly recommend the books and the meetings as well as the Codependents Anonymous meetings and books. But, if you can only be in bed, get the self help books and start reading.

Thinking of Suicide over a spath? We’ve all been there. It’s addiction and withdrawal. They are empty shells of evil. Our addiction to empty shells of evil makes us forgot all about our own survival. We become like drug addicts searching for a tiny crumb of kindness. What about your survival? What about your welfare? What about you? Now, please say, “I love myself and I am doing this” and move towards your transitional place mentally and physically and into whatever is next. If it is more rest and grieving, that is perfectly fine. Please Start packing and let us know what you did. Let US be your support as you do this. Report bak to us about how you packed and where you went and what you did. We want to know because we are not going to let some phony spath let you forget that you are a worthwhile human being who deserves to be alive. I’m a bossy older sister and I care. You can do this and I want to know how it is going, how many books you are ordering, how you are feeling, and what you think, so please get back on here and keep me posted after you have packed those boxes.

Tea Light

Fight is right Lillian, there are people here who are rooting for you and who care what happens to you. Get to your new place anyway you can and use the change to stimulate more change, emotional recovery. Wishing you strength today Lillian!

one/joy_step_at_a_time

Hi Lillian,
I had no job, my health was horrible, I had no money for rent, and was getting food from the food bank. My life was shredded in ribbons.

I too lay in bed, no lights on, windows wide open in the dead of winter, in an emotional state like no other I have ever experienced. I felt the spath’s face looming over me. Although she was not in the room her energy hit me like an electric shock. I was jarred and frightened by that. I could not think of a single idea or phrase to inspire me. I did not know what to do. I felt i had no future at all. I had no foothold to start, not even anger to invigorate me. So,seeing no way out, I gave into it. And something truly good happened. Slowly that part of me that insists on life made me move myself out of bed.

that was 2.5 years ago. I have work, I have money to pay the rent, i have moved through a lot of craziness, and healed a great deal. I still have few friends – I have a damaged sense of trust in others and myself, that will need a lot of work on. I have hit wall after wall after wall in my recovery. I am still lost. But, i survived the b****, so in her ‘terms’, I won.

I pray that some day I will be okay again. A new okay, not the old okay – I do want to get wiser as a result of this debacle. I struggle with the legacy of complex PTSD and daily anxiety. And i have to learn how to love and connect more slowly with people. Slow in a good way, not in the ‘never getting near another person’ way.

I see the stage I am in now as a stabilization stage. I have been in this stage for a long time. there is healing happening, but i am not specifically focused on it. I am focused on maintaining work and dealing with the shock and awe of a cancer diagnosis (turned out it was false, but I do have something that is nasty) and have had ongoing tests, and surgeries to recover from.

I am not as nice or as compassionate person as I once was. And i am still quite capable of being fooled. Again, i need to learn to love more slowly. my toolkit of responses to people has grown, but the damn box is messy, and I have to quit reaching for the 2 inch spanner when the 1/4 inch will do.

others have given you good concrete advice about how to put one foot in front of the other. You wouldn’t post if you didn’t want to live. You are taking steps. Keep going, because you can do it.

one/joy_step_at_a_time

The term ’emotional rape’ was important to me. I started to use it as a way of communicating the impact of my experience to others. ‘Rape’ is a word with cultural weight, so i figured it might be a useful term to use to try to get through to others.

i am not sure how effective using it with others has been, but it has been very helpful to my understanding their gravity of my experience. the sense of violation was (is still) so deep. rape is a good word for it. it gives context to the healing and the woundedness that is very grounding for me.

bless you all.

fightforwhatsright

I am more comfortable with the words “emotional assault.” I don’t want to equate my emotional victimization to that of a physical rape victim. For me, it has been bad with every kind of abuse except rape. I think someone who has truly been raped might not agree with this statement, so I consider myself a victim of emotional trauma, assault, abuse, mind control, etc.

Tea Light

This is a very empathetic and considered response to the discussion fight, thanks for this.

Tea Light,
I do have empathy for victims of physical rape.I certainly don’t mean to demean that experience by using the term “rape” when referring to emotional abuse.”Assualt” is a confusing word.In other words,how bad was our experience?We’ve been scarred as much as any rape victim,having been violated(often sexually too)to the point that our lives have to be put back together like a broken plate.We are afraid to love;afraid to trust again.I think rape is an entirely appropriate word. ((( Hugs )))

Tea Light

You’ve always shown great empathy to me and everyone here Blossom, your empathic character is in no way in doubt. ((hugs back)). I appreciated fight’s contribution and wanted her to know that. I can’t go further into the issue it’s too painful. Love to you.

mo mac

You are all heroines. Lillian of course you will make it…that pain is so so raw and visceral.
We all came close to suicide. Believe me I’m 14 months on…no pain now.
No incredulity, utter disbelief, incomprehension.
Nothing.
Healing.
rebuilding.
Growing.
You will too Lillian

And you’ll come out the other end, stronger, wiser, deeper and better

Love from the other side
Mo

fightforwhatsright

Blossom, I absolutely agree with Tea Light about your depth and empathy shown to all of us here. I just think we can know what we know about what happened to us emotionally, verbally, and physically and we don’t have to use a term that is not quite in the same category to victims of true physical rape. I think as we study sociopaths and share about them here, we can share how deeply it affects us. We can see there are different levels each victim has endured. I just don’t think it should be compared to a violent sex crime because it is not a violent sex crime perpetrated against mostly females and some males.

I feel the author should have consulted with various rape organizations before choosing this title. I have been deeply harmed by narcissists and sociopaths, but I have never been raped. The physically violent act of rape, for me, is on a whole different level than the other types of non-violent and violent acts of a sociopath. I do not think that most victims of actual physical rape (even if there was actual rape by the sociopath within their relationship) would believe it is an equivalent description when describing the other types of assault.

Again, these are just my feelings about it and I believe I would be especially bothered to have a male victim of a sociopath say that to me. Everyone doesn’t have to agree with my thoughts and feelings, but it is something to think about before saying the words “emotional rape” to others…in my opinion. We don’t know what might happened to them that could trigger a great deal of pain. And we can know our own level of assault and trauma and not have to convey it by using a word that has a specific definition in describing a sexual, violent crime. It is not a definition that includes any other types of emotional, verbal, or physical abuse. I don’t know anything about this author or her book. But, I won’t buy it because I believe that word was used to get attention and it does not use the true definition of that word appropriately.

Tea Light,
Out of respect for the pain you’ve been through,I’ll continue to use the term “emotional abuse”.I feel that comes through stronger than the word “assault” which could vary from a slap to being hit with a baseball bat,etc.It doesn’t really define what I’ve been through.I feel I deserve the same dignity as a victim of sexual crime.Twenty eight yrs of my life were stolen;my marriage was a SHAM.No real intimacy;’just sex’-and only for the first 5 yrs of marriage.Onlookers looking in from the outside could easily say “Why doesn’t she just leave?!” Cruel mind games and sleep deprivation and clinging to my dreams of a happy marriage and family life wasn’t a good mix! I was a zombie trying to survive in a thick toxic fog!I have been hurt physically,emotionally,mentally and spiritually.I couldn’t help my daughters as they suffered because it was as if I suffered from a form of emotional paralysis.

Each of us can read the stories of others here and think their story sounds like it would be easier to survive.But in truth,we’ve each been through our own worst nightmare!

sistersister

I used the term “emotionally raped” for years to describe an episode where a fundamentalist church member — right in the heart of New York City, believe it or not — actually exhibited signs of a split personality to seduce me. Dr. Jekyll was the nice guy who really wanted to work out our religious differences, to build something beautiful out of them, to be able to reach out across that divide and really “relate.” Mr. Hyde was the arrogant voice telling me I was going to Hell if I didn’t get into the “text-based religion” that he so valued. His church asked not to be identified as Redeemer Presbyterian Church, by the way, so forget I mentioned it. They no doubt have my angry, litigation-threatening letter on file under “Crackpots.”

One really degrading way to “rape” a person is to turn on the mojo, get naked, and then refuse to do actual vaginal penetration. Anything else is OK by God, so let’s get it on. And then, because the targeted person (usually a woman) wants “real” sex badly, accuse her of trying to compromise your relationship with God. Because you made a promise when you were, like, 14 or something. Heighten the tension, add a little spice, by talking dirty to her on the phone about bondage and S&M, y’know, really naughty stuff. It makes no difference how bad that gets; she is still the dirty one, go ahead, call her a “Jezebel,” and accuse her of trying to lure you away from the righteous path.

So strange that this happened to me, the last person in the world you’d expect to fall for religious scams. I didn’t, actually, fall for it. I fell for the explanation around how it would work, but when it got to actual religious ideas as presented in the church, I looked right at the guy on a downtown 6 train and told him, “You’ve got to be kidding.” Sometime around early 1998, if you saw a woman screaming at a guy on the Broadway-Lafayette platform, that’d be me.

What happened here was a physical, sexual, erotic seduction, and it dug deep into my body. It invaded me, penetrated me violently. I’d call that a rape, and not just an emotional or fraud kind. It’s not reportable. And like I said, nobody really took me seriously about suing the church, or him. Pay no attention to the crazy lady! She’s got sexual hangups and perversions. Meanwhile, be sure to ask Tim Keller what the hell he meant by encouraging people to do this in his church. Hell: pun intended!

fight,
I understand your depth of empathy and reasoning for not using the term.As I explained in the above post to Tea Light,I will use the term “emotional abuse” instead.However,I googled the term that you prefer not to use and was surprised to see all the websites!I didn’t even get beyond the first one because I read all the comments (and they were worth reading).

The website was: zeidspex.blogspot.com/2007/02/emotional-rape-what-is-it.html

It starts out with a quote from a 2001 Cosmopolitan article.Lovefraud is mentioned as a worthy website to visit.And so that you realize that Joyce isn’t just “grabbing for attention” by using the term,Dr Mike Fox wrote the book entitled “Emotional Rape Syndrome”.

I just read another website;this time it’s an excerpt from Dr. Mike Fox’s book.The website is: enpsychopedia.org/index.php/Emotional_Rape

fightforwhatsright

I think people should say whatever they want. But, I wanted to point out that real rape victims could be offended or triggered by it.

And I certainly don’t agree with whatever all of that is on the post that says consenting to have other types of sex with a sociopath is rape. Consenting to do something sexual, emotional, physical or spiritual with someone unless you are in a locked room, car, etc. is not rape according to my dictionary. Consenting to sex and then not having a certain type of sex you wanted is not rape. The word is defined as “seizing someone against their will and by force.” I have been abused, had money stolen, lied to, had them want to have types sex with me I didn’t want, and many other things. But, I was lucky in that any sociopath I was with never forced me to do anything I did not agree to do.

Believe me. I have had my life threatened by single sociopaths and as a whistleblower, I had my life threatened by a whole group. Just as Blossom says, we have all been through terrible things in relationships with spaths, and some of them are true physical rapists within their marriages and relationships. But, I felt I wanted to speak up when rape is being used to describe the more emotionally, verbally, and spiritually deceit/fraud of the Sociopath.

Tea Light

Blossom, how you chose to express yourself will not alter my high opinion of you. You have a great track record here on LF as a caring generous presence. I understand why others wish to use this term emotional rape. I dislike it. I am not comfortable when I read it. Fight has given my concerns expression better than I am able to. I can’t debate the issue. I am not able to.

fightforwhatsright

Tea Light and Blossom: You have both welcomed me here with open arms and I am grateful to both of you.

Tea Light

Glad you joined the community fight! Peace and love to you today

fightforwhatsright

Thank you, Tea Light. I am very glad to be here. I think this is a very good place to find our voices that may have been lost for a long time…or voices we haven’t been allowed to have since childhood.

To Be Free

I am hurting really badly today. I have had NC for a while but today had a back door contact. Someone calling me and telling me what he is doing which is getting ready to go off for the weekend to the beach for Bike Week. And no doubt with his new victim. And to top it off, there was a concert last night that I didn’t go to because I was sure that he would have been there.
I so hate feeling this way…..will it ever end.
There are times like this that I still miss him so much. But I really try to remember all the lies and everything else he did.
I have 3 kids and need to able to function for them, but I really don’t want to.

sistersister

Do you ever want to just punish him? . . . Just sayin’. . . . It’s been said that forgiveness isn’t letting the other person off the hook, it’s letting yourself off. That’s still not easy, though. Just this morning, contemplating the betrayal of a couple of people in my life working together to humiliate me, I had to be honest with myself. I don’t want to forgive, walk away, or say the one-sentence thing that will just get rid of them. I want “closure” and a verdict, damn it. An “intervention” like in the movies would be great. I want to know that I’ve been heard. . . . It’s no use. I won’t be heard anyway. I think that’s the hard part, like that “matzo ball” that’s out there, Seinfeld-style. In this case it isn’t “I love you” but just uncleared injustice. And as long as I harbor those thoughts, they will attract the kinds of parasite-people who eat such things for breakfast.

fightforwhatsright

Hi To Be Free: It sounds like you are hurting today by hearing from someone who is involving you even though you prefer no contact. Gossip about them is enticing, but the letdown after you receive it, can be upsetting. You are correct in calling another person he is with a victim. She/he will find out that no one is special to a sociopath. We have to see that we are special within ourselves. There is a book called, “How to Break An Addiction to a Person.” I found it very helpful in understanding how addictive these people can be for my type of person. I am with my spath in close proximity for the second time. Believe me, after going through double love bombing and disappoint and disillusion, I am certain that all of his “targets” throughout his life have been treated exactly as I have been.

sistersister: I don’t think I want to punish him per se. However, I have found that if I am to be around a spath for any reason at all, I need to draw boundaries and I have consequences that show him (and me) that I am of value. Consequences often include cutting time together short if he says or does something that he knows is unacceptable and is trying to get a lot of negative attention from me to reinforce his shame inside. I have learned, most of the time, that getting tired and needing to rest alone a few minutes after an unacceptable behavior or statement makes a big difference. I learned some of how I handle things with him from watching “Super Nanny.” I want to enhance my self value…not lower his if at all possible. It is difficult, but it saves a lot of energy and time in the long run. And after he is gone from my life (probably by dying because he is 75% there), I will mourn what he could have been and won’t miss what he is. And I will still be a valuable human being no matter what. As victims of abuse, we have to remember our value and keep that in the forefront of our minds.

sistersister,
When we’re hurting,the natural tendency is to want to watch “Johnny” hurt too.Sometimes it’s just a matter of shifting our focus so that we can look at things in clearer view.

Betrayal really does hurt;especially when it comes from more than one person!But is it necessary to see them “pay” before we can advance to the point of healing and happiness in our lives?!

I heard an illustration once about a person that is stumbled or offended.They can just lie down right there in that very spot and NEVER move.The next day,somebody comes along and asks why they’re lying there and they reply because they were stumbled (hurt).Later that month they’re still lying there;they just keep repeating to those that ask,that they’re lying there because they were stumbled.Everyone in the audience laughed at the very thought of a person doing that because it’s not sensible.

I don’t mean to imply that you’re not a sensible person.Just that several times on this blog I’ve seen the saying that the best revenge is living well.I subscribe to that feeling!
🙂 (( Hugs ))

sistersister

Well, heck yeah. Ditto. Move on and dance. Not saying the feeling of incompleteness is right, just that it’s there. Acknowledgement of it is the first step.

Not necessarily even revenge.

Fantasies like What I’m going to say next time to shore up my image of myself as high integrity, What I’m going to do to make sure he gets help, What pithy comment will get me out of this with dignity, How to escape out the back door if he shows up again, What game to play to make the rest of the crew see how awful she is, What I should have done that time she did X, How to respond to a particular pity play so that I keep my own head on straight, etc.

Even when contemplating “No Contact,” I’m contemplating how to do No Contact as LOUDLY AS POSSIBLE. OK, duh, note to self: My own sister didn’t notice I went No Contact for two freakin’ years. So much for making a statement!

This stuff won’t even make a good movie-of-the-week plot, but it’s pretty entertaining to the person who just went through spath hell. I woke up with it this morning.

All these thoughts are b.s., but admit it, you’ve had those things float across your brain more than once. Again, not saying it’s right, but it IS. It only makes the things you obsess over happen again. It only keeps you in the game you wanted out of. Expelling those thoughts is the biggest challenge — but not acknowledging them first won’t work.

sistersister,
I agree,in order to be in touch with our feelings~we first have to acknowledge them.But then we have to decide what good we can do;what we can honestly take care of without getting hurt….and discard the rest.

If I could redo things,I’d never have wasted all that effort and all those yrs on my husband.”Hindsight is sharper than foresight”,eh?!

Please don’t get caught up in thinking you have to “help” or “save” this guy.As long as you’re doing this,you’re sabotaging your own healing.You shouldn’t have to “hide” from him when you’re in your home.When you don’t answer the door,he ought to get the msg.Just install extra locks if that would make you more comfortable.Call the police if he refuses to leave.Don’t give in to the pity ploy.You have yourself to think of.Go NC in every way.

To Be Free,
Go ahead and cry…punch a pillow…get those feelings out so that you can feel better! ((Hugs)) Know this;You are stronger than you think~You CAN do this!Turn some lively music on and feel free to be YOU!

You don’t need those lies.You don’t need him because he lies to you.You need someone you can trust.Trust yourself.

Love and enjoy your kids…they need you and you need them!Watch some movies together ;do something fun together!

sistersister

I’m also really cautious about all these creeping definitions of “rape,” and I definitely know that real physical rape is dangerous in the extreme. I cannot even begin to describe what that must be like, but I’ve had a friend whose life was forever altered by the experience.

But there has to be some way to describe what is undeniably still a physical sexual violation, even if it’s not getting cornered in a dark alley, beaten, and penetrated. There is something about that violation that we struggle to find even a word for. “Rape” seems to cover it, as flawed as that is. If you’ve been there, you’ll know what I’m talking about. It is not to be trivialized.

This bit about it being “consensual” is also not quite it, when the seduction is so complete and, well, criminal.

I think those grey areas are exactly what sociopaths like to exploit. I’m gonna call it what it is, emotional rape.

Tea Light and fight,
I have enjoyed our cyber friendship and circle of support! 🙂 (( Hugs ))

What I’m trying to express here is not so much about what was taken from any of us sexually.One can be violated in many ways and still be very traumatized.It can take a very long time to put one’s life back together.Not so long ago we were discussing PTSD and how emotional abuse is considered a cause just as much as war,sexual assault,etc.

This is just the first part of the excerpt from Dr. Mike Fox’s book: What is Emotional Rape?
According to Michael Fox, Ph.D., emotional rape is similar in many ways to physical rape, particularly date rape. Date rape involves the sexual use of someone’s body without consent which amounts to theft of the person’s physical sensorium. In a like manner, emotional rape is the theft of someone’s higher emotions, such as love, without consent. However, in the case of emotional rape the lack of consent is contained in the fact that the individual is being lied to by the perpetrator.
Emotional rape can happen to both men and women. Both forms of rape can be very devastating and require specialized programs for recovery.

Obstacles to Recovery
Several major obstacles are encountered in recovery from emotional rape that do not exist when considering physical rape. The first is that the victim is aware that something bad happened, but, due to lack of knowledge doesn’t know what or why. Also, as in date rape, the victims often feel that they will never be able to love or trust anyone again.
Other obstacles to recovery, again similar to date rape, are the re-victimization of the victim by friends, family, and society (“you were stupid”, “how could you let this happen”, “…told you they were bad news”, “you were naive”, etc.) and the subsequent tendencies toward self-blame and silence about what happened.

To Be Free

Thank you Blossom!!
I haven’t felt this low in a while.
I told this person to not tell me what he is doing and who he is with.
Today, when I know he is taking a trip and it use to be me with him, it just hurts.

fightforwhatsright

I feel seduction under false pretenses is sexual fraud. If I consented to the sex, a seductive fraud occurred. That is how I feel about it.

Tea Light

That’s also my view. If we consent to a relationship of any kind with someone who is misrepresenting themselves and their intentions towards us wilfully then fraud is the word I believe is appropriate. Such an experience can be devastating. Getting society at large and the legal system to take that seriously does not require us to appropriate the word ‘rape’ to describe the experience of realising you have consented to a relationship be it sexual or emotional or professional with affraudulent individual. That to me can be powerfully and accurately described as an experience of abuse, a traumatic experience. Reference to psychological violence may be relevant. References to physical violence, to domestic violence, to battered partner syndrome, to PTSD, these all seem to me powerful and unambiguous. I see no need personally to use the word ‘rape’ to describe relationships, which may feature very serious abuses of a person, but in which an act or acts of rape did not occur. Peace and love to everyone in their journeys towards recovery from abuse of any kind.

To Be Free

fight:
Just read your post to me. Thanks for that and the support. I will look for the book.
Just like so many, I didn’t know what he was. I fell hard….and fast….and it was so exciting. Now, I’m paying for it. 🙁

fightforwhatsright

To Be Free: Hope it helps. I’ve found that reading as much as I can helps a lot.

fightforwhatsright

BTW, at the bottom of the screen, there is a little box you can check that will notify you if someone comments on a post. I have checked it, so will see if it works.

Fight – yes – a new feature. Does it work for you?

fightforwhatsright

Donna,

Yes, it is working for me and it is very helpful. I get an email that shows what the comments were following my last comment. Much more user friendly than when I first registered on the site. I didn’t notice it until a couple of days ago. I may have missed it before if you did this already, but you might post a small blurb about it as one of the articles in case others haven’t found it yet.

Everyone on here “consented” to the relationship that they entered into.What we did not “consent” to was having our psyche wholly battered and violated.Everything that we stood for,that we are,that we offered with all our hearts,was violently taken from us in a cruel,criminal way(I won’t use that word).Just because it wasn’t done so in a physical way;in a minute,because we didn’t have a chance to fight it off (God help me,I wish I could have!),doesn’t trivalize what was done to us.Again I’m not demeaning what happened to those victims of physical sexual assualt.I just feel that our experience is being trivalized here.

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