A sociopath is someone who has a pervasive and persistent disregard for the rights and feelings of others. This disregard is manifested in the antisocial behavior sociopaths show. While we usually think of antisocial behavior as criminal, not all antisocial acts are illegal. A person who slips up once is not a sociopath. Sociopathy is a lifestyle.
Since humans are designed to live in society, a healthy personality has prosocial inclinations. Therefore, people who are pervasively antisocial are disordered in the sense that they are not the norm (thank God). Although antisocial behaviors are observable actions like lying, stealing and assault, there are personality traits that cause antisocial behavior. It should come as no surprise that people who have a sense of entitlement, over-rate their own greatness and have poor self-control are more likely to hurt others and show pervasive antisocial behavior.
The American Psychiatric Association has defined a group of personality disorders it calls “cluster B”. According to a recent paper* by German psychiatrist, Christian Huchzermeier, M.D., “ The cluster includes disturbances of personality that go hand in hand with emotional dysregulation phenomena, a tendency towards aggressive—impulsive loss of control, egoistic exploitation of interpersonal relationships, and a tendency to overestimate one’s own importance.”
The disorders of “cluster B” go together because what underlies them is a disturbance in three developmentally acquired abilities I have called The Inner Triangle. These abilities are:
Ability to Love
Impulse Control
Moral Reasoning
These abilities that a child gains during development are a triangle because the development of each depends on the other two. A child begins to acquire ability to love in the first year of life, impulse control begins in the second year of life. At two years of age there is already a link between ability to love and impulse control. Children with the best impulse control also are the most loving/empathetic. Moral reasoning begins in the third year of life and its development depends on a loving nature and impulse control. Similarly the most moral kids are also the most loving and self-controlled.
I think of the cluster B disorders as different manifestations of damage to the inner triangle. I think of sociopaths as individuals who completely lack ability to love and have impaired impulse control and moral reasoning.
Given the Inner Triangle, it should come as no surprise that it can be difficult to find people who have only one cluster B personality disorder. For that reason individuals with antisocial personality, narcissistic personality, borderline personality and histrionic personality often have symptoms of the other disorders. If someone gets a diagnosis of only one of these, it doesn’t mean that the person doesn’t also have one or all of the others. The person making the diagnosis simply thought that the one chosen best described the person. You should know there is a gender bias in diagnosis such that women are often labeled “borderline.” These women can also be sociopaths who leave a trail of victimized friends, lovers and children in their wakes.
A recent study reported in Behavioral Science and the Law, “The Relationship Between DSM-IV Cluster B Personality Disorders and Psychopathy According to Hare’s Criteria: Clarification and Resolution of Previous Contradictions” examines the relationship between psychopathic personality traits as defined by the screening version of the PCL and Cluster B personality disorders. The authors of this study were careful to examine people who had only one cluster B disorder. They found psychopathy to be associated with all cluster B disorders.
The authors conclude:
“One clinical implication of our results, nevertheless, is that in cases where a cluster B personality disorder is diagnosed a high psychopathy value is to be expected, especially where antisocial, borderline or narcissistic personality disorder is involved. The PCL score is a better predictor of subsequent events, such as problems during (criminal) custody or a relapse into delinquency, than a diagnosis of a DSM-IV personality disorder, especially in forensic populations; therefore, an additional investigation with the PCL should be carried out, if a cluster B personality disorder has been diagnosed.”
It is important for Lovefraud readers to be aware of this study especially if there is a divorce/custody proceeding or a cluster B personality disorder has been diagnosed. Many people might think that if the partner has been “diagnosed borderline” or “diagnosed narcissistic” that means the partner is not a psychopath/sociopath. This study suggests otherwise. IF YOU ARE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS THESE YOU HAVE TO CONSIDER THEIR HARMFUL BEHAVIOR AS AN INDICATION OF PSYCHOPATHY/SOCIOPATHY. There are some people with cluster B, histrionic, borderline and narcissistic disorders who are not highly antisocial. But if the person is lying, cheating and manipulating, that is antisocial behavior. This behavior in the context of any cluster B means the person is potentially very dangerous. As the authors state:
“Screening for PCL-based psychopathy can also be important for general psychiatric patients with a DSM-IV personality disorder, so that potential difficulties in the course of their treatment can be anticipated and this comorbidity can be targeted in the planning of therapy. Patients with both a DSM-IV personality disorder and PCL-based psychopathy can exhibit behavior that is particularly dangerous to therapy (Stafford & Cornell, 2003).”
If you have been diagnosed with borderline personality and reading this frightens you, I am sorry. You can improve by working on your inner triangle. Talk to your therapist about DBT a treatment that is very effective in improving the state of the Inner Triangle in people who are motivated to do it.
*The reference for the paper discussed is Behav. Sci. Law 25: 901—911 (2007).
Jim – Speaking of previous posts – Ireland! What a gift that is and will be. You surely have some wonderful thoughtful children in your life and with all theyve been through its a testament to all of your hard work and devotion to them that they love and appreciate their father. To make the focus on them and how they are doing in their school/career or whatever they need from you when you were going through such crazy times with your XS/P was exactly what they needed. My father always focused us on the here and now in our lives – it helped me to not dwell on my past – it may have enabled me to block things out too. But overall he makes me feel like a genuine person, not a victim. That yes, we went through some terrible times in our lives but our relationship allowed us to share lessons, love and growth. Again, my family situation didnt involved an S/P Mother, but the dynamics are similar when there is any kind of personality disorder in the family setting. Its what we do with what we know, learn and want to make our environment for our children – that ultimately makes things settle in a more safe/loving environment after the S/chaos! And time just has this way of making things easier/better –
learnthelesson – You’re welcome, and thank you for the compliment.
Djhere2-yep, saw it. I think it’s somebody trying to cause trouble for someone…not welcome here…I think Donna handled it for now…I ran out for Peanut Corp of America Troll Food, but I guess the exorcist got here and banished it…it’s posts will crumble to dust and vanish in the winds of time…where they belong.
learnEDthe lesson..Thanks for the kind words. If it’s not ALL about me, can I be judged non-Cluster B?
My place is hopefully a “chaos free” zone…they all seem to fall asleep here when they come. The furnace is new, no CO, so I guess it’s therapeutic. I don’t care, I feed them and do the dishes. (I keep enough dust, mess, and cat hair around to keep Oxy from stalking me LOL)
My jeep’s a Red Rock River (dk red) or whatever 07 Wrangler, bought new. When we (13 year and me) were standing in the dealership, my 26 year old called my cell…I passed her off to her sister, who told her what we were doing. Well, the 26-year old got passed back to me and said “You’re buying a Jeep Wrangler? Why?” My answer: “Well, I always wanted one, and there’s nobody to tell me I can’t buy it!”
I just looked out the window at it…I don’t think I’m OCD either…
What was the screenname of the troublemaker, or comment? Briefly can you or DJ let us know…
Old….I saw Wini had mentioned him…the posts were gone.
I’ll ignore him if he gets back in again. Usually the vermin try to get in in the fall, not the spring. LOL
Hey Jim: You’re supporting my suppositions about “Men Who Love Psychopaths.” When I read “Women Who Love . . .” I wondered if the same sorts of traits in us women were present in men who ended up with sociopathic women.
Briefly, I thought I might see men who were adventurous (risk averse), somewhat extraverted, tolerant, responsible, compassionate . . . the sort of person who might buy a jeep, or think about moving to Australia, for example, and who would worry about being intrusive in the lives of his grown children.
If you took the survey that was behind the book, I wonder how you would score compared to the women who were the basis of the research.
Learn – the name was old – probably can’t repeat what was said since it was taken off…freaked me out, though because sounds like something my ex would say.
He’s called, btw, and left several messages. The last one had me ROFLMAO…said “God is mad because YOU’RE the one keeping us apart and HE put us together.”
GO AWAY, GO AWAY, GO AWAY!!!
He’s asked me (in message) if I’m already taken…I’m soooo tempted to say, “why yes, I AM being persued” (truly isn’t a lie, actually, but playing it totally cool!) but why stir the pot? That might make it MORE FUN for the ex!!
IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE!!!
Thanks, Jim…thought my eyes were seeing things!
Rune-there’s a book out? “Men Who Love Psychopaths”?
Well, it just might be after over 30 years in OZ with two women, the traits might just get a little distorted…you might have to peel the onion to find out who you are, and remember. Do I hear Mufasa up there?
From one point of view, I took “the heat” that would have been directed at other targets. I remember some good times. I got good kids. Maybe, “I’d rather have been in Philadelphia”, but I can’t go back, and the airport there is the pits. I survived. She was probably just BPD.
I can see it now…I was at Barnes & Noble this past weekend and bought “Gift of Fear” and “Without Conscience” Now I buy “Women Who Love Psycopaths” to take a test? I hope I don’t get the same cashier!
For about ten years I wasn’t allowed to have fun. I had no energy. Three months after the divorce was filed and she moved out, my sister said I looked 10 years younger.
A friend wanted to play tennis last summer. I hadn’t played in 20 years. He’s 49, I was 58. He showed up with his 20 yr and 16 yr old sons…one on the high school tennis team.
Doubles…old men vs the young. We won. They didn’t let us, and weren’t happy. 1 set…I could’t walk for a week.
Played nine innings of competitive softball at a charity thing, last five barefoot. Lost skin on both knees…all ages…daughter and friend…we won…I couldn’t move for a week.
Met a neat 35 year old lady (too young) at a gathering…she later said I laughed and smiled more than anyone she’d seen…and she “felt safe” around me. That was nice, I guess.
So, back to the survey…I’m me again, now. I can take it, as long as it doesn’t involve a sex-change op first (you know how men are about those “things”)
I still like women. They fascinate and confuse me…and I’m
“18 til I die” (Bryan Adams-my new theme song)LOL
DJhere2-Old wasn’t here for you-I remember the posts…someone else. You’re safe here…Donna watches it well.