A sociopath is someone who has a pervasive and persistent disregard for the rights and feelings of others. This disregard is manifested in the antisocial behavior sociopaths show. While we usually think of antisocial behavior as criminal, not all antisocial acts are illegal. A person who slips up once is not a sociopath. Sociopathy is a lifestyle.
Since humans are designed to live in society, a healthy personality has prosocial inclinations. Therefore, people who are pervasively antisocial are disordered in the sense that they are not the norm (thank God). Although antisocial behaviors are observable actions like lying, stealing and assault, there are personality traits that cause antisocial behavior. It should come as no surprise that people who have a sense of entitlement, over-rate their own greatness and have poor self-control are more likely to hurt others and show pervasive antisocial behavior.
The American Psychiatric Association has defined a group of personality disorders it calls “cluster B”. According to a recent paper* by German psychiatrist, Christian Huchzermeier, M.D., “ The cluster includes disturbances of personality that go hand in hand with emotional dysregulation phenomena, a tendency towards aggressive—impulsive loss of control, egoistic exploitation of interpersonal relationships, and a tendency to overestimate one’s own importance.”
The disorders of “cluster B” go together because what underlies them is a disturbance in three developmentally acquired abilities I have called The Inner Triangle. These abilities are:
Ability to Love
Impulse Control
Moral Reasoning
These abilities that a child gains during development are a triangle because the development of each depends on the other two. A child begins to acquire ability to love in the first year of life, impulse control begins in the second year of life. At two years of age there is already a link between ability to love and impulse control. Children with the best impulse control also are the most loving/empathetic. Moral reasoning begins in the third year of life and its development depends on a loving nature and impulse control. Similarly the most moral kids are also the most loving and self-controlled.
I think of the cluster B disorders as different manifestations of damage to the inner triangle. I think of sociopaths as individuals who completely lack ability to love and have impaired impulse control and moral reasoning.
Given the Inner Triangle, it should come as no surprise that it can be difficult to find people who have only one cluster B personality disorder. For that reason individuals with antisocial personality, narcissistic personality, borderline personality and histrionic personality often have symptoms of the other disorders. If someone gets a diagnosis of only one of these, it doesn’t mean that the person doesn’t also have one or all of the others. The person making the diagnosis simply thought that the one chosen best described the person. You should know there is a gender bias in diagnosis such that women are often labeled “borderline.” These women can also be sociopaths who leave a trail of victimized friends, lovers and children in their wakes.
A recent study reported in Behavioral Science and the Law, “The Relationship Between DSM-IV Cluster B Personality Disorders and Psychopathy According to Hare’s Criteria: Clarification and Resolution of Previous Contradictions” examines the relationship between psychopathic personality traits as defined by the screening version of the PCL and Cluster B personality disorders. The authors of this study were careful to examine people who had only one cluster B disorder. They found psychopathy to be associated with all cluster B disorders.
The authors conclude:
“One clinical implication of our results, nevertheless, is that in cases where a cluster B personality disorder is diagnosed a high psychopathy value is to be expected, especially where antisocial, borderline or narcissistic personality disorder is involved. The PCL score is a better predictor of subsequent events, such as problems during (criminal) custody or a relapse into delinquency, than a diagnosis of a DSM-IV personality disorder, especially in forensic populations; therefore, an additional investigation with the PCL should be carried out, if a cluster B personality disorder has been diagnosed.”
It is important for Lovefraud readers to be aware of this study especially if there is a divorce/custody proceeding or a cluster B personality disorder has been diagnosed. Many people might think that if the partner has been “diagnosed borderline” or “diagnosed narcissistic” that means the partner is not a psychopath/sociopath. This study suggests otherwise. IF YOU ARE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS THESE YOU HAVE TO CONSIDER THEIR HARMFUL BEHAVIOR AS AN INDICATION OF PSYCHOPATHY/SOCIOPATHY. There are some people with cluster B, histrionic, borderline and narcissistic disorders who are not highly antisocial. But if the person is lying, cheating and manipulating, that is antisocial behavior. This behavior in the context of any cluster B means the person is potentially very dangerous. As the authors state:
“Screening for PCL-based psychopathy can also be important for general psychiatric patients with a DSM-IV personality disorder, so that potential difficulties in the course of their treatment can be anticipated and this comorbidity can be targeted in the planning of therapy. Patients with both a DSM-IV personality disorder and PCL-based psychopathy can exhibit behavior that is particularly dangerous to therapy (Stafford & Cornell, 2003).”
If you have been diagnosed with borderline personality and reading this frightens you, I am sorry. You can improve by working on your inner triangle. Talk to your therapist about DBT a treatment that is very effective in improving the state of the Inner Triangle in people who are motivated to do it.
*The reference for the paper discussed is Behav. Sci. Law 25: 901—911 (2007).
Good for you, Oxy! I tend to lean toward thinking that the paleo-diet as being optimum for our bodies. Plants, seeds and nuts as our mainstays, and then a few times a year we gorge ourselves silly on some fine meat. MOO.
I’m glad you feel better. It’s amazing, isn’t it? The Standard American Diet (SAD) is but one of the factors in the decline of our civilization, imo.
Hi Sarah,
I agree with SAD…I’ve been thru three yoga trainings, met all kinds of vegies, vegans..I mean hard core..lol and the mos
t beneficial advise I EVER got was from the trainer at the gym..LOLOL. That just cracks me up!
I’m down ten pounds cause I go to the gym a lot and I DID what he told me to!
It’s all about getting healthy after the spath. Focusing on yourself and taking GOOD care of yourself. Happy to hear you stopped drinking…good for you emotionally and the empty calories are a killer….
Oxy,
You’ve turned your whole eating/smoking life upside down! Good for you. It is hard to eat under a certain amount of calories a day, never mind counting salt intake..lawdy. I stopped putting salt on my food, but I know so many foods are just STUFFED with salt…it’s kinda gross actually.
Well, you are a power of example..can do what you want if you have the will to do it!
Constantine:
I’m so sorry to hear about your mom’s diagnosis 🙁 It sounds though like it is early stages so that is good. I know plenty of women who have survived breast cancer because it was caught early. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom.
Ana,
HA! Me, too. 425 hours of hot yoga training, fasts and cleanses, enough kefir and other fermented lovelies to last me a lifetime… you know what my body responds to the most? Cardio and weights. Go figure.
Constatine….I am sorry for your pain in the diagnosis of your mother. I’m glad you can be there for your mother! I am currently wrestling with all the emotions of not being there for mine with the same diagnosis.
Do good my man……and support your mother, it’s very important to have that support….i’m glad you feel you can be there!!!
XXOO
EB
Sarah,
THAT is funny!!! Yep, lets get back to basics…lol. When I think of it…It really is ironic. I never was a gym person..always yoga or exercising at home…LOLOL I love the trainer at the gym..he’s Irish..with full accent..THAT makes it even funnier!!! No carbs..this from an Irish guy..lol.
Sarah,
Who did you train with for 450 hours? Where you in Ft. Lauderadale as I was?
It was at a Bikram-esque studio in the city where I live (don’t want to say where). It was a 500 hour course, but the remaining hours were practicum in the studio, i.e. “free labor” for the owners, and I decided I didn’t want to work there. I got pretty disillusioned with the whole outfit, and actually haven’t practiced in two years. I miss it sometimes, and occasionally I’ll take a class at the gym, but I don’t ever want to go in the hot room again. It was a fantastic course, though.
Sarah,
I went to Kripalu (yoga place in Western Mass) for one week with Bikram. He was so awful, I just laughed my butt off. He has NO control of his emotions..I mean NONE!
He was just a jerk! Another friend went to his training in CA. It was of course brutal. But he was mean and would talk till 3am knowing they had to be back at 6AM for there first class…no empathy, sympathy etc.
I went to the Barkan training in FL. It was really hard and 5 weeks long. 7am-9pm everyday but Sunday. He was the guy to sue Bikram(after studying with him for 20yrs).
This is how it turned out: you can teach Bikram yoga in any Bikram yoga studio. You can teach Barkan yoga in ANY studio except Bikram…lol.
Went on to study with Dharma Mittra in NYC..loved that it was so opposite of hot yoga. I’ve taught in many a studio. When it becomes your job…it’s not fun anymore!! I say stick with the gym people…they don’t even make eye contact (luvs it!). Hope you are well.