Medical and mental health professionals have differing views and opinions about the personality disorders that are the topic of Lovefraud—sociopathy, psychopathy and antisocial personality disorder. You could also include narcissism and borderline personality disorder.
There is disagreement among professionals about how the disorders should be defined, what causes them, and what can be done about them. As an example, take a look at a recent post along with the comments: ASK DR. LEEDOM: Is there a gender bias against men in the diagnosis of sociopathy?
No matter what discussions are raging in the professional world, here is what the rest of us need to know: There are evil people among us.
“I never knew such evil existed”
Lovefraud receives plenty of e-mail from people who have been deceived, manipulated, bankrupted, assaulted and deserted by sociopaths/psychopaths/antisocials. One comment that I frequently hear is, “I never knew such evil existed.”
Yes, it does. This is what evil people look like:
- They are charming and say all the right things
- They are supremely confident in their own greatness
- They are highly sexual
- They crave excitement and are easily bored
- They are impulsive, risk-taking and irresponsible
- They are pathological liars, telling falsehoods large and small
- They feel no guilt or remorse; nothing is their fault
- They use you and then spit you out
- They do not play by the rules
- Once they are adults, they cannot be rehabilitated
M. Scott Peck, M.D., in his book People of the Lie, says: “Evil is that force, residing either inside or outside of human beings, that seeks to kill life or liveliness.” In other words, evil people seek to kill the life force of their victims. Sometimes this means turning victims into broken shells of what they used to be. Sometimes it means murder.
Three points for professionals
It is extremely difficult to fight evil. Therefore, the best thing we can do is avoid it. We need to accept that evil exists and learn to recognize the key symptoms so that we can keep evil people out of our lives.
So what does this mean for the professionals? In many cases, these are the people who are making recommendations and decisions that affect the lives of both the evil and the victims.
In my opinion, professionals—and this includes legal professionals, especially court judges—need to learn three things:
- How to distinguish the evil people, who cannot be helped, from those who have succumbed to terrible life circumstances, such as poverty, crime and bad parenting, and may possibly be helped.
- How to save the offspring of evil people from growing up to be evil.
- How to help victims recover.
There are people in the world who feel that everyone has good within them, that with enough love and understanding, anyone can be helped. As much as I would like this to be true, it is not. Evil exists. We’ve experienced it.
BR,
the list is not intended to describe evil things people do – being charming is not evil. It is intended to be list that when taken together, you get a complete picture of someone you should be afraid of. This theoretical person most likely attracted you by being charming and continues to appear that way most of the time. But secretly only wants to hurt you.
None of the items on the list MAKE them this way, it is just a profile that WE HAVE SEEN. It is what WE HAVE SEEN that they have in common.
I don’t really understand your last paragraph about the ego, can you clarify?
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I think #7, taken alone, is enough to assume this person could be evil…and dangerous…that’s all I need to know.
I’m hungry. Think I’ll eat a salad, made of fresh produce, and then remove the rocks from my garden.
Ok, first off I’ve always thought exactly what you’re saying about sociopaths and have been told that I was crazy, paranoid or even imagining the evil I see in some people. I never thought of them following me through lives but it does strike chord with me in some way.
Have you ever seen a group of these people work together to ruin 1 person? This has been going on in my life for the past 5 years. I’ve just come to realize it in the last 2 years. I really almost thought that something was wrong with me. Any advice you can offer is appreciated.
Hi Seer,
they do get together to work in groups.
You read about it in the news all the time when a person commits suicide after being bullied.
Usually there is one master psychopath that is directing all the drama. This one will slither away and never be implicated, they have an exit strategy planned. It’s usually someone you are very close to. Someone you’d never suspect.
That’s why you need to learn the signs.
Dear Seer,
Knowledge empowers us, and I suggest that you stay around here and read and learn and become powerful in protecting yourself by using that knowledge.
The articles in the archives are a wonderful store of information, the ones listed by author and subject (rather than the dates) go back all the way to the beginning of this site, the o nes by date only go back 1 yr)
I’m sorry you have a need to be here, but being here is an excellent place to be if you are targeted by a psychopath. There is knowledge here, support and understanding. Welcome.
Why are these people so good at making everyone else think they’re good and decent people? I’ve actually had the internet thing happen already. I even believe I know who was behind it. I’ll stick around and read more. I’m living with one again and I need all the help I can get while transitioning out of this situation since I see they have allies to help them.
Dear Seer,
Knowledge IS POWER, and there are hundreds of articles here to explain the psychopath and how they work—I suggest you go back and read from the ones by subject and author, just the articles for now (there are over 700!) and possibly purchase some of the books recommended here, first off “Without Conscience” by Dr. Bob Hare, the primer for beginners, and one I particularly like for dealing with the emotional abusers is “Stalking the Soul, emotional abuse and the erosion of Identity.” by Marie France Hirigoyen. It is out of print, but you can usually find a copy on the used book sites amazon or B & N. It is WELL worth the look around to find a copy of it.
Yes, they do have allies and dupes (people they have fooled) and they are good at what they do. Good luck with escaping. I’m not sure what your relationship with the current psychopath is, but whatever it is, it is a parasitic one I am sure and they are sucking your life blood in some manner….or finances, or just out to eat your soul! Keep learning it is our best defense and offense as well.
Thanks again Ox…
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