Medical and mental health professionals have differing views and opinions about the personality disorders that are the topic of Lovefraud—sociopathy, psychopathy and antisocial personality disorder. You could also include narcissism and borderline personality disorder.
There is disagreement among professionals about how the disorders should be defined, what causes them, and what can be done about them. As an example, take a look at a recent post along with the comments: ASK DR. LEEDOM: Is there a gender bias against men in the diagnosis of sociopathy?
No matter what discussions are raging in the professional world, here is what the rest of us need to know: There are evil people among us.
“I never knew such evil existed”
Lovefraud receives plenty of e-mail from people who have been deceived, manipulated, bankrupted, assaulted and deserted by sociopaths/psychopaths/antisocials. One comment that I frequently hear is, “I never knew such evil existed.”
Yes, it does. This is what evil people look like:
- They are charming and say all the right things
- They are supremely confident in their own greatness
- They are highly sexual
- They crave excitement and are easily bored
- They are impulsive, risk-taking and irresponsible
- They are pathological liars, telling falsehoods large and small
- They feel no guilt or remorse; nothing is their fault
- They use you and then spit you out
- They do not play by the rules
- Once they are adults, they cannot be rehabilitated
M. Scott Peck, M.D., in his book People of the Lie, says: “Evil is that force, residing either inside or outside of human beings, that seeks to kill life or liveliness.” In other words, evil people seek to kill the life force of their victims. Sometimes this means turning victims into broken shells of what they used to be. Sometimes it means murder.
Three points for professionals
It is extremely difficult to fight evil. Therefore, the best thing we can do is avoid it. We need to accept that evil exists and learn to recognize the key symptoms so that we can keep evil people out of our lives.
So what does this mean for the professionals? In many cases, these are the people who are making recommendations and decisions that affect the lives of both the evil and the victims.
In my opinion, professionals—and this includes legal professionals, especially court judges—need to learn three things:
- How to distinguish the evil people, who cannot be helped, from those who have succumbed to terrible life circumstances, such as poverty, crime and bad parenting, and may possibly be helped.
- How to save the offspring of evil people from growing up to be evil.
- How to help victims recover.
There are people in the world who feel that everyone has good within them, that with enough love and understanding, anyone can be helped. As much as I would like this to be true, it is not. Evil exists. We’ve experienced it.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
ah, it’s just miss lily allen, oxy.
ErinBrock
JUST miss Lily Allen?
Show RESPECT!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
well my, that was pejorative, wasn’t it!? and i wrote her whole name in lower case….i have no manners what so ever.
Ox Drover
Who the heck is Lily Allen? Shows I live in the boondocks!
Jack asses got into the yard today trying to get the corn out of the duck pen! Wish I’d caught them like I did the cat! POW!!!! I’m really proud of that one, but gotta keep the bedroom door closed, or she’ll get even…hee hee Cats are psychopathic! But I AM bigger and meaner so she can stay!
ErinBrock
Lily Allen sings my theme song!
The Fark You song….
Uh,….Hellllllooooo
Ox Drover
Okay, I may just have to listen to that if I can save up enough megabites by the end of the month! MIGHT BE MY THEME SONG TOO! LOL
ErinBrock
Oxy……
I’ve posted it a million times…….
It’s the song Jr presented me with EARLY on…..and I loved it!
It sure fits.
I listened to it when I got down, and EACH drive over to court….the whole hour there!!!!! Smiling ans singing to it’s catchy tune.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
it’s a great little pop ditty targeting homophobia and bigotry, that has unleashed a torrent of creative videos on youtube, made by groups of diverse people in support of gay folk. it’s quite a lovely little movement.
…and now, WIKILEAKS! paypal, mc and visa have shut down payments, julian assange has been jailed for rape ( how terribly convenient), wikileaks server is shut down.
wikileaks supporters have hacked visa and mc sites.
reachingout
Hi ALL. I am bran new here.
Been divorced from a sociopath since August 2003. During the marriage, I thought I was dealing with the issues of an alcoholic. This is what ALL of the councelors said. It was not until 3 years after the divorce that I even knew what I was really married to-a sociopath. Our teenage daughter was going thru a rough patch and in her counseling I answered many questions about the divorce. This Psychologist is the head of the most respected center in the region. He turned to me and said, “He sounds like a Sociopath.” Of course, he quickly clarified that this was not a diagnosis since he had not even met my daughter’s father but it really struck a cord with me. I reseached the characteristics as soon as I got home. He had 9 of the 13. I have NO DOUBT in my mind he is a sociopath. Our marriage was a total con to get at my parents money. I thought I was being strong and figuring this out but here I am 7 years later still sorting. I do not personally know one other person on this earth who has had a similar experience but I know you are out there and I am reaching out to find you.
It is so scary to think of a world where people have NO REMORSE. It seems to me this is a growing issue. I read that ASPD is not genetic but et it is found in numbers in some families. If this is a learned behavior, I really fear it spreading with increased pressures in our world
breathless
So my former S calls me out of the blue this morning to apologize for all that he’d done to hurt me. If no one is familiar with my story, my S and I were engaged when he up and married the mother of one of his children. He basically left me with an empty savings account and a broken heart. His wife was a previous victim of his that he cleaned out before leaving three years ago. Days after they were married he flew away to spend the holiday weekend with me. A month later I found out that he also had another girlfriend that is carrying his child that he’s been sleeping with at the apartment that he shares with his wife. He went to jail for a probation violation a month after being married and has since been released. I didn’t recognize his voice this morning and he wanted to know if I’d forgiven him, if I hated him, and told me how much he’d loved me and how he’d been in love with me since he met me and then asked if we could be friends. I laughed at his insanity and he said that he needed my friendship. I think this is SO hilarious because his wife tried to convince me that God had instructed her to marry my former S. I also found out that there is a posisbility that he is still married to someone else. I am SO thankful for him being out of my life and now that he’s called I know not to answer if his number pops up or I receive a call from a private number. For a minute I thought that there was a chance that he’d changed by the grace of God, but now I see he’s up to his same old b.s. and I am SO happy that I stood my ground and let him know that he was messing with the wrong chic!