Reading the newspaper on Saturday, two terrible articles jumped off the page.
A New Jersey man accused of abandoning his infant daughter at a gas station in Delaware has been charged with killing the toddler’s mother, whose burning body was found in an upstate New York park. Read more.
A man apparently infatuated with a special-education teacher shot and killed her as she walked into her elementary school Friday, shortly before students began arriving. Read more.
These were stories of domestic violence with the worst possible endings.
Dr. Liane Leedom has written previously on Lovefraud that, “studies of male perpetrators of domestic violence reveal that 50% are sociopaths and another 25% have sociopathic traits, but not the full disorder.”
So how big is the problem of domestic violence?
Not long ago, a Lovefraud reader sent me a link to a web page hosted by the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence. The page is a survey of recent statistics, compiled to help lawyers and advocates who want to include statistical data in arguments to the court.
The list is truly sobering. Here are some highlights:
• Approximately 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in the United States.
• In recent years, an intimate partner killed approximately 33% of female murder victims and 4% of male murder victims.
• Of females killed with a firearm, almost two-thirds were killed by their intimate partners.
• 1,006,970 women and 370,990 men are stalked annually in the United States.
• 81% of women stalked by a current or former intimate partner are also physically assaulted by that partner.
• 61% of stalkers made unwanted phone calls; 33% sent or left unwanted letters or items; 29% vandalized property; and 9% killed or threatened to kill a family pet.
• In 8 out of 10 rape cases, the victim knows the perpetrator
• 13% of adult women had been victims of completed rape during their lifetime
• In a study of eighth and ninth graders, 25 percent indicated that they had been victims of dating violence, including eight percent who disclosed being sexually abused.
• Physical aggression occurs in 1 in 3 teen dating relationships.
• About 50 percent of battered women who are employed are harassed at work by their abusive partners.
• Slightly more than half of female victims of intimate violence live in households with children under age 12.
• Between 3.3 million and 10 million children witness domestic violence annually.
• A study of 2,245 children and teenagers found that recent exposure to violence in the home was a significant factor in predicting a child’s violent behavior.
Those are just a few of the listings. There are many more on the ABA page, and several have links to the actual studies and other informative websites. Read more.
Here’s the bottom line: Of the assaults committed by men, 50% are being committed by sociopaths, and another 25% are being committed by men with sociopathic traits. I’d be willing to bet that the women who commit domestic violence are also sociopathic.
I think we can assume that most of the intimate partners were romantic and lovey-dovey when they first met the targets, and the relationship gradually spiraled down into abuse. This is why we need to know about sociopaths—so if we start seeing the first signs of violence, we can get out before things get out of hand.