For all of you wishing for the permanent solution to the problem of a sociopathic tormenter an arrangement that will stop him or her from tormenting you heck, the predator won’t torment anyone —here it is!
InstantHitman.com
Solution courtesy of a Lovefraud reader.
KatyDid
um. there’s a “next” button? was there some do it yerself instructions just in case i’m short of cash?
i tried to donate just in case. mebbie to do it like in church? ya know, give a dollar and there’s plenty in the plate to keep when it goes around the second time.
KatyDid
Oxy,
That son who’s father fraudulently obtained a loan will not have to pay that loan. The loan company needs to be notified of the fraud and the boy’s credit report needs to be protected. But the boy will have to do it and many kids don’t want to burn the bridge to a parent. That’s the problem. Sadly, b’c the parent has already burned it and the kid doesn’t know.
superkid10
Very funny Donna!
Ox Drover
Katy, I’m not sure what will be done about the loan at this point. The son just found out a few days ago. The mother is separated but not yet divorced and with 5 kids still at home (including this one) she is struggling to keep her head above water. The oldest 3 of the 7 kids have all gone NC with the father….but he seems to be particularly targeting this oldest son (the one he got the “loan” for) and the secondary problem is if the FRAUD is prosecuted the man is a state employee and will lose his job….so there goes the mom’s child support.
It is one of those “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” situations. The son is learning what his father is, and his two sibs that are both over 18 (there are 7 kids) know what a sleeze bag daddy dearest is, but the 4 younger kids are still just hurt and confused. It is a big mess for sure, but this man is EVIL and I could write a book about what nasty things he has done to his 2 oldest children (both young adults now) who are GREAT young people. Kudos to the mom! I don’t know the younger kids all that well, but the youngest boy, who is about 4 is ADHD and I hope he doesn’t come out to be just like daddy dearest! He is a hand full now, but the rest of the kids as far as I can tell are all very normal and compassionate, great kids. I would be proud to have any of them as my child or grandchild. I’ll keep you posted on what the outcome of this story is.
shelby333
I need someone to talk to. I have recently encountered by sociopathic ex boyfriend this week and I let him in – yet again. I did not have my phone blocked and he texted me, I replied as he said he had resigned from his high paying job out here on the westcoast and was leaving the CA bay area and returning to his home in the southeast to live with his Dad. He said all of the right things, said he loved me and that he wanted to carry on a long-distance relationship.
I had asked me to stay a few extra days so we could get ‘re-acquainted” as he disappeared 5 months ago. But, no he was going to leave on Saturday and I find out today that his company is throwing him a big going away party and that he did not mention it to me, much less invite me.
Here I am – back at square one – again and feeling completely out of control. I feel like a fool and that he has thrown me away like a raggedy ann doll.
I know that this sounds dramatic, but I want to hurt myself as I cannot face another disappointment. I live alone – I work alone – my family is sick to death of me talking about him.
Please can someone please talk to me?
darwinsmom
Hey Shelby,
It’s scary and harsh to face the world on your own day in and day out, and it’s such a normal wish to have someone by your side instead. I’m sorry that the spath abused your loneliness to hurt you even more for his own selfish needs.
You sound very lonely and that is a gutting feeling. So, if you need someone to talk to, I’m listening. And sure you can talk about him
shelby333
What can I do? I am so sad.
darwinsmom
When I’m sad, I cry my heart out until I feel weary, crawl in bed and let sleep and dreams do the rest. And when I next wake up, some of the ton of sadness that weighed on me earlier has been cried away. Time will make it better. It’s a cliche, but it’s the truth. It’s normal that you are sad. You’re wounded. You’re hurting. And your sadness is some of the emotion you need to live through in order to lick the wounds so they can heal. So, when you say you are sad, you are already doing what needs to be done. More, you are reaching out for company to make you feel less lonely in the process, and that is good too.
I wish I could do something for you. In my mind, you are sitting on my couch, and I hug you and let you cry on my shoulder. We are here for you đŸ™‚
Ox Drover
Dear Shelby,
I’m sorry you are sad, but if you are feeling like hurting yourself, get some help NOW!!!!
Many of us have felt the ultimate sadness, wondering if it was worth it to go on day to day….but believe me, it IS.
Don’t let this jerk determine your feelings….NO CONTACT is there for a reason, and that means we get the time away from them to clear our heads emotionally and logically, so that they can’t push our buttons.
I definitely know how it is when our “friends and family” get tired of hearing about it…but LF is here for you, and we DO understand. (((hugs))) anbd God bless.
shelby333
He surprised me with his text message and when I called, he was sobbing on the phone. This was Monday. Here it is Friday and he has done it to me again. The blatant disregard for me, after I told him how much I loved him and that if he asked me, I would leave everything here to go with him.
Instead, he ignores me and now I know that neither does he respect me nor love me. I am nothing to him.
All I asked of him was to tell me if he could give me what I wanted, which was honesty. I asked him that if he could not ‘love’ me or keep this up, to just tell me. But, I can’t even get that.
He is leaving me again and again, I’m left broken.