Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Clint.”
You have heard the story hundreds of times. I was a naive do-gooder with a new friend that i just could not figure out. Last night, he explained himself to me in way I would not have believed possible.
A little background on me: I am an engineer/scientist in my education and way of thinking. I do not believe anything that cannot be proven in a controlled experiment or supported by scientific data. I do not believe in magic, ghosts, ESP, UFO’s, voodoo, witchcraft, good & evil, etc. etc. That is until last night. I realize now that i should not dismiss things not fully understood.
I met a 23 year old guy named Alex about 3 years ago. We quickly became friends and I integrated him into nearly every facet of my life and inherently trusted him as fully as my brother or mother. I always knew something wasn’t quite right about Alex’s psyche but was unable to pin it down. I found him fascinating and I literally studied his every move in an attempt to figure him out. In the process, I have become almost obsessively in love and lust with him. I am 50 years old and I have never experienced love and passion with such intensity.
Long story short, I recently figured out that he is a sociopath and confronted him. He pulled me in closer and tried to explain the he did not actively plan and think about ways to hurt people. I was simply incapable of understanding him. My mind is “pure as the ocean” as he says. I have never experienced evil thoughts.
Last night, Alex and I communicated telepathically. I don’t know how it happened nor the process that allowed it to happen, but for several minutes I was actually inside his head and I could see, feel, and hear the whole experience of what it is to be Alex. It was absolute terror. It was the most profound, scariest, and most horrific experience of my life. I literally ran out of his house screaming. Have you ever heard of this telepathic connection thing before? I understand him now.
I understand how a sociopathic mind works. I know why they mistreat animals and commit violent acts at an age when they should have no concept of what they are doing. I understand now that I am in real danger because this thing is inhuman and lacks a soul. It’s a freak of nature that resembles a normal mind turned inside out. Everything about good & evil and right & wrong is in reverse. Oh my god there is pure evil all around us.
What now?
I’ve never had a telepathic experience, but I did have one moment of clarity in which I believe God was speaking to me. I knew, without a doubt, that if I stayed in my marriage to my spath, that I would die. His behavior and the anxiety it caused was causing serious health issues that were making me very sick.
What now? RUN~
Hello Clint
What an experience! I am left brained and am interested in description. Will you share more? The actual event to which you refer is vague.
What happened that connected you to him telepathically?
For example:
Were you awake? Sleeping? Holding his hands, head? Looking in his eyes?
How much time passed?
What did you “see” when you were communicating telepathically?
Did he “see” your thoughts telepathically?
I’ve had what I call light bulb moments with two of mine. The most shocking and horrifying part is when you realize the depths of their malice and contempt and how empty and dark they are. It’s almost unfathomable. It gives this sense of a breathing human body with no real person inside, like the walking dead. I felt that same chill all over again as I was reading your post.
Like you, I’m a lover of science and a skeptic of the mystical. Maybe this is what psychology calls projective identification? It seems to happen when boundaries are compromised. We know they project so much of their psychological garbage on us. Or, maybe it was just your own subconscious mind that put the puzzle pieces together for you. On the other hand, there might well be a paranormal or spiritual dimension in play.
About this part: “tried to explain the he did not actively plan and think about ways to hurt people”. Don’t believe for a minute that he doesn’t plan to cause harm, they lie compulsively. He admitted to hurting people in that statement. They put extensive planning into ruining the lives of their targets.
Whatever the source of the revelation, the danger conveyed to you is real. He’s no doubt been laying down traps to betray. I know you love him and I’m so sorry for your pain. What to do? Get your boundaries back up! You do this by securing your property and valuables and getting away from him as soon as you safely can. Be careful, sociopaths don’t take well to rejection by a target. And be kind to yourself, none of this was your fault.
This did not happen directly to me, but when I was married to my first husband, my friend had a frightening experience regarding me. She had never met my husband, as she and her family had been out of town on my wedding weekend. I had not been married long, but long enough for my husband to become a different, scary, abusive and manipulative person I did not know. He was the quintessential sociopath and had fooled everyone. I told no one he was abusive and had tricked me into marriage to appear straight although he had always had relationships with men and continued to after we were married, took all my money, ruined my credit and even embezzled from my friends’ non profit organization! I sought counseling. He even fooled the counselor. The day I met my friend for lunch I showed her our wedding album (these were the 80’s when picture albums existed). She looked at the first picture, slammed the album shut and said “get out while you can or you’ll be dead within the year – he is dangerous and unfaithful, he’ll kill you by violence or disease.” She nailed it. He was just as she said, and I had told no one. She said she didn’t know why she said it other than she needed to and I needed to listen. She was as afraid as I was. It was all I needed to hear. I left by week’s end and never looked back. 25 years later and I’m so glad I did. Strangest thing I’ve ever experienced, but i took it as a sign of Devine intervention and followed the direction given. Thanks Cindy!
Clint,
What we slowly realize when we interact with these people is that there are evil people in our midst. I believe in God and after my experiences, it was like I read Jesus’ words for the first time – He states in the Bible that there are good people and EVIL people. I personally believe that your inner person was aware of your friend’s true nature and was alerting you to the fact that your friend is dangerous. Your experience has awoken you to the reality of the existence of evil people. Yes, it’s shocking, rattling (to say the least). Take good care of yourself.
Clint,
if you always had a sober mind I will not advise you to believe on “telepathy” because of a bad experience with someone” At least get enough samples to make a proper correlation”
I do remember the moment when I finally pictured the person I thought was the best thing that could have happened as totally the opposite. It is a moment of shock. If I would have to find a word that summarizes it for me it would be: ice. But it is the shock. When the reality we perceive comes into a sudden contrast with the reality that is, there is a logical moment of neurosis. Take it as such and don’t overrate it. With enough time I simply saw “my so-called sociopath” as someone very selfish and childish. We sometimes tend to forget how cruel many children can be just for the experience of something new or something that reports them some feeling of power gratification. In any case, the least emotional you get into the situation, and the more attached to the ground, the better. It is in moments of challenge when we really show ourselves how reasonable we are.
My other advice is the same as the one that the commenter “concern” gives you. Protect you assets and set proper boundaries so he can done minimal damage.
to you
In the beginning it felt as if there was a lot of mind connection going on but it only made me feel closer to him. The moment of revelation was two fold and happened about a month apart leading to my final departure. He punched me in the stomach one morning, while sober, while getting ready for work, and while kids were down the hall… then as if nothing happened, went back to the sink and mirror, naked, and continued getting ready. I said to him “I think you could actually kill me someday either accidentally or on purpose without blinking an eye.” His response was a quizical sound as if to say, hmmm good thought.
About a month later, as I was laying on the deck face down bc he had slammed a door on my spine and then threw me, his actions AFTER the violence were the signals to his evil being… he sat down on a deck chair, lit a cigarette and smoked the entire thing in silence while watching me writhing and stating that I thought my hip was broken. Then, he said he would drag me inside if I didnt stop crying. In that moment, no amount of anything would keep me near him. It was utter darness, not just just a conceited man I was dealing with. He was put in jail the following night.
That moment you see the evil, can feel like seeing inside their mind, but it is our mind exploring their experience. I can tell you I had many more of those moments well into the divorce process when I was reading through his “collection” of keepsakes he kept hidden in our home… at the back of his sisters wedding video there was porn added on… which dates to his teen years and hiding what became an obsession… fettish for anal, and OLD women hidden on floppy discs to be used untracably on some sort of external drive… his cheating on every woman ever… and a signature in his elementary yearbook “you are a cool dude, but way too angry.” I tried to put together what he went through to make him this way, but its impossible, and irrelevant. The fact is there is no understanding it unless you are disordered as well.
You had a very enlightening experience, hopefully it will keep you on alert to future situations.
Regards…
I have had different kinds of experiences with my former husband, a classic psychopath. Although he now lives an hour and a half away there have been a number of time when he and I have passed in our vehicles or bumped into one another in places that make sense-fairly remote roads near my home when he was spending time w our son or in a grocery store in the middle of the day, but the specificity of the “coincidences” has been weird. I’ve wondered if he’s tapped phones and had all them checked (actually easy to do) and that wasn’t a factor.
I’ve been able to move on thanks to lots of therapy and help over 5 years and so he’s not “in my head” much at all. Thank goodness. But I’ve just kind of accepted that for whatever reason these things may happen but the last time this happened and I saw him (or his and his current wife’s doubles) fleetingly in a supermarket I’m happy to report that I decided that whether or not it was him it didn’t matter and went on my way without letting the thoughts stay in my head for more than a few minutes.
So I don’t know what to say about the original poster’s experience except that it’s good he or she is now free and safe.
I BELEIVE YOU 100%. I was married to a telepathic sociopath. They are known as “psychic vampires”. Understand there are different varieties of spath.
There are legends that psychic vampires are descendants of the nephilim or the fallen angels. Do not discuss this with normal persons or they’ll label you nuts.
But I know exactly we’re you’re coming from. My ex-husband was a telepathic spath and from time to time would get inside my head and talk to me and actually laugh about it while inside my head. When this was happening I was completely overwhelmed and in disbelief. Some of these folks have super-human abilities. When I was talking to counselors after my divorce many told me I was crazy and probably experiencing PTSD.
However, I did run across a psychiatrist who was a specialist, older, had more experience with the paranormal than his contemporaries and told me it was possible and he was aware of what I was describing. As for counseling you have to find the right person who believes you.
After my divorce I did a lot of research into this type of spath because I was still in total disbelief and sometimes doubted my own sanity.
And yes, I would equate it with the UFO experience. So know that someone believes you and you’re not alone.
Yes. The final time was when he was giving me his spiel about “trial separation”. Suddenly all my subconscious defenses dropped and I realized that I wasn’t being paranoid, he DID enjoy hurting me and he WAS poisoning me. That he was completely hollow, that his responses seemed so perfect because he had learned them from TV and movies. That he wanted his own way and believed he was totally justified in doing anything…even murder…to get what he wanted. That he wouldn’t consider it murder, because other people don’t count. So many things fell into place with a loud crash. I hadn’t allowed myself to acknowledge that I was afraid of him, that I was having nightmares about him, but seeing through his eyes, I knew anything was possible. Like others, I suddenly believed in evil, souless humans. As soon as he got his stuff out, I cut all contact. Thank heavens I could do that, although I still miss his sister and wish I could have told her what was going on. It worries me that he moved back in to mooch off her. But he had spread enough lies before hand that I knew she woudn’t believe me. I now pay attention to those little red flags I tried so hard to ignore.
So yes, I do believe you, totally.