Lovefraud receives many letters from people who want a sign. Readers ask, “How do I know whether or not someone is a sociopath?” There is one behavior that every sociopath engages in to extreme excess. If I were only allowed one criteria for the diagnosis I would choose this behavior. If someone does not do this thing to extreme excess he/she is certainly not a sociopath. Those of you who have been involved with a sociopath know too well what this one thing is. It is lying.
I enjoy reading old religious texts because I believe there is truly nothing new under the sun. It is comforting to get reassurance of that fact. I mentioned some time ago that female sociopaths are described in the Bible. The cardinal symptom of sociopathy is described best in the Babylonian Talmud! One source I found dated this document to the 6th century.
The Babylonian Talmud describes something called geneivat da’at (literally, theft of one’s mind, thoughts, wisdom, or knowledge), i.e., fooling someone and thereby causing him or her to have a mistaken assumption, belief, and/or impression. The sages believed that there are seven types of thieves and, of these, the most egregious is the one who “steals the minds” of people.
Anyone who has been in contact with a sociopath has had his/her mind stolen. Sociopaths do not interact with anyone without stealing a mind.
Although sociopaths are very proud of their ability to steal minds, this behavior does not make them unique, talented or special. Sociopaths are just the worst species of thief!
Many are baffled by the lying sociopaths engage in. A reader who wrote me recently commented that they lie even when the truth sounds better. Sociopaths continue to lie even after their lies are discovered. This often makes them look silly.
Sociopaths lie in order to steal the minds of others. They do this because of an unrestrained drive for power and control. This drive is present in all of their dealings with others.
The best thing to do if your mind has been stolen by a sociopath is Take it Back! Don’t have any more interactions with that person. Accept that you can never deal with a sociopath without experiencing the theft of your mind.
skylar
hey onestep, that is one ugly spath in the video. LOL.
spaths sure are ugly. How fucking pathetic. All the spaths in my life have also been hellishly ugly. Revolting actually.
Do I cuss too much? It’s just hard to describe a spath without cuss words. I’ll try to do better in the new year.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
baby, I AM THE QUEEN OF CUSS WORDS! Ionce wrote a 10 inch long diatribe on lf against the spath, and wrote fu at the end of EVERY LINE!
got censured for it, too.
now, i don’t feel the need to swear as much. but nothing’s as emotive as a good cuss word!
okay, peace out….going out into the night.
super chic
The 2 toxic men I have been with were f**king good looking.
skylar
SC,
you had your f**king colored glasses on!
LOL!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
y’all makin’ the cuss queen proud!
super chic
LOL, yeah, when I look at them now they are
F**KING revolting to me.
ok, edited, i guess i got a little carried away!
hahahhahahahahahahahahhaahaha
super chic
😀
soimnotthecrazee1
LOLOLOL!!!!
Time to start the cuss jar!!!! Every cuss word you use or impose there will be fine of??? 1.00 to add to it!!! Now just where will we put he darn cuss jar?
ErinBrock
Mamma Gem should be in charge of the Cuss Jar……
but then again…..she’s jumping the f**ing ship too! 🙂
(Hope your in ecstasy in NZ mamma)!!!
czarinamom
Happy New Year to everyone!!
Hopefully 2011 will be better for all of us.
I just came across this blog and it is 1000% true. My ex lied like there was no tomorrow. He could look you straight in the eyes and lie. We went to couples counseling and he lied to the therapist – and I don’t think she caught him – he actually turned everything around that I was the crazy one. Her final words to me “Be safe my child”.
He used to always tell the story of how he inherited some money from his father (10k – which was true) but gave it all to his sister so she could start over from a bad marriage and never asked for it back. One day when the sister was in town I asked her about this story and she said it was totally untrue – he LOANED her $300 and she paid it back – even she said he is a pathological liar. He turned friends against me with his lies and now he is looking for a new girlfriend to take care of him.
I honestly feel that people like this should be held responsible for their actions – they are con people and victims have rights!