Isn’t it strange how the mind works? I read with approval Dr Leedom’s latest post. In it she manages to be at once hard-nosed, realistic, and still keep positve. There are very real differences in the brains of those with psychopathic traits, she writes, but the brain is plastic and therein lies just a sliver of hope.
For some reason the opening lines of Martin Amis‘ novel House of Meetings came back to me. It is set in the Soviet Union:
Dear Venus
If what they say is true, and my country is dying, then I think I may be able to tell them why. You see, kid, the conscience is a vital organ, and not an extra like the tonsils or the adenoids.
Amis has also written a stunning nonfiction book about Stalinism, Koba the Dread, which has its own staggering opening:
Here is the second sentence in Robert Conquest‘s The Harvest of Sorrow: Collectivization and the Terror-Famine:
We may perhaps put this in perspective in the present case by saying that in the actions here recorded about twenty human lives were lost for, not every word, but every letter of this book.
That sentence represents 3,020 lives. The book is 411 pages long.
And then I remembered that Amis’ cousin Lucy Partington was murdered by the infamous serial killer Fred West! How could I have forgotten? Amis wrote wrenchingly about it in Experience:
My family cannot understand the extraordinary collision that allowed him to touch our lives, and I have no wish to prolong that contact. But he is here now, in my head; I want him excised. And Frederick West is uncontrollable: he is uncontrollable. For now he will get from me a one-sentence verdict…. West was a sordid inadequate who was trained by his childhood to addict himself to the moment when impotence became prepotence.
Amis clearly knows a thing or two about psychopathy. Consider his compact ‘verdict’:
a sordid inadequate
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- – this suggests ignoble actions and motives arousing moral distaste and contempt combined with a biological lack
trained by his childhood – dysfunctional modelling and upbringing by his family and surroundings
addict himself – this both highlights the central, pleasurable place wickedness played in his life and emphasises the crucial place of will (he didn’t become addicted he addicted himself)
to the moment when impotence became prepotence – here is the defining characteristic of the psychopath: he lives for the moments when his power or influence over others occur. Deep beneath this is a secret fear/knowledge of his utter unimportance/worthlessness.
Amis, through the imaginative power of the artist, has captured remarkably well the heart of the matter.
He is not an easy read, but it now occurs to me that in a way our theme has been one of his central themes. For example, Lovefraud readers have recently written worried letters about the perpetuation of psychopathy among the young via antisocial social environments and psychopathic genes. Time magazine’s recent cover story is about the phenomenon of youth delinquency in Britain. Amis was ahead of the curve when he wrote about it in his novel Yellow Dog.
His forthcoming book is a collection of essays on 9/11 called The Second Plane. (You can read one essay, ‘The Age of Horrorism’ , here.) The collection has received a lot of negative comment: Amis is a racist, etc. Well I’ve read a lot of Amis’ work and and can’t square with that judgement. (What he says is that Islamofascism produces awful racist feelings in him and he doesn’t know what to do with them.) I wonder whether some of the objections to his book are due to what we at Lovefraud encounter all the time: regular folks’ refusal to believe in human evil. These are the fortunate people who have not fully encountered evil – hope their luck holds out.
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Back to Dr. Leedom’s article – she makes it clear that the small candle of hope she holds out is not for the full-blown psychopaths Amis writes about, but for those with psychopathic traits.
Thanks Sarah. Have you read his work?
I have his books . . they’re long, and not for laymen, so I’ve only read parts.
But I just heard him on a podcast that I got from itunes, called “BIG IDEAS”. You should be able to find it.
Here is the web site with the video!
tvo.org/TVOsites/WebObjects/TvoMicrosite.woa?video10149
“…Deep beneath this is a secret fear/knowledge of his utter unimportance/worthlessness.”
i’m not sure why i even care, but i do hope this is true.
Did anyone else watch 20/20 tonight with Barbara Walters interviewing Former Governor Mark Sanford’s wife? If this man is not a psychopath he is doing a good job of acting like one.
His impulsive behavior in sneaking off to Argentenia to visit his GF while still governor, then the press conference when he got back (even before talking to his wife) and laying it all out ab out the affair, THEN and only then calling his wife and saying “How did I do?” (at the press conference) His wife was totally suprised and saw it on TV.
She is a gutsy lady!@....... He is a scum bag!
Ox yes i watched it. At least he wasnt having an affair with a man. These poloticians (sp) are giving the gay’s a bad image. John Edwards is a big Narcissist. I hope he ends up going to supercuts to get his hairs done..the creep – oh well another criminal lawyer shows his real stuff….
lostingrief – thats what the books say but I have trouble accepting that also – I think they think they are perfect..
I pulled this off a post by Oxy almost a year ago. for some reason i can’t post to the thread it was on. I consider this a contract for wearing big girl panties:
The truth is:
There is NO tooth fairy.
There is No Easter Bunny.
It does NOT take two to fight.
There are NOT two sides to every story that are both valid.
There is NOT good in everyone.
Some people are EVIL personified.
NOT everyone can be “helped”/reformed/fixed/understood.
Everyone is NOT equal.
I AM BETTER than a psychopath.
Nice one step and oxy – like it a lot! Definitely not two valid sides to this story! There is one bullsh** side that is constructed of lies and one valid, truthful side that remains silent because … why bother reasoning with stupid people who are fooled by lies? That’s just protesting and throwing more pearls before the swines 😛
One step – love the comment about ‘big girl pants’ – I am definitely wearing my big gal pants these days … and they’re naturally big for the big butt often found in big girls 😛
Sarah999 – love that video – bit of a hard watch and understand with all the severe academic language but well worth persevering with. I can fully see why the books would be tough to get through! This is one of the best reviews of literature I have come across – if you find any more cool videos please share them here!
Dear One step,
Some threads are locked down because there was something going on or a troll from somewhere came on board, and Donna would lock the thread to keep it from going off toward abuse of one or more bloggers. She deletes the “BAD STUFF” so you might not be able to see where it had been to know why the thread was locked, but I bet that is what happpened.
Glad you liked my comments there, and I do think we are taught as children lots of UN-TRUE “truths” like “it takes two to fight” etc.
My P X-DIL used to talk about putting on her “big girl panties,” but with her that meant being a BITCH. LOL And boy did she accomplish that! Landed her sorry butt (covered by her big girl panties) in the BIG GIRL’S JAIL THOUGH! LOL So I guess it was a good thing she had them on because while she was there she got whooped-up on a time or two and I think she decided she didn’t want to go to the BIG GIRL’S PRISON either, so she is keeping a low profile now that she is on probation for 10 years. I run into her in town every now and then at an auction. She usually looks like an “egg sucking dog” skulking around with her BF who is a junk dealer. He is a real “winner” too, let me tell you. She met him on an S&M web site and they hooked up. When she was having an affair with the Trojan Horse P she discovered she was “into S&M” and we found pictures of their “play” which were made in my egg donor’s house—truly disgusting! So I guess if that is what she is “into” she is probably getting what she wants. At one time she was actually a very attractive woman, but now she looks almost as old as I do (I’m 63) and pretty much “rode hard and put up wet.” Her family “disowned” her when she went to jail, her personality disordered daughter and she have parted ways, so she’s pretty much on her own now except for her BF and working at a McDonald’s last I heard.
Sometimes, they get what they “deserve” and sometimes they succeed in stealing from others and living “high on the hog” on someone else’s money. Just depends on how good a con they are and how gullible their dupes are. She just wasn’t very good at her cons so ended up in a hole she dug for herself. But though I am NOT a con, I have dug some pretty deep holes for myself too, by making poor choices, and taking care of others instead of myself.
I think the trick is to recognize when we are digging ourselves into a hole and QUIT DIGGING and start climbing out. I admit though, it isn’t for me at least always easy to do that.