Recently, I watched an old 48-Hours segment on the conman David Michael Pecard, which proved to be a most fascinating, educational case study of a textbook sociopath.
Pecard is the kind of sociopath (or psychopath) psychiatrist Hervey Cleckley, MD, so brilliantly grappled with in his classic, “The Mask of Sanity—”that is, he was glib, persuasive (could sell you the Brooklyn Bridge today and tender a convincing deed of sale); charmingly disarming, imperturbable, thrill-seeking, audacious, deceptive, emotionally superficial and indifferent to the suffering he caused others.
Peter Van Zandt investigates, and offers compelling interview footage with Pecard, who was free as the segment aired, and involved in litigation against Joe Arpaio, then Maricopa County’s (AZ) infamous sheriff.
Pecard alleged in his lawsuit that Arpaio who, at the time, ran Arizona’s notorious Tent City prison, had mistreated him when Pecard was an inmate in that facility. Pecard alleged that Arpaio had had an axe to grind: Earlier, Pecard had conned Arpaio into giving him a cushy, powerful security position at the prison for which Pecard, of course, was fully unqualified. Properly ensconced in his new sinecure, Pecard, exploiting his utterly unsupervised status, released certain female prisoners and reportedly sexually abused them off the prison’s property.
This is how, ironically, Pecard ended up incarcerated in the facility to which Arpaio had, earlier, effectively handed him the keys. Pecard alleges that Arpaio, outraged to have been embarrassed and exploited, seized the opportunity of his imprisonment to make Pecard’s life in his facility extremely and, ultimately, illegally unpleasant.
I choose to dispense with the long history of Pecard’s deviousness which, trust me, is as spectacular and improbable as case histories of particularly gifted conmen so often are. Suffice to say that he managed to coopt more than 20 separate identities in his adult life, using each of them to advance his agenda at a particular time.
That “agenda” was rarely complicated: most often Pecard would shed his identity and “disappear” when exposure loomed, then reappear, sooner than later, in a new identity—that is, with new name, new act and, of course, a set of new, impressive and false credentials.
Pecard married six times and, with several wives, had seven children, abandoning every one of them usually sooner than later; that is, he was here one day, and gone, abruptly, the next, without explanation, and permanently—as though he’d never existed, leaving a trail of bewildered, stunned, frightened ex-wives and shattered families.
What made the story especially compelling for me was Pecard’s willingness—indeed his eagerness—to talk; in so doing, he provides us with, as I said, an education in the machinations of the psychopathic conman.
There is also something sad in his story, and not just for his victims, who deserve the bulk of our compassion, but even, I think, for Pecard himself. I was left, somehow, by the story’s end, disquieted by the revealing—by Pecard’s revealing—of the profundity of his “self” disturbance; by the profoundity, that is, of his self-vacancy, and disconnection from others, and himself.
And this chilling thought crossed my mind: Had Pecard been more murderously motivated, one cringes to imagine the numbers his victims might have reached, given his prodigious capacity to deceive.
But for me, as the story unfolded, the most captivating aspect of it was the access it afforded to Pecard’s emotional poverty. The more Pecard spoke, the more it was revealed. He does not see it, and Pecard doesn’t expect you to see it; but as great a con as he was (and one can see how), the more he spoke, the more the mask slipped off.
Immediately, I was struck by the seductive, familiar tone he struck with reporter Van Zandt, referring to him, for instance, from the outset, as “Peter—”that is, familiarly and comfortably. This is one way sociopathic personalities ingratiate themselves with and disarm others, affecting an easy familiarity that hasn’t been earned, yet which can feel hard to resist.
As Pecard tells his story, you see a micrososm of the man as he surely navigated the world—seemingly incredibly comfortable in his own skin, and apparently assisted by the absence of a hindering self-consciousness. One senses that the interview, for him, is just another interesting challenge to demonstrate how he can turn anyone’s dubiousness into credulity; and also trust of, and sympathy for, him.
But Pecard, as I say, can’t help himself from letting his mask slip. All Van Zandt has to do, and he does it well, is get enough out of Pecard’s way to let Pecard reveal himself.
You shake your head for instance in amazement at how Pecard handles a dramatic homecoming scene, in which he’s reunited (thanks to 48-Hours) with the family he abandoned for decades—abandoned as son, sibling, husband, father.
And so, with his family gathered curiously and skeptically around him, Pecard holds court like a slick politician at a town hall meeting of restive constituents, confidently inviting them to ask him the questions they’ve had for so long, promising earnestly to answer them fully, to their fullest satisfaction.
Regrettably, there’s too little footage of this important scene. But there’s enough to observe the the sociopathic self-confidence, as I’ve written about elsewhere, which is steeped in the sociopath’s confidence in his glibness—specifically, his confidence that his glibness will carry him through yet another tricky situation or challenge.
One senses in other words that, for Pecard, these aren’t so much family standing before him in hopes of getting, finally, a true explanation for their victimization, as much as an assembled group of “objects” who happen to be his family, who merely pose for him a chance to perpetrate a new con—this con consisting of persuading them not to resent him, to believe him and even to sympathize with him?
One of his sons sees right through him, telling Van Zandt in a separate interview that Pecard failed grossly to answer the questions as promised; that instead, he talked in circles and emptily; exhibiting (my words) the sociopath’s classic linguistic feints, decoys and diversions, and all with the sociopath’s expectation of being convincing and believable.
When Van Zandt confronts Pecard on the legacy of pain he’s inflicted on his family, Pecard replies pleasantly, “Peter, every day people leave relationships.”
Van Zandt then cooly, levelly says, “But they pay child support, and they stay in touch with their children,” to which Pecard, seemingly momentarily stumped (and as if searching his database for a response that mimicks appropriateness), answers weakly, “Then I guess I’m guilty.”
I note, again, the liberty Pecard takes at continually calling Van Zandt by “Peter,” in the seductive, insinuating style of the charming sociopath. And as I’ve stressed, there is the emotional poverty of Pecard’s responses, among them—“Peter, every day people leave relationships”—yet which, as I suggest, Pecard asserts with the confidence (and grandiosity) that they’ll be found persuasive, convincing, and acceptable.
And not least, there is the database scan for mimicked responses aiming to appear authentic and effective, but which, in Pecard’s case, prove merely to highlight his sociopathic orientation.
Note how, to Van Zandt’s challenge, Pecard says, “Then I guess I’m guilty.” He doesn’t say, I am guilty, but I “guess” I’m guilty. He “guesses” because he doesn’t feel guilty, so the best he can do is “guess” what a normal person is, or would feel, in this circumstance. He doesn’t feel anything; it’s evident that not for a second does he grasp what he’s subjected his victims to, and least of all does he feel “sorry” about it.
After all, he could have said “I guess I’m sorry,” but of course he doesn’t feel “sorry” and “sorry” is also a more emotional word than “guilty,” so that “guilty” comes up before “sorry” in his word-search for the closest, most convincing response that a human being with a conscience would give in this situation.
And so he comes up with “I guess I’m guilty.”
Pecard’s shamelessness is so deep that he can refer to himself as a “chameleon” with apparent pride. Effectively, he is calling himself a sociopath with pride. And this is a highly sociopathic quality—the sociopath’s absolute lack of shame over his lack of shame.
That is, the sociopath just isn’t embarrassed, worried, or frightened by his lack of shame; while he may have awareness of his shamelessness, it simply doesn’t disturb him. Pecard experiences his “chameleon”-like orientation as a badge of honor, not, like a normal person would, as a troubling sign of his emotional disturbance.
I’ve written elsewhere that for many sociopaths, every day is like Halloween, a chance to decide what mask to wear. Pecard illustrates this point well. He is all mask; there simply is no “real self” for him to be. And so he’s plucked “selves” as out of thin air, over the years, as someone plucks their shirts off the coat hangers in the morning.
Having no core, “real” identity, Pecard manufactured fake identities and, with the talent of a gifted actor, distinguished himself as a fraud.
At the end of the show, Pecard suggests to Van Zandt that perhaps he’ll take up acting in a future career, recognizing the acting skills he’s honed in his life. Van Zandt struggles with a wan smile that reflects, I suspect, a mixture of pity and disbelief. For this was another moment in which Pecard, master con he was, couldn’t disguise the depth of his personality disorder.
I imagine that Van Zandt must have felt, in that moment, precisely the shame, pity and embarrassment of which Pecard was incapable. And so the aching, awkward aspect of this, Pecard’s last disclosure to Van Zandt, wasn’t that he, Pecard, was being ironically humorous; it was that, with his sociopathically deficient appreciation of the irony, he expected to be taken seriously.
(This article is copyrighted (c) 2010 by Steve Becker, LCSW)
one step,
yea, he WAS SOOOOO RIGHT! I realize today though that it never came from his heart or soul. It was just a line he used when his pants were down and he was caught And those pants were down a lot! It’s a wonder he didn’t trip over them all the time. roflmao!
Cat
cat – hive inducing ‘pantsed’ spath – oh, SUCH a pretty pretty thing!
Cat I just saw the 48 hours-Hard Evidence program the other night and since it was on cable was probably dated by a year or so. I haven’t heard any more other than the fact he is currently serving that 9 year sentence. God I hope that woman who held his hand in court has woke up by now. Of course he had no remorse. He is a sociopath. He has no feeling.
I am 3 weeks strong now separated from my S ex lover. No contact at all. I hope it stays that way. But if she calls it won’t be for another month from now…about the time when she thinks my dad’s estate will settle.
hi renewed hope, good for you!
Renewedhope, We can only hope she got away from him. NO conscience=no remorse, no regret, no guilt.
I would assume she WILL contact you, sniffing out that money, of course
Remember, you don’t HAVE to take the phone call, read the email (delete, delete, delete), answer the door, or open the mail. My father told me there is no law stating that just because a phone rings, you have to answer it and just because someone knocks on your door, you have to open it. As I just posted elsewhere, mine walked in the house the other night, thinking he would sit down and have dinner because he had bought it. I was upstairs at the time, but got his butt out of her in under a minute. It taught me to ASSUME he will try this outrageous behavior again and now I’m prepping for it.
It’s a statement that you’ve taken back your own power when you don’t respond and this is something I worked on for a long time and still am. Now, as I just posted somewhere else, I’m quite sure I’m allergic to this man.
Stay strong! Cat
Your Pop is spot on. I as of this moment , am anticipating she will call. But I plan on hanging up on her the second I find out it’s her and I tell her again-not to call me again. If I can catch my caller ID, I will not answer it, but I am not going to stress out about it. I am getting stronger by day. I refuse to give this parasite another chance to screw up my life.
Yeah I think silence is the worst thing that can happen to a sociopath. When they realize they no longer have a captive audience to perform their acting on, then they are the ones who become desperate and lost. Good. Better them than us right?
Very true renewed hope – they have to go make the effort of finding a new circle of disciples – that’s what I have found. When I stopped paying attention to the fake persona he fled like a vampire fleeing from light 🙂
Hey Polly..Hope you threw some garlic cloves at that vampire! Just make sure that the next batch of blood he drinks doesn’t come from your neck! LOL!
Hi Everyone
I have been visiting your website and reading stories from its members for some time now and find in comforting to know there are other people out there like me.
I am currently in a relationship with a man who has been diagnosed as a sociopath ( I suppose maybe this gives me an advantage as i knew before hand what i was getting into and it as allowed me to read as much literature as possible to try and understand the condition. We have only been together a year however it has been difficult from the start. He is 11 years older than me (although its never been an issue) He can be the most attractive, intelligent, funny person I have ever met. He walks into a room and everyone pays attention. He has had a long string of relationships never lasting more than a few months. He also has quite a dark past having been involved in drug dealing as well as drug use and spent a number of years in prison for violent crimes e.g. serious assault, assault to severe injury and permanent disfigurement etc. He has also been violent in his past relationships (although he wont admit this to me I discovered it elsewhere) and many of his girlfriends worked as prostitutes in order to supply him with money and keep his habit (again i found this out on my own) The amount of stories I have heard about horrific things he has done either to his girlfriends or people in general is amazing, some he will admit to and others he wont.
He had a difficult upbringing and still has a very strained relationship with his family (although he does seem to care about them in his own way – would never let anyone else harm them etc) but they all know what he is like and keep him at a distance, he has stolen money from them and there is a lot of hurt and rejection from childhood on both sides.
Anyway so we met a year ago when he was going through a difficult time, he had been clean and sober for around six months and was trying desperately not to sink back into his old life (violence, prison, drugs etc) he had no contact with family, no job and was completely on his own. for a few weeks things moved slow and i assumed he wasn’t that interested, then i let on i had recently come into some money and things changed, we went on a spree which was great as i wanted to treat myself after coming through a tough time and since then we have hardly been apart. As you can imagine after the horror stories I heard I was wary (and also intrigued) by him. However he was lovely and charming and almost scarily perfect. He admitted about being diagnosed as a sociopath and seeing court ordered psychiatrists etc and about his anger problems and violent past. He would also do silly things like take away my bank card and insist on being in control of money. He would talk about me being with him meant i was an extension of him and therefore how i behaved reflected on him. I also began to notice how people tip toed around him and pandered to him to stop him becoming “upset” which i just thought was funny. When we argue I will shout back at him and if i think he is being stupid i will tell him so and he has never lost his temper with me, infact he often leaves the room to avoid fighting with me I fell madly in love with him and began buying him everything i could, looking after him, doing shopping, cooking and cleaning. Taking care of him is a full time job, between running around to get everything right for him (e.g.: often six different shops to get the right jeans and often have to be taken back three time to get the perfect fit) Phone calls to different support workers or companies, food shopping which he is very fussy about and even if i do all these things right he will still find something wrong and fixate on it. I also work full time where as he hasn’t worked since we got together. He often makes promises about the future how everything will be different one day. He is still prone to violent out bursts on other people, never me – he only shouts and says nasty and degrading things to me calling me stupid or fat or ugly – which he rarely apologises for. He can still be loving and affectionate and every time I think I can’t take any more he will stop and say that he doesn’t deserve me, that he doesn’t know why I put up with him and that he finds me so confusing because he has never known anyone to be so good to him and give him so much without wanting anything in return.
His friends (if you can call them that) tell me that he has changed since he met me, that he has calmed down a lot and he treats me so much better than he has treated his girlfriends in the past – though that isn’t saying much. However I have read that sociopaths tend to calm down with age?
I could drone on for hours giving examples of how he fits sociopathic traits and examples of his behaviour but I won’t bore you with the details. For the most part I am happy in my relationship even if it can be extremely difficult and the knowledge that he will never feel for me what I feel for him will hang over me for as long as the relationship lasts. I am much happier with him than i would be without him But I do wonder is anyone going through the same thing as me at the moment? Knowing they are in a relationship with someone like that and trying to deal with it as best they can? Is there any advice they can give me? Do his small improvements and his apparent attempts to change mean anything or will this relationship simply get worse?
Thanks for taking the time to read this.