This was not supposed to happen

I planned to discuss fearlessness and sociopathy this week, but instead I want to share with you a very sad event- the passing of my beloved father. My father, Dr. John M. Leedom was a good man and brilliant physician. This was not supposed to happen now, you see I was hoping to move closer to my parents after having recovered my life. I still have not recovered the status that I lost, and now my father will not get to be there when I do.

I have been thinking about all the things that were not supposed to happen, including the fact that I married a psychopath/sociopath. I am sure you also have your list. Today I spoke to a friend who was overwhelmed facing the loss of her dog. The dog is 15 and has developed paralysis. She does not have the money to treat the dog and is beside herself. There is little hope of the dog recovering any function even with treatment.

I reflected to my friend, “You have to accept the cards you were dealt. Once you emotionally accept what has happened, you will see clear to make the right decisions.” It was a real gift that my friend shared her sorrow with me because the act of saying those words was empowering. I am working on accepting what has happened and also working on understanding how to go on from here.
Follow the link John M. Leedom, M.D. to read about my father and his extraordinary contribution to medicine. Please keep us in your prayers.

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Prayers to you and your family, Dr. Leedom.

i am most assured that your father never changed his views regarding your status and will follow it from his new home…and a part of him will ALWAYS live within you….deepest condolences

I would like to extend sympathy to you, Dr. Leedom, on the loss of your dad. My prayer is for you and all concerned, that you would rest on God’s promises and take comfort from them. The old saying, “life happens when we are making plans”, is no truer than when we face the death of a loved one. I, like all here, can share in your loss. Comfort and blessings to you.

Dr. Leedom, I am so sorry for your loss. I extend my deepest sympathies to you and will have you in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry to hear this, Dr Leedom.

I don’t know what you mean about status but you have the respect and admiration and gratitude of all of us on here, and I can’t see how your fantastic dad can have felt any different. I’m betting he was really proud of you.

Lots of love to you and your family. xxx

Dear Liane,

I am so sorry that your dad passed away. And you are right, that “wasn’t supposed to happen” that way.

I have no doubt though, that like Newworldview said, your father knew what kind of person you were and are, and I have no doubt that he was proud of you, the woman you became and are. I am sure he was sad for all the pain you went through, but if your father was half the man that you are a woman, I know that HE DIDN’T DOUBT YOU.

And, he WILL be with you in your heart, just as my beloved and wonderful step-father, my “daddy,” is still in my heart, and I can call upon the confidence he had in me, the trust and the pride that he had for me any time I need it. God bles, you Liane and your family in your sorrowful time.

Psalm 49:15 “But God will redeem my soul from the power of the grave; for he shall receive me. Selah.” (KJV)

God bless you Liane.

Very sorry to hear of your Father’s death, Dr. Leedom.

Accepting and understanding take time… You are allowed to grieve and to mourn and to reflect – until you are ready to put things in persepctive. Only you know when that time will be for you.

My empathy for him – and for you in this time of heartache and shock.

Loving Annie

Dear Dr. Leedom:

I’m very sorry about your loss. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers.

May his soul rest in perfect peace.

May God be with.

Your father was an accomplished man, who certainly understood the humanity of a mistake. If we on here who have known you little, respect your wisdom and your strides, there’s no doubt he was a father very proud of his daughter.

My deepest sympathy to you and your family, Dr. Leedom.


Dr. Leedom,

Now you have an angel in heaven instead of in the living room.

Call on him when you need strength, as he has always provided it for you.

Even without him by your side, he has armed you with the strength you needed to pull away from the grip of evil, and that requires the strength of real love.

You had that with your dad.

You are not alone. Neither is your mom. You gals still have each other and soon you will both know just how many people care for you.

May their presence in your life show you that you will not be abandoned in your hour of need.

Call on us when you need strength too. Someone is always here.

Dear Dr. Leedom,

I wanted to impress my Dad but have struggled in many ways in the last decade. After the Bad Man debacle, my Dad told me, as I stood (figuratively) in the wreckage of my life, that all he ever wanted was for me to be a kind, compassionate person and he confirmed that I was that and to him, I was a success.

I bet your father felt the same about you, no matter what happened.

Our Father’s have at least 20 years of wisdom on us…. and I bet they see us more clearly that we see ourselves even when it seems like we are really messing things up.

He had a large body of work but I bet it was you that he was most proud of.

My thoughts are prayers are with your family.


I am so sorry to hear about your father.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Be safe. Be held in the arms of love as you celebrate the life of this remarkable man.

Love and hugs,


Dear Dr. Leedom,

I am so sorry for your loss. Your father was such an accomplished man.
You are a great doctor and mother, too. You have been helping us through this site and your books. I am sure that your father was very proud of you.

The website you have established in your father’s honor is amazing. You can tell he was so passionate about his career and family. I just started reading, For One More Day, by Mitch Albom. The first paragraph says..”This is a story about a family and, as there is a ghost involved, you might call it a ghost story. But every family is a ghost story. The dead sit at our tables long after they have gone.” I took comfort in this, thinking of my mother who passed away, and I hope it will bring you comfort too. Your father will still be part of your life. He’ll still be with you every step of the way. You will bring him honor in all your accomplishments and all your kindness and guidance given to those who read the LoveFraud website.

So caring runs inthe family?

You are a wonderful testament to your father.

My condolences.
You are in my prayers.


I am sorry for your loss. If he didn’t see it before, he sees it now, how many people you help. He is proud of you.

Dear Dr. Leedom:

I remember when my father passed away. I was engulfed in shock with the grief that bestowed me. God held all of us in his velvet hands like the fragile eggs that we are during this time of loss and sorrow.

For weeks after my Dad passed … anyone who rang my front door, my heart would race thinking it was my Dad coming over to visit. As I ran to the door … I had to remember, my Dad wasn’t coming to visit me again. Not in human form any way. It was in those few weeks after my father’s death that I realized I had to respect the day my father was born, the day my father got married, the day my father first became a parent, the day he first became a grandparent, the day of any special event in his life and yes, I had to respect the day he left this earth. We in the living realm do not know what is ahead for us when we leave this world but we have to trust that our spirit goes on to it’s next journey with our Lord.

I would like to share my favorite quote. I do not know the author of this quote, but it is inscribed on a memorial bench to Douglas E. Shanley located in the cemetery were my parents are resting.

“We have this life that soon will pass, only what we do with love will last”.

God bless you, your family and friends during this time of sorrow.

And may I tell you this truth, your Dad knew sweetheart, he knew. Trust this message and when you want to talk with your Dad, go silent, be still and talk with your Dad. He will always be there for you.

My deepest condolences to you and your family.



Liane, my deepest condolences to you and your family. I have no doubt that your father still loved and respected you. Judging by what you achieve on this website there is no way any father could not be proud of you.

All strength to you and your family.

You have my deepest sympathy.

My condolences to you Dr. Leedom. Thank you for this site and how it is helping so many of us. I’ve been a “lurker” and just posted today and wanted to thank you. I’m sure your Father was so very proud of you and loved you without condition. He was a good and reliable man so you’ve been given such a gift, because you have great memories to help you through your grief. Hold on fast to all that was good about him. I too had a father that I loved (died when I was 12) and memories of him have helped keep me sane. You will grieve but you will always have him inside of you, even if he is not beside you. God Bless you and your family in this time, may He bring you comfort.

Dear Liane,

I am so very sorry for the loss of your father. There is no doubt that he loved you and was proud of you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.


Dear Dr Leedom,

I am truly sorry for the loss of your father. Tears are shed as I write to you because I know how proud you wanted him to feel for you. It’s just a gift a loving daughter would want to give to a loving parent. And just be proud that you are working on it and he knows that more than ever now.

I just recently read your story. It is so upsetting to me because the woman you are was tainted by this man. Because you trusted and loved a sociopath. People do not understand what that means. They don’t understand the level of manipulation that was going on. He did not care about your licence to practice and heal people and he did not care about the people your were helping to heal. And I wish the law could understand that! Unfortunately they do not and the chance you would have taken to clear your name was too great….and I understand that.

Don’t think “God” has forgoten that….you will succeed again….you are succeeding now. And your father knows more than ever who you are and he is proud of you more than ever “now”.

Thank You for all you have done for me and everyone here,


Dr. Leedom,
I just noticed this post about your father. I lost my father when I was 35. I still miss him and always will because there was so much good to miss about him. They give us an appreciation for decent men and the hope that there are still good men out there. A blessing from our fathers. My prayers and sympathy for you and your family. God Bless.

Dr. Leedom,
All my sympathy goes to you for the loss of your dad, and also your dream of making him proud, (though I’m sure he was that).

I just want to say that no matter what you may do or go on to be in the future, your decision to “advertise” your losses and vulnerabilities here on Lovefraud, to share your hurts and hopes with us, to give us a place to come when we are desperate and broken, is an enormous contribution to society. There is no other place like this, Liane, if I may make so bold; no other place where we can receive that special mixture of common sense and compassion that flows through your fingers, and through the fingers of all the bloggers here.

Thank you for keeping this website alive and well, for tending both it and us. I’m sure your father must be very proud of you, I know we are.

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