I planned to discuss fearlessness and sociopathy this week, but instead I want to share with you a very sad event- the passing of my beloved father. My father, Dr. John M. Leedom was a good man and brilliant physician. This was not supposed to happen now, you see I was hoping to move closer to my parents after having recovered my life. I still have not recovered the status that I lost, and now my father will not get to be there when I do.
I have been thinking about all the things that were not supposed to happen, including the fact that I married a psychopath/sociopath. I am sure you also have your list. Today I spoke to a friend who was overwhelmed facing the loss of her dog. The dog is 15 and has developed paralysis. She does not have the money to treat the dog and is beside herself. There is little hope of the dog recovering any function even with treatment.
I reflected to my friend, “You have to accept the cards you were dealt. Once you emotionally accept what has happened, you will see clear to make the right decisions.” It was a real gift that my friend shared her sorrow with me because the act of saying those words was empowering. I am working on accepting what has happened and also working on understanding how to go on from here.
Follow the link John M. Leedom, M.D. to read about my father and his extraordinary contribution to medicine. Please keep us in your prayers.
Dear Dr. Leedom,
I wanted to impress my Dad but have struggled in many ways in the last decade. After the Bad Man debacle, my Dad told me, as I stood (figuratively) in the wreckage of my life, that all he ever wanted was for me to be a kind, compassionate person and he confirmed that I was that and to him, I was a success.
I bet your father felt the same about you, no matter what happened.
Our Father’s have at least 20 years of wisdom on us…. and I bet they see us more clearly that we see ourselves even when it seems like we are really messing things up.
He had a large body of work but I bet it was you that he was most proud of.
My thoughts are prayers are with your family.
E.R.
((Liane)),
I am so sorry to hear about your father.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Be safe. Be held in the arms of love as you celebrate the life of this remarkable man.
Love and hugs,
Louise
Dear Dr. Leedom,
I am so sorry for your loss. Your father was such an accomplished man.
You are a great doctor and mother, too. You have been helping us through this site and your books. I am sure that your father was very proud of you.
The website you have established in your father’s honor is amazing. You can tell he was so passionate about his career and family. I just started reading, For One More Day, by Mitch Albom. The first paragraph says..”This is a story about a family and, as there is a ghost involved, you might call it a ghost story. But every family is a ghost story. The dead sit at our tables long after they have gone.” I took comfort in this, thinking of my mother who passed away, and I hope it will bring you comfort too. Your father will still be part of your life. He’ll still be with you every step of the way. You will bring him honor in all your accomplishments and all your kindness and guidance given to those who read the LoveFraud website.
So caring runs inthe family?
You are a wonderful testament to your father.
My condolences.
You are in my prayers.
LIANE,
I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
BUT YOUR DAD IS STILL WITH YOU. H
HE WILL BE WITH YOU ALWAYS.
JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN’T SEE HIM OR TOUCH HIM DOESN’T MEAN HE ISN’T HERE WITH YOU.
YOUR FATHER WILL ALWAYS BE IN YOUR HEART.
GOD BLESS
SHOWBIRDZ
I am sorry for your loss. If he didn’t see it before, he sees it now, how many people you help. He is proud of you.
Dear Dr. Leedom:
I remember when my father passed away. I was engulfed in shock with the grief that bestowed me. God held all of us in his velvet hands like the fragile eggs that we are during this time of loss and sorrow.
For weeks after my Dad passed … anyone who rang my front door, my heart would race thinking it was my Dad coming over to visit. As I ran to the door … I had to remember, my Dad wasn’t coming to visit me again. Not in human form any way. It was in those few weeks after my father’s death that I realized I had to respect the day my father was born, the day my father got married, the day my father first became a parent, the day he first became a grandparent, the day of any special event in his life and yes, I had to respect the day he left this earth. We in the living realm do not know what is ahead for us when we leave this world but we have to trust that our spirit goes on to it’s next journey with our Lord.
I would like to share my favorite quote. I do not know the author of this quote, but it is inscribed on a memorial bench to Douglas E. Shanley located in the cemetery were my parents are resting.
“We have this life that soon will pass, only what we do with love will last”.
God bless you, your family and friends during this time of sorrow.
And may I tell you this truth, your Dad knew sweetheart, he knew. Trust this message and when you want to talk with your Dad, go silent, be still and talk with your Dad. He will always be there for you.
My deepest condolences to you and your family.
sincerely,
loux
Liane, my deepest condolences to you and your family. I have no doubt that your father still loved and respected you. Judging by what you achieve on this website there is no way any father could not be proud of you.
All strength to you and your family.