Divorcing a narcissist is my superpower — what is yours?
By Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com and Divorcing a Narcissist
In 2009, I discovered that there is only one thing worse than being married to a narcissist and that is divorcing a narcissist. Being someone who cringes at the mere thought of conflict, I was not prepared for the onslaught of attacks, lies and character assassinations that were launched at me.
Even though I had been told by a therapist that my ex-husband was a “narcissist,” I had no idea that the horrific attacks were to be expected while going through a divorce with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Email, text messages and the telephone became his assault weapons and every message left me paralyzed with fear.
Equally debilitating was the isolation that I felt being at the receiving end of these attacks. Normal divorces are riddled with varying degrees of conflict but trying explaining these crazy-making messages to someone who had experienced a “normal” divorce often left me looking like the crazy one! Many people whom I considered friends went running for the hills at the first sign of what they deemed to be drama.
I decided to take the high road which was a lonely, windy road with many bumps along the way, but I am happy I did. On that lonely road, I met others who were going the same direction and who understood what I was enduring. Over time, my little village grew and together, we began to educate ourselves on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. With education came empowerment. Slowly, we were regaining our footing and seeing the reality behind the attacks. The attacks were filled with projection, manipulation and an extreme need to belittle and control.
Join me on August 9, at 8 pm ET, as we go beneath the surface and learn about the communication style of the narcissist in my Lovefraud CE webinar. Let’s begin setting boundaries and reclaiming your power.
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Understanding the Language of a Narcissist During a Divorce or Custody Battle
I was desperate for closure, revenge and for the truth to get out
Hope Springs
The high road is a lonely bumpy one for sure.
You feel more alone than you ever have. If you confide in people, some of them simply do not want to entertain the facts.
It is so wonderful that you came out of it with the help and support of others that were in the same situation.
I hope that happens to me…I am trying!
Sunnygal
Sounds very good.