“It takes an extraordinarily heartless conman to swindle a survivor of Auschwitz and Buchenwald and Nobel Peace Prize winner out of all his charitable funds.” Wrote James Bone in the Times Online.
“Yet that is exactly what Bernard “Bernie” Madoff is alleged to have done to Elie Wiesel, the author of the Holocaust classic Night and a friend from the Jewish community in south Florida.
According to the Times Online article, “The Elie Wiesel Foundation for Humanity now admits that it invested $15.2 million (£10.1 million) with Mr Madoff that represented “substantially all of the foundation’s assets.” The charity of the Nobel laureate, in New York, will have to raise new funds if it is to maintain its two centers in Israel that help Ethiopian Jews and Darfuri refugees and continue its other work.”
Perhaps the person who lost the most by trusting Bernie Madoff is 95 year old Carl J. Shapiro, who has been a personal friend to Madoff for nearly 50 years. In addition to losing 500 million dollars in the relationship, Shapiro at 95 is confronted with the reality that someone he thought of as “a son” did this to him.
“All I can say is that this is an awful, awful time for us,” wife Ruth Shapiro told a reporter from The New York Times.
Mr. Shapiro started his fortune making women’s clothing company Kay Windsor Inc, in 1939. He sold the business to Vanity Fair Corp in 1971; it was one of the largest clothing manufacturers in America. Mr. Shapiro was reportedly introduced to Madoff by his own his son-in-law, Robert Jaffe. Following the introduction, Mr. Shapiro invested in Madoff’s company when it launched in 1960.
Mr. Shapiro and his wife set up their charitable foundation the following year, in 1961, and over the decades have been big donors to the Boston Museum of Fine Arts, the Boston Symphony Orchestra, Brandeis University in Boston which Mr Madoff also supported through his own charitable foundation, the Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center and the Brigham and Women’s Hospital where the Carl J. and Ruth Shapiro Cardiovascular Center opened this spring.
Building work is due to start next week at Boston Medical Center on the Shapiro Ambulatory Care Center, a nine-floor, $135 million facility paid for in part with $15 million from the family foundation, according to the New York Times.
In March, the foundation pledged $27 million to DanaFarber/Brigham and Women’s Cancer Center in Boston. Brandeis has received $22 million from the Shapiros to build the campus centre building.
Mr. Shapiro issued a statement saying that he had been “stunned and saddened to learn about the allegations” against Madoff. He said the losses would have “an impact on our family as well as our family foundation.” and that watching the arrest of Madoff on television was “a knife in the heart.”
Bernie Madoff cheated a 95 year old man, a Holocaust survivor and many others. If you are like me, you are wondering, “What was he thinking?” Personally, I don’t find the “without conscience” explanation of this kind of behavior very satisfying. You can’t convince me that Madoff was without thoughts as he created false documents and told frank lies to people. He had to have been thinking something.
Just what was Madoff thinking? He hasn’t said yet, but I can give you an educated guess based on the seminal work of prison psychologist Glenn Walters, Ph.D. I also highly recommend that students, professionals and the public read his books, The Criminal Lifestyle and Criminal Belief Systems.
Dr. Walters began his work understanding criminal lifestyles at the same time Dr. Hare set out to define psychopathy. The lifestyle criminal that Dr. Walters describes is essentially a psychopath/sociopath. His Postulate #1 reads:
“Crime can be understood as a lifestyle characterized by a global sense of irresponsibility, self-indulgent interests, an intrusive approach to interpersonal relationships and chronic violation of social rules, laws and mores.”
Dr. Walters answers our “Just what was he thinking” question in Postulates #5 and 6:
“There is a distinctive thinking style that derives from the lifestyle criminal’s decision to engage in delinquent and criminal acts (5).
The content and process of criminologic thought are reflected in eight primary cognitive patterns (6).”
I will explain these eight patterns and you will see that although Dr. Walters studies criminality these patterns pertain to antisocial conduct in general. Note that sociopaths try to fool both themselves and others with these disordered thinking patterns.
Cognitive pattern #1 Molification: Molification refers to the thoughts sociopaths use to lay blame for their irresponsible antisocial behavior outside themselves. According to sociologists Sykes and Matza these justifications can be grouped into five major “neutralization techniques”:
1. Denial of responsibility. Sociopaths deny responsibility by claiming their behaviors are accidental or due to forces beyond their control. Perhaps Madoff was thinking “I am under pressure to deliver what people asked for.” i.e. “The investors made me do it.”
2. Denial of injury. No one got hurt, and therefore there’s no harm. “All these people are rich anyway.” Madoff reportedly did not take a client who had less than a million dollars to invest.
3. Denial of the victim. Sometimes sociopaths admit that their actions cause harm. In these cases they can justify their behavior by denying the victim. In this case Madoff was thinking “The rich deserve whatever they get.”
4. Condemnation of the condemners. Instead of focusing on their own actions, sociopaths focus on the motivations or behaviors of the people who disapprove of them. So Madoff was likely thinking “How do you think these rich people got their money anyway?” or “Everyone on Wall Street is just as corrupt as I am.”
5. Appeal to higher loyalties. Sociopaths claim that their behavior is consistent with the moral obligations to their group. Using this line of reasoning, Madoff would say, “I stole to provide for my family.”
Cognitive Pattern #2 Cut-off: Cut-off refers to the techniques sociopaths use to avoid thinking about negative consequences. They cut themselves off from any worry or guilt they might be inclined to feel. In this pattern Madoff who is 70 now was likely thinking, “I’ll be dead before they figure out what I’ve done.”
Cognitive Pattern #3 Entitlement: According to Dr. Walters most sociopaths believe that laws and social rules are necessary. “However they also believe that they are somehow personally exempt from the rules that govern the rest of us. This sense of entitlement is what provides the (sociopath) with permission to violate societal laws and the personal rights of others.” He is, after all the great, lovable, charming and exceedingly brilliant Bernie Madoff!
Cognitive Pattern #4 Power Orientation: There are those who are strong and those who are weak. The weak are prey for the taking. “If a person is stupid enough to fall for my con then he doesn’t deserve his money anyway.”
Cognitive Pattern#5 Sentimentality: Sentimentality involves an attempt by the sociopath to present himself in as favorable a light as possible. How much money did Madoff give to charity so that other people would see him as kind and generous?
Cognitive Pattern#6 Superoptimism: The sociopath’s tendency to be extremely optimistic and self-confident about not getting caught is referred to as superoptimism. According to Walters, “Experience has taught (sociopaths) that the many crimes they get away with greatly outnumber the crimes for which they have been caught.” The SEC did investigate Madoff 10 years ago as he continued his fraud. I think beating that investigation likely made him feel even more invincible.
Cognitive Pattern #7 Cognitive Indolence (laziness): According to Walters, “Like water running downhill, the (sociopath’s) thinking takes the path of least resistance.” Why should Madoff do all that investing? It’s too much like work, when you can simply take money from one guy and give it to another. It is much more fun to schmooze and play golf.
Cognitive Pattern #8 Discontinuity: The sociopath fails to follow through on commitments, carry out intentions, or remain focused on goals over time. Discontinuity is reflected by the fact that Madoff at 70 will likely spend the rest of his life in prison. Though I think so-called successful psychopaths have lives marked by less discontinuity than the unsuccessful ones.
If you have examples of sociopaths using these thinking styles to justify outrageous acts, please share them in comments. Remember since the inner world of sociopaths is relatively shallow, they are most concerned with convincing others to use these perverted thought processes to make sense of their behavior. It is relatively easy for them to convince themselves that their antisocial behavior makes sense and is fully justified.
Dear HH,
I don’t know why it works, and I do know it was THE hardest thing I ever did. I even wrote the prayers down on a piece ofpaper and read them aloud. Simple things. “God, bless him.” I did NOT mean it. I knew God knew I didn’t mean it. But somehow it helped ME. Eventually as the pain, the anger and the hate left my heart, I quit feeling the negative emotions that were CHOKING ME. It took tiime, it took energy, but the TOXIC HATE was gone.
I know how it feels to hate, and it doesn’t hurt them, it hurts me. It is a normal, natural feeling to being inured. Being angry is okay. Even JESUS got angry. He said “be angry and sin not”—-so anger isn’t the “sin,” it is the things that we justify doing or thinking because we are angry. Jesus said “don’t let the sun go down on your wrath.” Wrath is not just ordinary anger but the kind of hateful, vengeful, nasty toxic anger. It is the kind of anger that eats US.
I think every one of us here has a RIGHT to be angry. There would be something wrong with us if we were NOT angry.
But harboring, nursing, stroking that anger will embitter us and not hurt the Ps at all. I still have episodes where the anger rears its ugly head but I try to work through it, and sometimes it is really difficult.
The last time I saw my mother face to face, I HATED HER. She must have seen something in my face too because she turned to me and asked me “You really hate me don’t you?” and I looked at her and I said “Yes, right now I truly hate you.” and I did. I REALLY hated her. For a long time I hated her, but it didn’t hurt her it was eating me. I had to work through it, not push it under the rug or pretend it wasn’t there, but work through it. I wish I had a “formula” that I could do it easily, or you could, but I don’t think there is an easy way, just day by day and inch by inch. Good luck, I think HH that you will make it just fine. Be nice to yourself, pamper yourself and be good to yourself every day. (((hugs)))
no offense, but i’ve been praying for ME, not for him.
there are no prayers that will ever help him. i feel that if i pray for him, the energy all goes to HIM … again.
nope, not me. god is hearing my prayers for myself. i’m praying about how grateful i am to be rid of him. how grateful i am that i am opening up to new people who may truly love me. how thankful i am that i am getting my spirit and self back.
i gave that spath from hell too much of my energy already. i just don’t want him to have one more SECOND of my precious being.
he doesn’t deserve it; he never did.
time for him to reap what he has sown, and deal with the consequences.
It never occurred to me to pray for the S and all of his friends who have betrayed me. I will actually sit down and do this tonight.
Dear LIG,
Whatever works for YOU, I was just suggesting what worked for me to get the anger out of ME. I had to do something to get that anger and hatred out of ME, and for me it worked. Different things work for different people and whatever helps you get the anger and bitterness out of YOU.
HE is NOT important, YOU are!
lostingrief,
I used to pray for Bad Man. I had a little spot on the beach where I began to pray that he would be released from the grips of whatever it was that was tormenting him… and then me. I knew it was something but I didn’t know what it was back then. It’s weird… that’s one of my strongest memories… pryaing for Bad Man on a beach in paradise.. my own HELL on earth. :o(
I don’t pray for him anymore. I pray a little now and then when it seems like a good idea… but I don’t pray for me.
I guess I am still stuck on that thing… to me, Prayer equals Hope and I don’t spend much time on hopes for myself anymore. I hate to admit that but I am still stuck in that place. I have healed a whole lot but I am kind of stuck.
Oh well.
Forgive us our trespass AS we forgive those who trespass against us!
This IS A BIG DEAL!
when I’m in prayer I’m thinking on a spiritual level ! The Force be with you! :)~
But My God s ways are not the same as human ways ! My God LOVES unconditionaly! despite our selves!
If this is True? Then it would stand to reason that God Forgives unconditionaly! despite our sin !
what I am trying to relate , we do not forgive the same way as God forgives.
Because we are in seperate realms , one Spiritual , ours is Physical !
So here I am trying to Forgive My P and LOVE unconditionaly like I was taught about the Force ! Right?
Then someone says WAIT !
Human Forgivness does not erase Accountability and Responcability ! BINGO ! LOVE JJ
HH
Yes
Should get up to 78 warm sunny degreeeeeees Today Girls! :)~ LOVE JJ
so the original argument was that our culture was inhaling the planet, the mass mediocre would never actually give up their lifestyle in order to save the species, and the end realization was, eat, drink and be merry…every man/woman for themself…
that definitely came into play after vietnam(the social contract was broken, you know?)…and from there the rules were just gradually bent more and more…madison avenue advertised, the colleges bent the moral rules that had always accompanied the soft sciences, the educated generations following were taught a more and more warped view of the ethical obligations and the very rules of scientific thought–and the hippies who originally were against it ended up finding a niche to hopefully ride it out..keep your head down, and your mouth shut..wasn’t that around the end of the seventies? when did people start realizing they were in the grasp of utilities, and huge corporations for their very survival…..end results were the loss of the compass, across the society….the winner loser mentality ruled…and here you go. everyone has to keep up with the rest of the dogeatdog platform everyone is on…you should have seen the numbers of rank and file hard working ethical people edged out of their jobs in the late 8o’s 90’s…simply because they just wouldn’t step into the role demanded ….fudge the paperwork, smile and go along, hide the facts and say what is politically correct, kiss the ass of the most sociopathic strongarm person around….(witness the unpreparedness of the military in iraq; the failure in katrina; the failure of the no child left behind program–all clear failures due to beauracracies operating with sociopathic procedures…damned & dysfunctional systems put to the test- after their actual functional people were mainly discarded–)
it isn’t a sociopathic personality, it is a cultural requirement, and the norm, now….hasn’t anyone considered the popularity of the big house, other reality tv shows? what else do they promote?…
am i the only one who has been watching this growing in our american society? it had to reach this dysfunctional cusp to become visible to ???whom? who has yet grasped the platform this whole country is operating on? other than the president of iran? you can tell by his interview with charlie rose….that was just really interesting….
and we watch the dominoes fall…..
Merry Xmas, everyone. & a very very happy new year….lol…
Dear Carriesguns,
I hear what you are saying and to a great extent I agree with you, unfortunately, having been a “child of the 60s” when the world was “turning upside down” at that time I thought I could and our generation “fix it all” just love everyone and work hard.
I remember with embarassment and evening when I was in my “prime” KNOW IT ALL STAGE of life (about 19) I was sitting with my friend (who later became my husband) and several of his and our friends in a place called Barnie’s Beanery on HOllywood Blvd, in california, and I was expounding in all my “KNOWNLEDGE” about the causes of everything from toe nail fungus to war, and I remember the very tolerant look my husband had on his face (he was 15 yrs older)=—looking back, I asked him many many years later why he didn’t slap me in the head andhe said “because you were so cute!” LOL Ah, how I wish I had the wisdom to solve even 1% of the problems of the world, and as I have gotten older I realize more and more each year that Iknow less and less than I thought I did.
I don’t doubt that our “leaders” are mostly self serving and/or out right crooks, but I also don’t think it has EVER been any different. From reading history I think all political leaders are Narcissistic or psychopathic to one degree or another at the least. In fact, I just read a book that basicly said they have to be or they wouldn’t get the job done, and I think to an extent that is true. A general can’t worry about every soldier out there or the war would not be won. A corporation president has to worry more about the company than the individual workers who get laid off to keep the company afloat.
But since I can’t “fix” the society that we live in, much less all the societies of the world, I realize the only thing I can do is to live MY OWN LIVE as well as I can and not contribute to the problem. I am only one of approximately 6 BILLION people on the earth.
I am the custodian of a 120 acres of farm land that has been in my family since 1833, and I take care of the land, keep it healthy and productive. Contribute to as little polluition as I can, and try to give back to my community in ways that I can do so. I served on the local volunteer fire department for over a decade, I’ve done community medical outreach and education, taken in foster kids, and paid my taxes and given full measure when I worked. Raised my children to be productive, educated citizens (got 2 out of 3 of those okay) and I vote, so I do my “part” and try not to fret about those things that I can’t control, or to despair TOO much about the state of the world and the US.
I’ve done a lot more “fretting” in the past about those things that I couldn’t control, but I don’t find it did me much good and sure didn’t change things much. LOL So I do try to stay prepared for “hard times” like my grandparents did from their brush with poverty during the depression. So, because of that, and the fact I have lived within my means, I am better prepared than many to weather the hard times in a depression.