Lovefraud has just posted a new True Lovefraud Story about Will Allen Jordan, a con man, bigamist and sex offender who, from our information, has returned to New Jersey and is trolling dating sites looking for his next victim.
I’ve heard a lot of stories about sociopaths, and this guy is one of the worst. He has the ability, often found in sociopathic cult leaders, to get into the minds of his victims and twist their thinking. He is frightening.
Will Allen Jordan had a criminal record in the United States, where he was born. In 1992, he seduced a British woman and left the country with her, moving to the UK. He was able to start a new life, but he didn’t change his ways.
In 2000, he met and seduced another woman, Mary Turner Thomson, convincing her that he worked for the CIA. Her story is truly harrowing, and she wrote a book about it called The Bigamist—The True Story of a Husband’s Ultimate Betrayal.
Jailed in the UK, free in the USA
In 1997, Jordan was convicted in the UK of sex offenses against a child and served time. In 2006, he was convicted of failing to register as a sex offender, bigamy and other offenses. He was released in May 2009, and deported back to the United States.
When he got here, he immediately signed up for Match.com and started trolling for new victims. He found them. I know, because I spoke to them.
Unfortunately, he’s still out there. And—get this—he doesn’t have to register as a sex offender in New Jersey. Apparently, the New Jersey Megan’s Law applies only to people who were convicted in the United States. His conviction in the United Kingdom doesn’t count.
Will Allen Jordan targets single mothers of young daughters. I hope if any of them have met him online, they Google his name and find Lovefraud.
Read the True Lovefraud Story:
Convicted sex offender and bigamist deported from the UK, returns to New Jersey
bulletproof
Listen to the female intuition, weigh it up against the great conversation!!! if you are wondering about him scratching your head then it’s a sign of fraud
This guy…. is the type of guy I would like to see dangled by his balls over piranha fish infested waters
one/joy_step_at_a_time
…we should be writing revenge fantasies together 😉
Elizabeth Conley
Maybe Drew Peterson will finally be convicted of something:
http://www.cnn.com/2010/CRIME/02/03/illinois.drew.peterson.quotes/
one/joy_step_at_a_time
a number of the comments in response to the article Elizabeth posted use the terms, Psychopath and Narcissist. A suprise and a good one.
I wouldn’t have known what a sociopth/psychopath was until i was spathed. Funny thing though – I called it quickly when i knew that I had been conned, and long before I knew the extent of the con. Somewhere in my mind there was the concept of ‘without conscience’. And when i asked myself the question, ‘who would do such a thing’ (pretend to die), the only answer was: someone without conscience.
And then I started to read. I searched for quite a while before I found lovefraud. First, I read pieces of the psychopath next door, and a bit about con artists and internet death bloggers and sock puppets. I remember a friend telling me that she had hear an interview on the radio with a psychiatrist who worked with psychopaths in psychiatric institutions. He said that he knew who the psychopaths were as, of all the people who asked him for money in a day, it was the psychopath who he gave it to.
there was frightfully little on the net – I kept googling fraud and finally some site used the term ‘love fraud’ and I googled it and found this site.
Which tells me that we need to do more to optimize this site. And that we need to make more resources on the net. Even small blogs that are optimized – with basic info., and linking them all together. Dr. Steve never came up when i was looking and his site should be optimized for N/P/S also.
I don’t actually know how to do the optimization (so that sites come up immediately when a set of terms are googled. there are key words to use in blogs so that search engines, like google, find your site fast and put it at the top of the list) , but I think I will learn now. I have had to learn a lot about the internet since being targeted by the spath. I am like that with tech – only learn a new skill if i have to. 😉
anitasee
Discovering sociopathy certainly is a big moment, and I don’t think the bell goes off until one has been involved.
In my case, I was in such denial that I never really looked. I read up on male depression ( a great book, but kept me seeing him as the victim when I was trying to figure it out “I don’t want to talk about it”…read books on mariage, phsycology etc, all to no avail)
But I did start getting really into geopolitics after 9/11 and started to dig into what was casuing our or problems, and the digging led me to corporations, which led me to the movie “The Corporation” which studies corporations under the lens of the sociopath. Excellent film. Anyhow, I bacame active in groups working to reign in corporate power etc etc, and STILL did not see that I was living with a spath.
Then one day, I have no idea what triggered it- I ordered Dr Stuarts book, The Sociopath Next Door. I had already used the term “emotional autism” to discribe my ex- but still didn’t get it.
And while I was reading the book? He was completely unperturbable. No reaction. A blank.
So, One Step, I agree, this site should be embedded in lots of different links, maybe right on places like Mate One-but unfortuately, most of us can’t see it till it slaps us in the face, really really hard.
learnthelesson
One step said
“I wouldn’t have known what a sociopth/psychopath was until i was spathed”
Most of us agree that we all thought a S/P was that random mass murderer out there. Most of us never knew that a S/P could be the “great” guy we are dating or the new boss we just met or the parent who is suppose to love and nurture us.
STEP ONE – Figure out ways to bring awareness to all walks of life. Especially (in my opinion) the teenage children of the world who are about to embark on society – virtually alone – like we were – without any tools to protect them in outside/adult relationships.
How do you stop the cycle – if it starts at home – at a very young age?
Discovering Sociopathy is one thing and often its way too late once we have. How do we avoid getting involved with sociopathic relationships at all. How did we not know about them? Whose job is it to bring awareness? The school? The family? The religious systems? The Media? The Web? Whats best and what are we waiting for?
blueskies
I think child/ teen awareness is key – kids with low self esteem and not much parental support must be more at risk in adult life to sociopaths… even if they are ‘successful’, because they dont have the basic ‘tools’.
I think school could be the place for more emphasis or training in how to deal with ‘manipulative people’ (everyone is so scared of the word sociopath) how to have strong boundaries, more focus on building self esteem…
I think that talking more openly particularly in schools about general mental health and well being would be great – not just for spotting relationships with people who would be harmful to you, but in recognising the signs that something needs attention within yourself.
everyone is so scared of talking about psychological issues in case they get tarred with the crazy brush – so its kind of taboo – but more open discussion generally would maybe make it easier for people to better understand all kinds of mental health issues /pathologies and that they are quite common….including malignant ones.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
Why don’t we start a thread to talk about this very idea – a marketing plan for educating people about soicopathy.
let’s really start developing this.
blueskies
I had no idea about what I was dealing with , with my family, and the sociopath, until I came here… yet I lived all those years, knowing there was something wrong, that life at home was painful, that I was being hurt, and without a clue what to call it or how to deal with it ( its hard enough when you do know). There must be teachers and social workers all over the world watching the same scenarios play out with children time and again…. but not naming it and giving them the tools so they even stand a chance… where is the missing link?
blueskies
If mental health and education professionals recoginzed sociopathy ( which I assume they dont or they would do something) they could pick up on both the at risk of being manipulated and the at risk of being the manipulator at a young age.(I am not very clever so just thinking about this has made my brain go fall out … whats the missing link – evidence of sociopathic / narcissistic personalities? Enough to prove that it exists? Or is it a cultural thing within the psychological health profession, that they wont ‘commit’ to it…?)