Do you suspect that someone you work with is a psychopath? Do they act superficially charming, lack remorse, lie to you, cheat, or attempt to manipulate you? Read more to find out about our study.
Dear Members of the Lovefraud Blog,
My name is Janelle and I am a Master’s student at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada. I’m currently working on my Master’s thesis in Forensic Psychology under the supervision of Dr. Adelle Forth. The topic of my research is psychopathy in the workplace and the effects this has on victims.
Psychopathy in the workplace is a relatively new area of study in psychology. Most of the research to date focuses on the psychopathic individuals while neglecting to take into account the voices of survivors. I want to investigate how psychopaths establish relationships in the work environment and the behaviours they exhibit that lead you to believe they are psychopathic or that have victimized you. I also want to know what effects and impacts the relationship has had on your job and your life outside of work.
If you believe that someone you work with possesses psychopathic traits and you would like to share your experience by participating in the study, please click here. This link also contains more information on the study. Please note you must be 18 years of age or older to participate and the study is only available in English. Any questions, comments, or feedback about this research project or its content, are welcome at working.with.psychopath@gmail.com
Sincerely,
Janelle
UPDATE
The survey is now closed. Thank you to everyone who participated.
Louise,
I know that it doesn’t seem like it now but here will come a time when you will not feel so emotionally affected by what happens in his life. (good or bad)
I have a suggestion and maybe this will work for you and maybe it won’t. But maybe worth a try.
Think of it as kind of a “free” therapy experiment to replace therapy.
As Truthspeak says “feelings are NOT facts.” Go out and buy yourself a nice journal. Each day get yourself a cup of tea or whatever sooths you. Dim the lights & curl up in a favorite chair. The idea is to set the mood so that you will look forward to this “therapy” session.
Day one, write in your journal your feelings about this relationship. On this day it is “all about” how you FEEL.
Day two write down NOTHING but FACTS about this relationship. Each day flip back and forth…One day feelings, one day facts. Stick to the program don’t write about feelings on “fact” day. Try to do this for at least two or three months.
Sometimes writting things down is not only cathartic but it also gives us the ability to see some of our personal growth when we re-read what we wrote at a later date. I am thinking maybe that you are feeling stuck.
Writting down the facts might also at some point give you the ability to see that when you look at the FACTS only, he was a bad man. The rest was and is an illusion.
Writting can be pretty powerful. Progress not perfection. ((hugs))
Dear Witty, wonderful! Thank you (((Hugs)))
Expression of the soul is important. We just have to tell someone and feel validated. Each of us has our own story to tell and to share. All of them equally upsetting and mind boggling. It is up to each of us to choose what we do with our situations. Nobody can make that decision for us. But we must be honest with ourselves and the proofs we have before us. However ugly and distasteful they might be. Honesty with ourselves is first and foremost in defeating the monster that lives within us trying to move past this.
It is important that we recognize our achievements in our healing. Whenever I notice I have made a little more progress than the previous day, I try to ‘reward’ myself somehow. I have been trying to teach myself to be kind to myself and not allow others to destroy my own personal space in this life.
Those of you who have been reading me since I came to Love Fraud can tell the difference in me since I first started posting. Life isn’t a game anymore. It’s not something to be played; people aren’t meant to be manipulated. We know the right values and we know the difference between a good character and a flawed one. We do know the difference. We have to become not so starry eyed and shocked that we can’t see the forest for the trees.
It’s harsh and stark and shocking but we have to make peace with the truths. About us and about them, at the same time. It’s a daunting process, going through all those memories and as the truth starts to sink in, the grieving process takes over. Those are the ‘dark days’ where you question yourself and everything you thought you believed in.
When you are done reflecting and sorting through the lies from the truths, you are sitting there, looking at yourself. We started this journey at OURSELVES and it takes us right back to OURSELVES. The stronger self; the more aware self; the one who was purged in the fire and now is empowered never to return to that ‘dark spot’ ever again.
So, be good to yourselves, now and then. Release yourself from the prisons of your hell and smell the roses. Sometimes what we choose to have around us can make or break us. If we choose sorrow, all the time, we will live in sorrow. If we choose to be dynamic and strong and keep on walking our path, we inspire ourselves. We can’t change them, but we can change ourselves.
Happy Birthday to me…Happy Birthday to me….Happy Birthday Dear Dupey….you are finally free!!!!!!!! YAY!!! ~~~@.......@@.......~~~
Witty, journaling actually saved my life, I think. And, the physical act of using a pen against paper actually connected me TO my words on a physical level.
Dupey, validation is so necessary. We’ve been invalidated and dismissed SO many times by the spath….. I found strong validation with my counseling therapist whom I believe I was “fated” to find. Any other professional would have sat there, nodded their head, scribbled in their notebook, and asked, “Well, how do you FEEL about that?”
Louise, good for you! If we’re getting nowhere, we can change counselors. One ineffective therapist does not “speak” for the whole lot. The way that I found my counselor was by calling my local domestic violence hotline and asking for someone who was familiar with abuse and PSTD.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, INDEED, DUPEY!!!! 😀
Truthspeak,
I think it has saved me time or two as wll….And it really is a simple thing that we can do for ourselves but the results can be powerful.
Dear Dupey,
Many happy returns to you. Loved your post. Hope you’re well love
Regards and blessings
((((strongawoman)))) So nice to see you my little flower…
I think of you and send thoughts and prayers your way all the time. I hope things are going well with you too.
Remember you are loved and cared about, Dear….
Always ~ Your friend on the left coast of America,
Dupey
xxoo
Truthspeak: Thanks for your wishes and your post. I hope you are doing alright.
We are all making it through this somehow….we are.
Each day we are only getting stronger now…
Take care My Friend…Be well…Thrive and flourish…
Dupey
witsend:
Thank you so much for that! I am going to try it. I already have a journal that someone gave me for Christmas. Especially since I am not going to therapy anymore, I really hope this will help me. It sounds like a great way to heal…facts vs. feelings. He is a bad man 🙁
Dupey
Thank you for your kind message. How sweet of you. Likewise my friend.
I’m doing good. Had a few spathy experiences lately but am back in the saddle…….as Oxy would say.
Muchas love to you too from a very cold Yorkshire. Brrr xx