Melinda Jane Kellogg holds a Ph.D. in physics. Jeff Rense has an alternative radio program. Kellogg listened to the program for more than two years, and then, on Rense’s birthday, sent him a “Happy Birthday” email. He responded, they corresponded, they visited, they married. It didn’t turn out as Kellogg expected, and she tells the whole story—complete with documentation—on her website.
Visit Melinda Jane Kellogg
Link supplied by two Lovefraud readers.
UPDATE: More of the story is available on HenryMakow.com.Â
This just makes me feel sick, literally.
Donna, thank you so much for posting this horrible story of manipulation and crazymaking.
I want to say that this type of behavior (Jeff’s, that is) shoudl be treated as criminal behavior. Seriously.
And, I also believe that “no-fault” divorce needs to be abolished in every State. If there were a clear understanding that dissolving a contract of marriage didn’t simply consist of “I don’t want to be married to you, anymore,” and that punitive consequences would result from bad behaviors, these types of cons and abuse wouldn’t be rewarded with a simple wave of the Judge’s hand and a, “Now, go have a nice life.”
As I’ve been posting my feelings of desperation, fear, and dspair, I’ve been reading some good, strong, and truthful feedback. I’m beginning to feel angry. I’m angry that bad behaviors are not recognized as deliberate and malicious machinations. I’m angry that so many men, women, and children are thoroughly damaged because our system is broken.
Once again, Donna, you’ve posted something that I needed to read when I needed to read it.
Brightest blessings
Boy oh boy! Does this woman get it! GET IT IN SPADES!
I hope that there are more and more women and men who “get it” who put up web sites that will help others just as LoveFraud has, so that the word gets out, seeps out, then floods out!
Sometimes I think that just ONE voice “crying in the wilderness” like John the Baptist isn’t heard much, but a choir of voices “singing the same song” about psychopaths may prove to be heard by more people BEFORE they end up totally hooked by the abusers and can escape more quickly, or having been totally hooked and discarded or escaped, can find people to extend a hand to them, allowing them to know they are NOT alone.
It sounds like Melinda Jane Kellogg had a crash course in psychopathy, making her head spin. She had the ultimate education, having experienced the insanity that comes courtesy of these disordered types (Melinda lived it all in a very short period of time). It’s amazing that she didn’t completely unravel mentally. I hope that she is able to rebuild her life, becoming stronger and better than ever.
I am Melinda Kellogg. I found that my story was posted here as I had quite a few hits to my webpage from this URL.
The first 3 comments were so heartwarming, as I am usually blamed for my situation and criticized, and then in the next 2 comments, what do you know, I am blamed for my situation and criticized…
Please read my whole story. I explain exactly why I was unable to leave when I first discovered I’d married a Dr. Jekull/Mr. Hyde.
I am currently so ill I am bedridden. I have no family to help. The ex-wives have never offered to take me in. I have no where to go.
There was no restraining order UNTIL the officers showed up to serve it – THAT is why I had to keep him from leaving and talked to him through a window.
Please do not attack a woman who has literally been destroyed by a psychopath – I never knew they existed until this. Your attacking of me is extremely hurtful.
Thank you for the compassion shown to me by the first three commenters.
Melinda
IMHO: if a person continues to engage the devil,
are they not making their own choices?
I made the choice, for years, to stay bonded with the
animal that has devoured MY LIFE through manipulation.
I know what that is all about and up until now, I had
always prided myself in being able to ‘read’ someone
pretty well. I never saw this coming. I was completely
blind sided and ‘in love’. Yah, right: it was all lies. Lies
that I sucked right into.
I made the choice to walk away from the lies and the twisted sickness. I am happy you made the choice too, Melinda.
I am sorry you are ill coming through this too! I had a major heart attack right in the midst of being stalked for going on ten years by an obsessed psychopath. It has been hard climbing out of the hole.
I have lived with death threats, all kinds of verbal abuse, cyber stalking, you name it.
It took me a couple years to plug the holes but seems to be working great NOW.
Today marks the beginning of two weeks there has not been an incident.
I am absolutely amazed.
However, I am not easily tricked into a false sense of
being safe, at no time, no how, no way. I know what
I have dealt with.
I wish you well with your health Melinda.
I am sorry you feel criticized. You aren’t.
Least not by me. I will pray for you on your journey.
Hang in there and keep the faith that all things do work
out, sooner or later, the way they are meant to be.
If you already KNOW your hand is going to get burned
when you thrust it into the fire, why would you continue
perpetuating the source of the ugliness is exactly right.
That is why I withdrew myself from the emotional stance
in all of this and now am using logic to sift through the
remnants. LOGIC as “I” see it and not as the ppath does.
I completely DO understand how that ‘mind control’ works,
Melinda. Absolutely. I liken it to the same kind of control
that Charles Manson had over his followers.
We aren’t victims any more.
We are survivors, Melinda.
Be well ~
Dupey
I have been bedridden since Dec 2011, the trauma destroyed my adrenal glands.
Sorry you don’t understand, thank you for insulting me more.
Boards like this offer more sadism just like my abuser heaps on me.
I wish someone would remove this post. This is very cruel to subject me to this.
I cannot get any medical care. I fall through all the safety net programs. Most friends cannot deal with the intensity of my situation. I have very no one to call.
A new development is some cousins may let me move in with them in New Hampshire, this will be my first offer of help. I will leave.
I have never chosen to stay with him. I literally had no where to go. Sorry you don’t understand
mindy: sorry you took offense to my post.
no offense was intended at all.
I, myself, had been bed ridden from my heart surgeries,
for almost two years. I am JUST NOW starting to get
myself and my health back together.
I don’t understand? Hm?
What about the two years I have been hiding in
the shadows, trying to duck murder attempts?
That’s not understanding?
I don’t understand what it is like being physically sick and right on the verge of dying from medical issues and dealing with a psychopath all at the same time; hm?
I never intended any insult to you at all. Everyone here on this board knows that is not me at all. Perhaps you are looking for a spat? This is not the place for a spat because we all help one another here, whether we like the words or not, sometimes. If I had not found this board, I probably would not be sitting here breathing and writing this to you.
If you are not happy with what goes on here, I am sorry and don’t know what to tell you but it sure beats NOTHING which is just about what survivors like us usually find in the way of back up in the world.
We find that back up and validation here.
I lived for a year without medical care after my heart attack and two subsequent surgeries. I begged, borrowed and STOLE my life back. The end hospital bill was $196,000 dollars. With no insurance. I think perhaps you are over reacting to my post. I am sorry YOU are so judgmental of people you don’t even know. We all have our own stories which deserve respect. We are all survivors now. We stop being the victim the moment we realize we are being made a victim.
The road of the psychopath MUST end.
We must help it cease the perpetuation in our lives.
It isn’t something we can purchase, borrow or steal.
It’s inside of us.
Take care of yourself.
I will pray for you and your journey.
Dupey
Mindy, I do get it. I get it because I left my family and friends to move to another State to be with my Xhusband after knowing him for only 5 months…six weeks of those he was at sea…I brought two young daughters with me, and as soon as I was in his lair, he began critisizing, belittling and beating me up.
All these things….the idealization….the promise of the great love of one’s life, and then the betrayal…the falling through of that promise, and the confusion and the need to understand what happened, the willingness to take the blame in order to preserve the belief in him, and then the gas-lighting and the dread D and D, along with the extreme power imbalance, creates the “trauma bond” that is essentially an addiction.
YOU ARE BOTH ADDICTED to the drama and chaos, and you are feeding the fire…as long as you continue to play this game thinking you will have revenge, or whatever it is that is driving you, you are under his thumb. Sorry, but you are encouraging this hyper drama-rama, perhaps unwittingly…..when you get sick and tired enough of being sick and tired, you’ll chose no contact. Rest assured, it hasn’t been a pleasant or easy chopice for any of us. Most of us hung on through the shit, and then hung on through the fight, thinking we could emerge the victor in the fray….ah, no. Not worth the wasted energy.
I think the folks here are just wondering why you continue to fight….it seems irrational after all you’ve told us.
Wishing you the best.
mindykellogg,
I’ve read parts of your website. I’m sorry you got involved with a psychopath and bedridden because of it; I’m sorry for anyone ever getting involved with them and having to go through so much pain.
You are still very very raw. I understand the attempt to expose him for what he did. I exposed the spath on websites meant to do this. I never faulted myself for doing that, but at some point in my healing process I realized that it only meant I created some type of bond toward him still, which by then I wanted gone. At the same time I started being contacted left and right by his enablers and eventually himself to get rid of it. And I held on to it some longer because I was not removing it after attempts of manipulation and threats. Eventually I told him I’d consider deleting it if he asked me personally and most of all politely, and he had only one chance to do so before I’d block his email. He grabbed the chance, and ever since he’s been out of my life, and I think for good.
Anyway, I completely understand the primal motivation to expose him, especially since he’s a public figure. But I do think you are sabotaging your own healing this way. I also found it very painful for yourself how you feel the need to display all of your life. Not that you have anything to be ashamed of, but it shows how misunderstood you feel, how much you feel you have to prove yourself. Unfortunately it often has the opposite effect. The more we explain ourselves, defend ourselves, expose ourselves and hope to prove that we are sane, the more we expose ourselves for others to trample all over us again, and people will do this. It’s a boundary lesson, because when we ask people to judge our lives in this way, they will judge our lives often not positively. Instead we get empowered when we decide that we are good enough to judge our own life and the hell with those who doubt our integrity.
I wish you all the healing you need for as long as you need, physically, stressfully and emotionally! I hope you find a practical solution to move as far as you can from this creep, and most of all I wish you NO CONTACT in all its form.