Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a man whom we’ll call Sam22. He describes his experience of sociopaths bullying the disabled.
I met a sociopath in New Orleans. It requires a lot of details to explain such a complicated and long story. Basically I was looking for someone to help me with a move to California. He drove a moving truck for me.
I knew nothing about his long criminal record (in several states). I also was unaware that he was wanted by the city of New Orleans. That would be the last thing I would suspect anyway since he attacked me and the police did nothing about it there.
Became roommates
So there was a series of violent unmanageable incidents with him as we traveled and while we became roommates upon arrival in California. I felt like I was getting in deeper and deeper financially and he promised he would “soon be paying me back everything,” but tomorrow never comes with him. All you ever get is increased exploitation.
He was still envious of me even though I was covering 100% of the rent and food and everything. For instance, I got a new laptop. He cut the cord. He was a physical bully. Once at about 5 am he started getting highly aggressive and intimidating because he wanted yet more money. Usually I succumbed because I had issues with fatigue and he could outlast me.
Tricked me into signing for a car
The stress and constant onslaught got so bad that I started disassociating. I could no longer think or function appropriately. He took advantage of my state of mind by taking me to the car dealership. I was standing by him and the dealer. He wanted a new Jeep and once again he promised me he would get a job and pay me back. I told both the dealer and him that I didn’t want to sign any papers that would make me responsible for him. So I had that understanding in mind when I signed for the vehicle.
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The minute I signed for it, he got a job, never paid me a cent for vehicle, rent nor food and drove away with the vehicle to Sacramento to work in a what I call a murder dive bar … full of people who were just like him.
I failed to mention that he also broke all my apartment rules… bringing strangers over for drugs and debauchery. He was very animal like. He was HIV positive and never shared that with whoever he sleeps with. He also mimics them. And he usually manages to steal their wallets to attempt financial fraud, and he is actually serving five years of hard labor in a Louisiana prison at this moment for stealing two cars which landed him with probation and then stealing someone’s credit/debit card which gave him the prison sentence.
Sociopaths bullying the disabled
I was groomed by his sociopathic mother into believing that she was a victim. I had some money left and she wanted it, so she invited me to live with her in Maine. When I arrived I discovered she had a whole house full of elderly and disabled people. I didn’t immediately see it for what it really was as it fit her narrative of mother hen, and she also had a photo framed on the wall of “altruistic work” in Connecticut.
But she and her lesbian partner bullied all the disabled people (including me as time went on) for money. These types are so greedy. They want you to give them everything till your blood runs dry and then they discard you. They were also doing bait and switch scams. They would tell a disabled person that they needed a new television. They would get the $300 from them, go down to the store and buy a new TV. When they got home, they put the new TV in their bedroom and gave them their old TV. Essentially the disabled person got junk for $300 and they got a brand new TV.
I went to the store. She pushed all her items on the checkout for me to pay for … a cart full. Such audacity!
Calling the authorities
I revolted against their tyranny and abuse the following morning by dialing 911. The police came. Some of the disabled people were more like flying monkeys. They had cried and begged for my sympathy before but did a volt face upon the arrival of the police. I was put in a police car with one officer who was very demanding with me and I tried to tell him what was happening he told me “Shut up and stop the psychobabble!”
I have been abused by outlying people throughout this ordeal as well as by them. It’s a harsh world. I called a crisis line and they intervened. They forced the police to deliver a notice that they didn’t have a license to operate a house in this manner. Eventually they ended up trying to sue the city and police but I gave them information by email.
The people in their small town and church think of me as the evil one (I have been referred to as such) and they are wonderful. The people here are xenophobic so me not being a native plays a role in that.
Seeking counseling
I was toxic for so long. It almost destroyed me. I did receive counseling. I have rarely felt heard. Just piling on more damage.
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I must be strong to endure it all — sociopaths bullying the disabled. They labeled me as “paranoid personality disorder” and even sent a message to my family medical doctor saying that I am delusional. All that I have said is paper documented. It is all further gaslighting.
As a person on disability I feel like we are the most gaslit and abused segment of the population and there is no recourse … we simply have to bear it as no one believes in the validity of what we say … not even when I go to the family doctor, and certainly not when they believe I am delusional to begin with.
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