Woman meets guy online. Woman decides guy is not for her. Guy doesn’t want to hear it. Guy wants wants to meet her RIGHT NOW to hug her neck. Woman doesn’t respond. Guy promises the greatest love ever. Woman tells guy to STOP. Guy ramps up the attention.
Read the entire audacious interaction, complete with the guy saying it was all a joke, at womenexplode.com.
Ashamed? I did nothing to be ashamed of..
Quite the opposite..
I acted responsibly at every turn.
And I didn’t ‘try’ to end it. I ended it!
And only if you stop interacting with the world is the only way to completely avoid tripping over this…
I put this out there for others to see..
Were I ‘ashamed’ I wouldn’t have…
And Texas is where this occurred..
And this man is out there and he appears fine.. nice appearance, published book, children and lives in an upscale area.. that is all you can know until you know more…
You can google him and it shows his book..
Sure none of this means anything.. Charlie Sheen is a well-known actor and look at him..
But it is what it is..
Skylar,
I have noticed on this site.. wars begin.. there is so much hurt and anger in some.. And I understand and am compassionate..But it is too intense..
You can be friendly to anyone and have it turn wierd..
The greatest person can turn bad.. so what do you do fold up..
I am out going, social and am not going to become a paranoid, mouse, ‘vetting’ everyone.. you use your common senses as best you can.. and I followed my gut when it mattered..
At first, I thought this man could be a business email.. I have so much interaction … I wasn’t focused on him.. I had forgotten about even calling him…
I mean whoop de do..
I put something out to assist others and only on here am I being lambasted.. like I am so stupid and unaware…when that is not the case..
read his emails .. see how twisted…
That is the awareness… I had three emails if that and one five minute conversation and cut it off…
Sorry if that comes off as so stupid.. Geez! Why attack me..?
Look at yourself and ask that.. is it because you are perhaps angry at yourself.. for your own choices..
This incident was just that to me.. I crossed paths with a sick man..
it could happen again.. to anyone of us.. sure be aware.. but not parsnoid so you forget how to live…
I’ll stick with the standard ….there, there dear- poor poor you.
style, i did not mean to imply that YOU were ashamed. I said that in a general manner. Shame often accompanies having been hoodwinked ( this is not to say that YOU are ashamed again, it is a general feeling that we have all experienced here on LF after the sociopath. There’s no politics to the feeling, it just is an unfortunate side effect… one of the many feelings which arrive with being involved with an Spath). It was not directed at you personally.
Needless to say, I did not mean to encroach on your feelings about the matter, I just wanted to say it wasn’t your fault. Being that I know very little about the actual situation, it wouldn’t be my place to make any assumptions anyway, which I don’t believe I’ve made. That said, I still hold zero conceptions about your situation, was just trying to offer support as it appeared that you might have felt threatened by the feedback you were receiving ( which I did not read and thus cannot form a personal opinion on) .
Since you feel that I’ve offended you, you are not obligated to take my posts into consideration. Feel free to ignore them. I will refrain from responding and/or making comments to/concerning your situation.
Also, I have many friends and other exchanges that are great in my life.. and take risks and interact everyday…
this was a blip.. and I shared it.. glean from it .. or not…
There is no ‘poor poor’ me.. what a tacky come back..reminds me a bit like the stalker..
I have a great life..
I am very blessed… I am just sharing an interaction..
I get ‘red flags’ everyday from everyone.. and I put them in my awareness file.. . some manifest into cutting them off.. most don’t..
we all give out signals.. it’s perception and gut.. and you know when you know…
I wouldn not do anything differently if I had it to do over.. he is a sick man.. I think actually bi-polar.. and we have them everywhere.. even in Congress..
http://blog.womenexplode.com/2010/12/16/confidence-or-arrogance-know-the-difference.aspx
nancy,
there is old stuff going on here, not anything to do with the recent posts.
DeJaVu all over again.
Style,
when I first realized I was being spathed. I felt the despair that he wanted me to feel. But I knew exacly what he wanted me to feel so I said NO! I will win. Not the spath.
then, I found this prayer.
It was one of my salvations because I realized that the hook he had on me was ME.
And I also realized that those hooks were already on him, that’s why he was so familiar with them. He was like a fish that got away but took the hooks with him.
here is the prayer:
Litany of Humility
Written by Cardinal Merry del Val. He was accustomed to recite this prayer daily after the celebration of Holy Mass.
O Jesus meek and humble of heart, Hear me.
From the desire of being esteemed,
From the desire of being loved,
From the desire of being extolled,
From the desire of being honored,
From the desire of being praised,
From the desire of being preferred to others,
From the desire of being consulted,
From the desire of being approved,
Deliver me, Jesus.
From the fear of being humiliated,
From the fear of being despised,
From the fear of suffering rebukes,
From the fear of being calumniated,
From the fear of being forgotten,
From the fear of being ridiculed,
From the fear of being wronged,
From the fear of being suspected,
Deliver me, Jesus.
That others may be loved more than I,
That others may be esteemed more than I,
That in the opinion of the world, others may increase, and I may decrease,
That others may be chosen and I set aside,
That others may be praised and I unnoticed,
That others may be preferred to me in everything,
That others may become holier than I, provided that I become as holy as I should,
Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it. Amen.
Style,
I hope that it inspires you as it did me.
St. Michael the archangel defeated Lucifer. I began to understand that he did it like Clark Kent did it. But not like Superman did it. That is what GRAY ROCK is all about. Be boring. it makes them go away.
Donna – is the search function ever going to function again?
Love your prayer, Skylar! Thanks. It reminds me of this:
“Self-centered fear is the primary activator of ALL my charactor defects.”
Fear of not getting what I want, or losing what I already have.
Faith instead of fear….and gratitude!
thanks Kim,
I went to the link about borderline makes yesterday. That was a great read.