Advice for women not involved with sociopaths

In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.

The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.

In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.

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Oxy-I am going to try to get them to do it. That’s why I gotta go to a clinic.

Hens-yes she loved the dozen red roses. I was afraid that she was going to throw them out after I told her last night since I transferred the elephant from my chest to hers. I helped her carry her things in tonight and they were still sitting right there on the coffee table-I was relieved and just so relieved that she’s still my friend-that means the world to me and she was right about her being sort of a maternal figure to me-she would have been a great mom. I can’t promise I won’t be emotional if I leave on Friday, but it will be ok.

I don’t even know what to say about the job situation. Another neighbor said a pray for me out loud right in the middle of the street this evening, and she said where GOD closes a door, he opens another one up instead. It reminds me of the quote that the lovely Julie Andrews said in the Sound of Music-“when GOD closes a door, somewhere he opens a window”.

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