In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.
The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.
In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.
Read Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim on CNN.com.
Ox Drover
I did quit smoking, but they have these huge green worms with red horns on their butts and they eat tomato plants…they come out when itis cooler and are on the bottom of the stem of a leaf, and they are the exact color of the plant so they are hard to see…you have to look for their little black globs of poop then look up to find them, so morning and night just before total darkness I scour the plants looking for the worms.
I’ve never seen them on hot pepper plants before but have found 3 on the hot pepper plants this year….they are the size of my thumb and twice as long—hateful things. I feed them to the ducks.
Hey it doesn’t take a date to entertain me! Lizzy you just need some tomato plants so you can pull worms and kill em, it is VERY THERAPUTIC!
Yea, EB, one snow flake and me and Katy are gone! We don’t do no snow shoveling! NONE, ZILCH, ZERO, NADA~ HATEFUL THINGS!
ElizabethBennett
Oxy-snow shoveling is actually a great way to burn calories and it”s quite a workout. I am always sore after I do it. It’s been 4 years since I done it though-no snow in NOLA
My snowball wasn’t such a great idea either-tasty as it was cuz I got too much sugar in me and now I’m itchin and sneezin and it wasn’t even the best snowball. I’ve had much better.
Ana
Dear Elizabeth Bennett,
LOLOL; snowball is not the best you’ve had. That cracks me up!! Tell me, was it blue?
(hugs) Ana
Ana
Elizabeth Bennett,
Please read “Dakota, a Spiritual Geography” I forget who it’s written by. A woman who was from NYC moved to Lemon, SD. Taught school in a one room school house, meditated with the local monks/priest. VERY good book.
Ana
ElizabethBennett
Ana-no it was red. It was nectar but usually nectar is more pink than red. It was from a place I’d never been before. The best places are on the other side of the river and I didn’t want to drive far just to get one. They had very limited flavors. I like the ones that are flavored like non-alcholic drinks-like mojito, cosmo,hurricane. Those are the good ones.
Louise
Star:
Good to see you back!!! We have had some discussions about Casey Anthony going free. UGGHHH.
candy
Star – helllllo. Good to see you. Dating eh? And Spanish classes?
One Step and I have had the same problem with the anger issue this last week. The guys on here say it’s normal. It felt good and bad all at the same time. Like PMT on a really bad day!! I’m glad those feelings have passed.
So pleased that you have your internet up and running again, welcome back.
Louise
Star:
No, I have a ton of anger. It’s getting a bit better, but it is there. I have had it for quite awhile now. I try to deal with it in healthy ways…exercising a lot mostly, but also unhealthy ways like driving way too fast. I’m not sure why, but it gets my aggressions out, but yesterday I almost got pulled over. The guy in front of me got pulled over instead! I was doing almost 80 and I have a really small car (will surely die if I ever hit something) and the guy in front of me was in a huge Cadillac Escalade. He obviously was speeding also or would not have gotten pulled over, but I feel like he saved me. I said a prayer for him. Anyway, my anger is there…I just try to deal with it however I can. I am glad you are doing it by going to therapy. I went to therapy once for just two sessions and it was useless. I just don’t seem to have the energy for it and right now don’t have the extra money either as I am self insured right now with a huge deductible.
Ana
Hi Stargazer,
Glad you got some counseling…sounds good to let out all that anger physically. I hope you can continue for another six sessions. Sounds as if your personal life is going good too! Keep in touch!
ElizabethBennett
Star-I’m so glad you’re back. I gotta talk to you about things.