In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.
The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.
In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.
Read Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim on CNN.com.
Louise
BBE:
So true. The OW in triangulation is a lying narcissist so I knew what I was dealing with (after awhile), but with sociopaths, they are just too cunning.
ElizabethBennett
I just did a phone interview for that job in Missouri and I think it went very well-crossing my fingers 🙂
Back_from_the_edge
WTG EB! I will be rooting for you! ::GO TEAM:: 🙂
OW in triangulation a lying narcissist…imagine that….
are we talking about the same DEMON? Hmmm?
I RAN OUT OF the triangulation…actually, it was more like …
how would you say: EIGHT-ANGULATION? That’s right…
funny the things time reveals to us; isn’t it?
Do you think when they are starting to realize their goose is cooked; I mean TRULY DONE, that they choose, consciously, to hook up with another demon JUST LIKE THEM for the protection?
I mean, think about that. At least together, the gene pool will be decreased….they deserve one another.
GOOD LUCK EB….keep us posted!
:::GO TEAM:::
DUPED
ElizabethBennett
thanks DUPED, now I am just really uneasy and scared about how it’s going to be to leave. I am feeling so confused and sad right now about the whole situation. I have been so let down since last night. I am in mourning.
behind_blue_eyes
Duped;
Sociopaths almost never cut ties until another target is in site.
EB;
I hope you get that job and the time away gives you clarity with your situation.
Back_from_the_edge
Right blue eyes…they don’t like cutting ties unless YOU ARE ON TO THEM and CUT THEM FOR THEM! That’s alright…the 8th OW can have it. Lots of luck to ya sister~ 🙂 Good riddens to bad rubbish!
****EB**** Go for it; put your big girl britches on like hens always says and go for it. I am so proud of you. I will NEVER stay in a place where it is so chaotic and depressing…I am with ya 1000%! Let me know how it goes EB; I am very proud of you.
DUPED
Back_from_the_edge
The only real way past the hurt and the harm that has been done to us is to LIVE LIFE! xxoo
Back_from_the_edge
yes! You do that blue eyes…..
Yes, the best justification is our taking care of ourselves and not letting “IT” get to us….we are better than this.
Have fun for me too! xxoo
ElizabethBennett
thanks guys, the 3 months away will probably do me some good but right now I just HURT. I am angry at myself for falling for her and angry at her for being an narcissist and at the same time mourning and grieving over her. I feel like crying and it sure it will happen some time before the end of the day. It’s going to hurt to leave her-and now the tears are coming. I know it sounds crazy but I’m going to miss her so bad. THese Ns can be so loveable when they wanna be and so intoxicating. I don’t know how I’m going to maintain a stiff upper lip when I say goodbye to her. It’s gonna hurt so bad.
Back_from_the_edge
EB, my thoughts and wishes are with you.
Just remember you are doing the right thing for yourself.
It will give you time to clear your head and think things through.
Narcissists are just themselves – we either accept it or we don’t. It’s that simple. As for myself, there is no way I am EVER going back to that ugly nightmare and although it has been difficult making this break, once and for all, I JUST KNOW I am going to be a better, calmer, happier person without all the drama and stress. YOU CAN DO IT EB!
Just think: peace and no stress for a while!
It will be like a vacation.
Always here EB….
DUPED