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In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.

The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.

In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.

Read Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim on CNN.com.

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  1. Stargazer

    Lizzy, what do you have to lose by just telling her? What is the worst that could happen? You have already decided to have nothing to do with her again. It couldn’t be any worse than that, could it?

  8. Shalom

    ElizabethBennett:
    Many years ago my very best friend of 10 years came out to me. Coming out would not have changed very much in this close friendship, however that was not the case.
    For years we had worked together in a very dangerous job, double dated, had a little business together and shared most of our free time together.
    I had just started a new relationship and was crazy in love and lust. When I started receiving love cards and little gifts in my mail box I thought it was my new love. When I thanked him for all the surprise delights he told me he was not the sender. Yikes!! I told my bestfriend and was blown away by her answer. It was she. She confessed that she had always loved me and could not risk losing me to my new boyfriend. Of course I I felt she was confused by love of friendship and told her so. She immediately set me straight about any thoughts of ‘confusion’ reminding me of her psychology degree. I was so shocked because she had a 10 year relationship with a married man, who was her mechanic and and sugar daddy. She explained he was just that, someone who took care of her. Everything came to light and I felt duped and lied to. Hurt, anger and loss all at once. I wanted to go back to the way it was. That was not an option. My bestfriend said she had waited long enough and it was either or.
    Looking back, I remember how it was me who was shocked, bewildered and beyond sad. She stood her ground and showed no emotions at all. This is what crushed me. Why did she not just value the awesome friendship. It took me a very long time to heal. I felt betrayed.

  9. ElizabethBennett

    It looks like they are going to offer me the job-my branch manager called this morning. I don’t have details yet, so they will be forthcoming, although I will probably be starting next week.

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