In the wake of Weinergate, CNN posted an article entitled, Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim. Abedin, of course, is Anthony Weiner’s wife, who I’m sure was, at the very least, embarrassed by the scandal, and perhaps angry enough to consider divorce.
The article quotes a couple of authors telling women to choose not to be victims. Instead, women should choose to define their own happiness. Oh, there are a couple of caveats—the advice doesn’t apply to women who fear for their safety or are facing financial ruin. But there is no discussion of what to do when your relationship is so emotinally abusive that you are psychologically traumatized.
In short, this story offers advice for women coping with infidelity whose partners are not sociopaths. Which is fine—these women need advice as much as anyone. But the article also reinforces society’s “just get over it” attitude, which makes life difficult for women dealing with true exploitation.
Read Stop calling Huma Abedin a victim on CNN.com.
Back_from_the_edge
Congratulations Liz! 🙂
I am very proud of you!!!
HOW EXCITING!!!!
A new job!!! A new life!!! xxoo
Keep us posted and let us know how it all goes.
I am sooooooooooooo majorly ‘rooting’ for you!
Dupedster
Hope to heal
YAY LIZZY!!! I’m very happy for you 😀
candy
Star – you little minx! What’s wrong with him coming over for sex!! LMAO. Good luck. Stick with your gut feelings and if it doesn’t FEEL right walk away. Have fun.
ElizabethBennett
Thanks ya’ll. I am waiting on all the details but I am still really scared and I’m sad-at least not crying like yesterday. I don’t want to leave her, and I can’t help it. I feel a huge hole in my heart and I hate it. I’m going to miss her so much.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
star – did he have an accent? if he makes excuses to not come up – if things come up, or things start to go wrong in his life and he gets illl, etc…..let me know. ‘high voice’ for a guy, great humour, lots of online haha before phone connection reminds me a lot of someone i know, who you definitely don’t want to. sign me, paranoid and cautious.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
shalom – I understand your feelings of betrayal. A close friendship with some many components is like a marriage – and to have something kept from you for so long, would make your relationship feel a lie.
I understand why it would be hard for someone in her position to stay friends after revealing her desire for a sexual relationship – in some cases it just is too hard, it hurts too much and you just can’t. Although you lost 2 times in this case: the memory of your relationship and the chance to have her as a friend, i think it was for the best. Her relationship with her married man and provider would make me question her ethics. I have sympathy for people who are closeted, but using another person for money, not so much.
skylar
Lizzy,
don’t come out to her. You now realize that she is a beautiful, adorable and TOXIC person to you. If for no other reason than the fact that she throws you on an emotional rollercoaster. There is no point in giving her ammunition by telling her more about your personal life. Narcs are dangerous, don’t tell her any more than you already have. They don’t hesitate to use it against you if you ever “cross” them.
Besides, it doesn’t seem like she is gay. If she was, you would know by now, right? She isn’t going to turn for you at her age. And she isn’t going to stop being a narc either.
MoonDancer
Hi Shalom – How’s Henry doing? 🙂
FightAnotherDay
It seems to me, the “just get over it attitude” is prevalent in the justice system.
ElizabethBennett
BUMMED AND PISSED-my job offer may be rescinded tomorrow thanks to my good ole POS employer